how do you stop a 1 year old from doing what he wants ang not what you want?


Robyn - posted on 02/11/2009




Quoting Dion:

how do you stop a 1 year old from doing what he wants ang not what you want?

Time Out. With a 1 y/o, you have to hold him on your lap and basically bear hug him, telling him that what he was doing was appropriate, and that he's going to sit with you for a few minutes while he calms down.

He may not understand the words, but he'll get the idea. My friend's son started saying, "That's not appropriate" when he'd start to misbehave. 

You also have to re-direct and be consistent about it. Consistency is the key. So, if he's playing with toys he's not supposed to play with, you have to get them completely out of the way and offer something else.

If he hits or bites, make him realize that doing that hurts. We always had Jack give the person he hurt a hug and sign sorry. It worked for another friend of ours too. Now, in general, don't hit or bite back. I have to admit though, that there was one day when I was bitten by my almost 2 y/o, 3 times. So I took his hand and slapped it, and said, "That hurts." He cried and I hugged him and said I was sorry for doing that, but he needed to understand what "hurts" means. He pretty much stopped biting after that. I've not slapped his hand again, and we don't hit at all. 

Hope this helps!


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