How have you taught your toddler child to be giving to the needy or suffering

Michele - posted on 05/03/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My daughter is three and half years old and I believe ready to start with some age appropriate lessons in charity and good works. I need some ideas on how to do this as this is my first. We do not belong to a church and I realize this would be a good first step--so other than that any suggestions?

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Ellyn - posted on 05/05/2011

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I think you need to start from the base and always have them be conscious of other people above themselves in every action that they perform. Sharing and being observant of ones surroundings are key. It's the reminder to be quiet in the library and WHY, why not to run around in the middle of the grocery store, and to share your cookies at lunch with the kid next to you because they're their favorites. Once you have a foundation of being considerate of others it helps them to help others. I think too many people help others because they use it as bragging rights. It's not just about helping those less fortunate. It's about helping EVERYONE. Making one person smile is making a difference - it's not just donating food, money, etc.

I hope that made sense. I know it would to my husband but we read each others minds :)

But I like the idea of your child going through old toys. As long as a clear explanation of why and where it's going. My exposure to three/four year olds makes me think that the underlying message in this action will probably be missed by your daughter but if you plant a seed in twenty years it can turn into a nice big tree for dozens to enjoy the shade :)

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Patricia - posted on 05/10/2011

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When i weed the toys, books and clothes, I explain to my 3 year old that we are passing them along to other kids who will love them and he gets to choose what he gives. Then, I take him with me to deliver them.

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Children learn best from the examples they grow up with. That means, if you don't give freely to others, then don't expect your child to do it... So, in short, practice what you wish your child to do... God bless.

Natalie - posted on 05/09/2011

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My daughter is 2 and a half, and I've already taught her to share her things... specially with the needy. Every once in a while, we pick up some of her clothes that don't fit anymore and toys (everything in good shape, not broken or stained things!), pack them up and bring them to an orphanage, she can give them away herself and she gets to see all the happy faces of the kids and gets all the thanks!
She is happy, I am happy and the other kids are happy! it's a win-win situation!

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2011

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What's HTH? Good ideas (: LOL most of it'll have to wait until I get a job or something as I'm not as able to help others as I once was, but, good ideas. And yes, elderly people do love to see not just the little ones, but people in general. They, sadly, are often forgotten in their old age by many of their family, etc.

Christina - posted on 05/04/2011

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Absolutely! And old folks love to see little ones. But I'm sure the regular hospital has a children's ward/unit. And if you don't want to spend alot of money or don't know what oldies need, make some diabetic cookies or sugarfree cookies, your little one can help. Or even find out if there are any oldies who don't have family (by calling the NH), they can give you a run down on the policy for baked goods as well. HTH!

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2011

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I like that children's hospital idea....we only have a regular one here, but I'm pretty sure that you could also do that for an old folks home or something.

Christina - posted on 05/04/2011

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We started a few years ago with donating toys that my DD (3yrs and 3 months) chose to give away to a needy family. This year will be finding out what needs the Ronald McDonald House in our area needs for the families and donating. Also taking presents to the children's hospital.

Christine - posted on 05/04/2011

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When I take my 2yr old son to the store with me and they have the march of dimes donations goin or things like that I give my son a dollar and ask him if he wants to help the kids in need and he says yes and gives the dollar to the checker then gets to write his name on the paper to hang up it os somethin small but they are always good causes

Donna - posted on 05/04/2011

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donating toys. I realized my girls dont play with 80% or their toys so i told them that i was giving them away to kids that didnt have any toys

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2011

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OH, you could even have her donate some of her toys rather than buying one.

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2011

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Have her pick out a toy she really likes and donate it to Goodwill.
Take some canned goods or non perishable foods out of the pantry (let her help you choose some and she cannot just choose veggies lol) and donate it to the homeless shelter.
At Christmas time if there is a Salvation Army tree or such in your area choose a child that is her age and have her help you get things for the child and hand them over.
I did the tree thing for the first time last year even though I couldn't really afford it lol and I sought out the ones that were asking for simple things (wanted to make sure they were in need of the help) and one 15 month old they were asking for clohtes! They didn't put any other option or any toy, SO I bought a 6 different outfits (onesies, long sleeve onesies, footed sleepers) and went out and bought a big mega block trucks with some mega blocks in it.
Hope this helps, as it's just ideas.

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