How old is too old for a pacifier?

Erinn - posted on 03/29/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son, Noah, has had a special "paci" since the day he was born and now, 3 years later he treats it like it's a part of his body! My husband and I are not looking forward to the day we have to take it from him! I was just wondering how old most people will allow their children to use one?? I could really use some input on this, it's helped us through a lot of tough times since he was a baby and i'm not looking forward to having to take it from him!!

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Belinda - posted on 03/29/2009

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I would advise you to cut him down to bed time use only (Just to start)



Get him to put it under his pillow or at the top of his bed tell him to say goodbye to it and then begin the day. Each time he asks for it explain that it is in his bed and he can have it when he goes to sleep and that he is a big boy and doesn't need it through the day. Remind him that he said goodbye to it...



When he understands and is happy with having it for sleeps then try taking it away for the day sleep (if you still do)



When everything feels more manageable then there is a few of ways to remove it completely.



1 Have a pasi fairy who comes and collects it from him in the night. When you collect it leave some treat for him just like the tooth fairy.

2 Have Santa collect it (both 1 and 2 explain it goes to a baby on the other side of the world who really needs it and that he is a big boy now and no longer needs it...)

3 Tell him it is smelly and have him smell it, tell him it is yucky and have him put it in the bin and say good bye to it..



I warn you, you will get a bit of pressure on this a lot of people will tell you that it is bad for their teeth past 18months and many more things. DO NOT LET THEM GET YOU DOWN!!! You have done what it best for you and now you are doing what you feel needs to be done keep focused on the helpful stuff. My daughter is 21months she has it for sleep only at this stage and I am happy to keep this going.



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after 2 yrs i think it is ridiculous! also any longer i think the child and the parent will become codependent on them and misuse them...

Carolina - posted on 04/03/2009

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Mine too from the night he was born until I started to notice his teeth were starting to become affected, one day we just kind of hid them and when he would ask we would just change the subject and sure enough a few days later it was forgotten history.

Helen - posted on 04/03/2009

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lol i think we feel so pressured into doing things that we forget that even 4 isn't that old in the scale of things and they are still very young, my daughter will porbably give it up herself whens shes ready x

Erinn - posted on 04/03/2009

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Ya my sons the same way! I keep getting responses from people that he'll be over it in like a week, and I really don't believe it! He will also SCREAM like he's being murdered until he gets it back, even when we lose it! I'm afraid he'll be 18, dragging his paci and blanky to college with him!!

Helen - posted on 04/03/2009

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my daughter is 4 and still has hers, my eldest  whos now 6 gave hers away at the xmas before she was 3 , but my middle child will not no no !! she can screan for a very long time aswell she shares a bedroom with my eldest daughterand will scream for about 2 hours full throtle until she gets it ,she only has it at night but i feel at a loss as what to do, i would love to hear any ideas aswell Helen xx

Laura - posted on 04/01/2009

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My 18 month old only gets his "binky" at naptime and bedtime now. Sometimes when he's having a cranky day it is real tempting to give it to him, just so he'll calm down but I resist (most of the time). I'm ok with him getting just at bedtimes, for now. We'll probably try getting rid of it completely after his 2nd birthday. I'm dreading it too, but I know it has to be done. Good Luck!

Chantelle - posted on 03/29/2009

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Yeah I heard that it takes at least three days to break a kid of a habit and after that it'll be less hellish for you lol. My daughter is two and she is the same way with her "sucky". She treats it like it is a part of her and even has color prefrences for each depending on what she is doing like going to sleep, cuddling on the couch, reading a book, playing etc. I am going to get rid of it soon. I heard that it's better for them to learn to self soothe for their self esteem as well as emotional well being instead of relying on an external factor...but I too am so scared!! lol. Let us know when you do it and how it goes!!!

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Hi Erinn, I started taking it away from my son who is 2, for a few days, telling him that he can only have it for napping/bedtime. I realized that he was beginning to have bad breath and his teeth are not as pearly white as they used to, so yes it has been hard and he is so addicted to it, but he's doing great so far. A few more days and then I'll take it away at nap time and eventually all together.

Tiffany - posted on 03/29/2009

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You should take the pacifier away at about 2 years old.  I know it's not something to look forward to, but the longer you wait, the harder it is going to be.  Yes, he's going to be upset at first but it will pass in a week's time.  Explain to him that he's becoming a big boy now and it's time to give the "paci" to a new baby that will need it.  Take the pacifier.  However, the next day, give him a little present.  A thank you present from the "baby" that got his pacifier. 



My son was fussy for about a week.  Good luck!

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