how do you try to get your child to stop back talking to you!?

Amara - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 3year old back talks me all the time.. or when i tell or ask him to do something he tell me no you do it... what could i do to make him not act this way ...??? is it normal for him to talk to me this way


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CRYSTAL - posted on 05/13/2010




i agree....just keep reminding him of how you would like him to talk to you....when my daughter asks for something without saying please we say to her "what do you say" and she will usually promptly say please....and after she gets something if she doesnt say thank you again we say "what do you say" and she will then say thank you....she usually always remembers now! as far as saying "no" or "you do it" that is them learning to assert themselves and think of how often we say "no" to them....its a part of them learning to be independant. when it is an inapropriate time for my daughter to say that to us we just say "that wasnt very nice, you make me sad when you act this way. please say youre sorry and give me a hug." usually works!

Suzie - posted on 05/12/2010




You should also pay attention to how other people in the house speak to each other. He may be learning the behavior from someone at home. Or it could just be the horrendous threes!

Arati - posted on 05/04/2010




Absolutely normal. They should rename terrible two - to horrendous three! Two was bliss :) But you will just have to keep on correcting him. He is learning lots of things and yes he might be in a hurry and not remember to use everything you taught him. You will just have to be patience and keep reminding him.

Marcy - posted on 05/04/2010




I think at the age of 3 we need to remember that they are still working out their language skills. That being said, its up to you to correct them when they are not properly asking for something or when their response is not appropriate. With my son when he demands something I use the phrase 'I think we missed a word in there why don' t you ask me again." or when he is being demanding or telling me "No, you do it." my response is always "I don't like the way you are talking to mommy when you are ready to be nice let me know." then don't give in. Its important to remember that they are learning manners so often times I find that while on my eyes he may be asking for something the wrong or demanding it, he may need some help with his language skills. If he is still stuggling after a few minutes then I will get donw at his level and say to him "Do you need help figuring out how to ask for what you need?". If this is not the case chances are he is just ready to have a moment and I leave him alone until his funk is over.

Yes, its perfectly normal.

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