how old should a child be before you let them sleep on their own pillow?

April - posted on 03/09/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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my daughter is one and she likes to lay on our pillows and take a nap. i always move it afraid she will smoother.how old should a child be before you let them sleep on their own pillow?

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Bethanie - posted on 03/09/2010

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Most important, is when you are comfortable with it. I started noticing that my son would stay in the same place pretty much all night. I finally gave him one when he was about 17-18 months. It's not even an especially thin pillow either but he sleeps really well now with it. I checked on him a few times for the first few nights he had it cause I was a little paranoid, but he's done well with it.

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2010

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I don't know the age that doctors recommend... but my little girl who will be 2 in april has been using a very thin pillow for about 9 months now. She decided that she wanted a pillow and would't go to sleep without it. I felt safe knowing that she can roll over, sit up and move if she is not getting enough air.

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Monica - posted on 03/14/2010

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Luciana has been sleeping with a pillow since right about one year. She had a respitory infection so I used the pillow to prop her up and she's had it ever since. It is a firm pillow and there isn't any lace or frilly on it. Just a regular adult pillow with a pillow case.

Tiffany - posted on 03/14/2010

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i really dont know the right age to give them there own pillow but when my girls were about 6 or 7 months they had there own pillow

Lola - posted on 03/14/2010

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My daughter has had a pillow in her crib since Christmas and the doc told me that if she wants to sleep on her belly the she can breath any way she sleeps .

Amy - posted on 03/13/2010

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My son has always slept with his own pillow and he didn't ever have a problem like that. I think you need to make the best decision for you and not be so worried about that....chances are she is smart enough to get herself out of a bad situation

Megan - posted on 03/12/2010

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they say once they can roll over, sit up, and pull to stand they can basically use a pillow. As long as they are of the ability to do basic motor functions, they can use one. My daughter is 2 1/2 and has been using a pillow since 9 months

CHERYL - posted on 03/12/2010

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i WAiTED TiLL AROUND ONE OR WHEN THEY CAN WALK GOOD THEN YOU KNO THEY WiLL BE ABLE TO MOVE iF FOR SOME REASON THEY ARE HAViN TROUBLE

Kelsey - posted on 03/12/2010

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I have a daughter who is 3 and a son who is about 4 months. My daughter never wanted a pillow really I mean if she was in bed with me she would want to share, but she slept fine without one. I bought her one of those pillow pets that is a stuffed animal with the velcro you unattach and it folds out into a pillow and she loves it!! I'm comftorble with it now because she is old enough and strong enough to move as she pleases in bed and not get stuck faced down, but I dont think I would give my children a pillow unless I was 100% comfortable with it so if you worry about it even just a little I say theres no harm in waiting a little longer

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My daughter is 2 years old and she still doesnt sleep with a pillow and i have a son that is 6 and when he started he was 4 years old and plus when i asked the doc about that he told me about 4 or 5 years old

Jennifer - posted on 03/12/2010

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My daughter just turned 20 months and we got her a pillow and she absolutely loves it! She's also sleeping in a toddler bed now too!

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everyone is different, but i started putting pillows in the crib with my girls when they were about a year old...they seemed to sleep better, I think it was more comfortable...then again, I always laid them on their bellies to sleep from the time they came home from the hospital. At a year old, they brain will have the automatic reaction that if they can't breath, move or wake up. If you pinch her nose, she will open her mouth, but if its something that you don't feel comfortable with or aren't sure, then don't unless she is napping and you are going to be in the room with her. As a mom, you always need to feel confident in what ever you do. Don't feel persuaded just because someone else tells you to. I know my sis-in-law didn't give my niece a pillow until she was closer to 18 months or 2 years. Or if you just use one of those smaller kid pillows that are only 1/2 the size as a bed pillow. Or you could always remove the pillow after she falls asleep too.

Ivy - posted on 03/12/2010

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Well i had a special pillow made for her just after her birth ..so the younger the better...they learn to identify limits....and have a balanced sleep and wakeup timings...

