How do you get your 4 year old to be nice to her 3 month old brother?

Kendra - posted on 02/22/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is 4 and i recently had a little boy who is 3 months old while in the car she will reach in and pinch his had to make him cry, Then i caught her hitting him in the face with a pillow. She continues to hurt him all the time. HELP


Amber - posted on 02/22/2010




She is just jealous, let her help you as much as you can. let her have a step stool at your changing table and have her help with bathing and changing his diapers. like let her put the powder on him. even have her in the bath with his tub and let her wash his hair. it will make her feel like she is apart of it and not sitting on the side lines while her brother gets all the attention. I have four kids and my oldest is ADHD and has a mood disorder, so I know it is hard but keep a sharp eye out on her. kids dont understand that bad things came happen. let her know what can happen if she hits him in the face. go to the library and fine a book and being a big sister and read it to her that might help to. hope i helped you, good luck.


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Jessica - posted on 02/22/2010




I agree totally my son is almost 4 and my new baby is 5 months old. I had a few issues until i started letting him help asking him to fetch diapers and wipes, Bring his brother a toy and letting him play with his brothers toys. Also i ask him to help me make the baby laugh just include her as much as possible but try and set aside a little time each day just you and her time. as my boys have different bed times right now i read to the oldest one every night after the baby is in bed. Good luck hope some of this helps.

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