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How long did it take for your baby to get on a set sleeping schedule?

Christina - posted on 12/22/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )




My son is 17 months old now and fights his sleep. He never asleep by 11pm. Any suggestions?


Katka - posted on 01/06/2011




My son is 21 months and he goes down at 7 every night since he was 6 months. I put him down and let him to cry if necessary. He got used to the routine pretty fast. He does take one nap now from 12-2 and I wake him up if he sleeps too long. never after 3 PM. If your baby is napping until 5 you can not expect him to go down at 7. Put him in his crib and he can sing and play with his toys but he should have quiet time alone. Since he is not used to go down early try 10 first and slowly make your way to 8 and you will have your own time to relax and he will get enough sleep. wake him up at 7 -8 am. They adjust to time changes better than I do. Ladies you need to get some rest too. You are making it hard on yourself if the baby stays up late. my baby would voluntarily stay up till midnight too as I saw on New years eve but you have to make this decision for him. You are in charge.

Kate - posted on 01/04/2011




Christina, I was like you with my little girl. It was really hard for us to be on a strict schedule because of my and my husbands schedules. We are both basketball coaches and teachers so in the summer we were out and about later, and in the winter we were out later as well. I was lucky to be able to stay at home with her part-time which also made for a later bedtime, as well as us getting up later in the morning simply because we didn't have to get up for anything.
That said, we finally realized that we had to cut out her nap. Now, she was a little over two before we realized the nap was what was causing her to go to bed so late. She is 3 1/2 now and takes no nap, if she did she wouldn't go to sleep until 11 or 12 at night. IT's so bad, that even a 20min snooze in the car will throw her off completely!! I would suggest cutting your little guy's nap into 1 1/2 hr - 2 hrs. It might sound short, but then he'll be more tired at night. Also, we limit anything suggary (sp??) after 4, including juice, fruit snacks, and even fruit. Our little girl is really sensitive to sugar. It did take us awhile to get her to stop naping, and still between 4-6 every night still can be a struggle. But it pays off when she's asleep by 8:30, or even 7:30 in the summer!!
DOn't stress if your little guy isn't on a strict sleep schedule. It's not the end of the world. As long as he is developing on track and eating right, he'll be just fine! I also believe that sleep schedules will all even out once he starts going to preschool and Kindergarten. When you have to be up early, he will just naturally be more tired at night.

Good luck!

Casey - posted on 12/30/2010




Yikes- you must be miserable! We started routine sleep schedules at 3 months or so w/ both our kids.
If you've never had a regular routine, then it may take some time to get on one.
Start by getting your son up at 7, then he should be ready for a nap by noonish for sure. Don't let him sleep past 3pm. (I have to get my kids up by 2:30 or bedtime turns into a battle w/ my 20m/o)
We do a regular routine of bath & quiet time that starts at 6:45ish & I am usually nursing my daughter to sleep by 7:45 or 8. My son gets into bed as soon as I get my daughter down. Then everyone up at 7am!
That works for us. It's loosely based on the Baby Whisperer method- check out the book. We also have incorporated some tequniques from "The No Cry Sleep Solution".
Without knowing exactly what your current routine is, I can't tell you specifically how to fix it, but I hope my advise helps!


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Davette - posted on 01/29/2012




At that age I agree schedule is important. I gave my daughter 2 naps then. She would get two hour to hour and half naps. The last one I wouldn't let her sleep past 4pm. That way at about 8:30 or 9 she was ready for bed. I would cut all noise out and lights and lay with her until she would fall asleep. Which I still have to do and she is 3,lol. Good luck!

JAYSMOMMY - posted on 01/03/2012




my daughter is almost 22 months and still isnt on a sleeping schelue. i also have a 1 month old. my 21 month old goes to sleep at 2 am and doesnt wake up till 1pm i dnt know what i am doing wrong that she still isnt on a sleeping scheldue. ive tried everything and its still not working. what should i do and i need the best advice that will work

Christina - posted on 01/04/2011




My babies are 17 months apart & I've had them on a sleep schedule pretty-much since birth. However, having a schedule, doesn't necessarily mean they stay asleep all night! My son didn't start sleeping through the night until he was 18 months old. He's now 20 months old & yes, my nerves are shot LOL

Our schedule looks like this: Sometime between 7 & 8, they wake up. Sometimes my son goes down for a nap at 9:30 if he's cranky & sleeps for about 30 minutes, but usually they both take one nap a day from about noon to 2:30. After their bath at 6:30, they're in bed at 7 EVERY night, whether we're home, traveling, whatever or everyone is miserable. Good luck!