JOY - posted on 03/11/2010

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I think that at 1, using a pillow is fine. By then, the child can easily move and won't get stuck in the pillow. I had a hard time letting my first child use a pillow and loose blankets because I was so paranoid about her suffocating, but now my second daughter is 2 and has many blankets and a pillow for a long time now :)

April - posted on 03/11/2010

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i just want to say thanks to everyone who posted. i did try emma on a pillow.she slept on it for awhile.(snoring good) but later on that nite after up and down checking she rolled off and moved it out of her way.shes doing really good. Thanks again.

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i let my two year sleep on a pillow in my bed, but not his . most of the time it wakes ryley up. i think 4 is a good age, for the pillow and under the blanket.

Kristen - posted on 03/11/2010

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My son will be 3 in a couple of weeks and has been using a pillow since he was 1. Never had any problems. Sometimes, he chooses not to sleep on it, but for the most part he likes it.

Dorothy - posted on 03/11/2010

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My daughter who's 2 has has a pillow in her bed since she was about 1. As long as she can roll over by herself, she'll be fine.

Louise - posted on 03/11/2010

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Hi,
My children have all had pillows at 12 months old. These pillows were bought from kiddicare.com as they are designed to fit into cot/cotbeds and are flatter than an average pillow. My daughter loves her pillow and snuggles into it. The pillows are about £12.99 for a non allergenic one. Hope this helps. Healthcare professionals recomend a pillow after the age of 1.

Brittany - posted on 03/10/2010

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I think it really depends on the kid...

My daughter slept on pillows when laying on the couch and stuff once she hit a year old and could fully handle her own head lol that way she couldnt breathe she knew to reposition herself.. but I didnt have her start using a pillow in her bed til she was about 2 years old and she moved into a toddler bed :/ even then I was scared and constantly checking on her..

Brandi - posted on 03/10/2010

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This is a funny question to me as I was SOOOOOOOOOOOO paranoid about pillows that my daughter wasn't permitted to have one until she was 2. She had been sleeping in a big girl bed since 15 mos old, but I still refused to allow her to have a pillow and I had barely been persuaded by my mother to allow her to have a big enough blanket to actually cover over her whole body (i had been using blanket sleepers and keeping the house warm up til this point). Finally, my mother and I were shopping one afternoon and she saw some pillows on sale and asked if I needed any. I told her no. She said "Mikayla doesn't have one yet, does she??????" (she had been on me about letting the poor child have a pillow lol). I said no and she said, "I'm buying her one and you are gonna let her use it" I tried it for naptimes first (not overnight lol) and she did beautifully and ever since she has had a pillow of her very own. My son, on the other hand was permitted to have a pillow when he moved into his big boy bed lol

Tiffany - posted on 03/10/2010

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My son, who just turned 3 in Feb., did not start using a pillow until Christmas 2009. He never wanted one, so we didn't push it. He decided on his own that he wanted to use one. We have toddler size pillows and there's a great website that sells them with pillowcases and blankets for a reasonable price - Mr. Bobble's Blankets. Use one if YOU feel comfortable with it - there's no rush to giving them one.

Leanne - posted on 03/10/2010

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Wow, this is an interesting post, both my boys (now 2 years old, and 7 months old) Have slept with Pillows from birth ( a flat one ), I used to put it under thier cot sheet, so they were more upright rather than lying flat. I have never had a problem with them sleeping with pillows.

Theresa - posted on 03/10/2010

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My daughter loved laying on everyoe else's pillows so I got a really flat one when she was around 1 and put it in her crib. She loves it and we haven't had any problems with her having it. She's now 17 months.

Ashley - posted on 03/10/2010

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My son has had a pillow in his crib since he was probably 9/10 months old! When he was younger, he just seemed to sleep better with one, so I put one in his crib. It's not real thick or fluffy, just a plain jane pillow. He's now 14 months, and I've never had a problem with it! But in all honesty, it really depends on how ready and comfortable you feel about it! Good luck! :o)

Sarah - posted on 03/09/2010

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I've wondered the same thing. I'm looking forward to someone responding to this question soon. Thanks for asking!

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