Lynda - posted on 01/02/2011




I feel your pain! All these women have the absolute right answer for you, but I wanted to let you know you are not alone. My 12 month old just fell asleep moments ago and it is now 11pm! Of course every household has their different issues. We have a 4 year old special needs child whom the baby has to share a bedroom with. So, for us, having the baby cry himself to sleep is a huge issue when his brother is already asleep and needs to get up for school and long days of therapy. We have gotten into a terrible habit of rocking him sleep to the point where it is difficult to even lay him in his crib without him springing right back up. So, even though I know exactly what I am doing wrong, its so terribly hard to fix it!
My first son did have a much better schedule and it didn't take him long to learn to self soothe, and he still sleeps 7-7. I can only hope that everything works itself out with my second son!
Good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 12/31/2010




my daughter was about 8 months old when she was on a very regulated schedule. (naps and bed and waking up at the same time every day)
Basically, we just have the same routine all the time. She is almost 27 months now, and we have done the same thing since she was 6 months (with little bits of changes to suit her growing)
Ex - wakes around 7-8am (this has fluxuated, but never later than 9am and never earlier than 7)
Nap around 12:30 or 1 until 2 or 3 at the latest (again, this has changed, she was having 3 naps/day for less time when she was under a year, 2 naps at a year, and by 15 months or so, she was down to one nap a few hours long everyday)
Bed at 8pm (this has never changed since she was about 6 months)
She wakes at night still sometimes, but is easily put back to sleep (within mins) she hardly cries at night at all when we put her to bed. she actually puts herself down most nights.
my siuggestion is bascially, be as consistent as possible. move his bed time to earlier, toddlers need several hours of sleep BEFORE midnight to get thier proper sleep -
and dont deviate. just becuase he isnt falling asleep in his seat doesnt mean it isnt bed time. bed time is bed time no matter what. he WILL sleep because he WILL be tired. he's so young, he needs the sleeping time.
technically, at that age, he should be sleeping approx 12 hours at night and 2-3 hours in the day.

Brianna - posted on 12/30/2010




a child that age should be sleeping by 8 pm at night |(sleep for 12 hours) and should have a 2or3 hour nap. you need to check out this website they have lots of great videos with tips also theres a free sleep report all u do is fill in the age of ur kid ect and it tells u how much sleep they need ect. I think you need to start making a stricked night routine for exampe my 13month routine is supper, play for a little while, bath, snack, bottle, bed.

Susan - posted on 12/30/2010




Our daughter was also on a pretty good schedule from about 12 weeks when she started sleeping through the night. I agree with the other moms, make sure you have a routine and stick with it. The bath before bed is a good one as they will realize bed comes next. The other day I gave my daughter a bath in the morning and when I was dressing her, she asked if it was "nite nite" so she definitely associates the bath with bedtime. Also, after the bath, maybe read a book or something else quiet that will relax him. Or it can be anything that will start a routine. Also, as the other mom said, it might be time for some "cry it out". Our pediatrician said we could start letting our daughter cry for a short period of time at 2 months old so certainly by 17 months it's not going to hurt him. Eventually he will realize that he has to go to bed and there are no other options. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you are consistent and don't give in or he will realize he can get his way.

Hope - posted on 12/25/2010




I'm another's a good sample.

7-8am wake up
12:30-1:00 nap
3:00-4:00 wake up
7:00-7:30 bedtime

I know, I know...what if he cries...go in make sure he's ok, pat him, tell him you love him, and leave the room!!!! If he continues to cry let him for about 15 minutes....go in and check. Increase the amount of time you leave him if he cries Eventually they will go to sleep. It might seem like it's taking forever, but they will go to sleep. Two excellent books are Good Night Sleep Tight by Kim West, and Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child by Dr. Weissbluth. I have three boys 5, 3, and 15 months. I used both those books with each one. Good luck.

Jessica - posted on 12/23/2010




To be honest, mine was on a schedule from day one! Do the same routine every day and night. Naps at the same time, bed time at the same time. It might take a few days for him to get used to it, but he will fall into it. Babies and toddlers love having a routine, believe it or not. For an example, my 20 month old gets a bath every night before bed. If she doesn't, she gets a little upset because she knows that is her routine. Stick in there and stick with it!

Amy - posted on 12/23/2010




by 11??? That's pretty late for bedtime, I think. Unless you work some odd shift and he sleeps in to 10/11am every day. What are his naps like? Try to keep them under 3 hours during the day so he isn't getting TOO much sleep during the day and then wired for night. Generally a child that age should get 14 hours of total sleep a day. Maybe he's just OVER tired and exhausted if he can't be asleep by 11pm. Baby really does well with you setting a schedule and sticking to it. Don't let them stay up to 9 tonight, 11 tomorrow, 8 the next day.....they thrive on routine. Also, if he watched any tv, cut it off after naptime or lunchtime. That makes them run around and use their bodies so they are physically and mentally tired and READY to sleep.

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