How to get 3yr old 2sleep in own bed?

Nicolette - posted on 09/04/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3 and she climbs into bed with us at 2am.At one stage we kept putting her bk into her bed and delt with the screaming and crying. but now I have her baby sister in the room next to her who is 4months old.She sleeps through until 6:30am.I am worried that the crying and screaming will wake her sister up.And then im stuck with 2 upset girls.The other problem is that there are nights that I dont even realise she is in bed with us until I wake up!

Please help this is driving us insane!

Does anyone have any ideas?

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Audrey - posted on 09/28/2009

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My 3 yr. old does the same thing and we give in because we don't want her to wake up her little sister too. Let me know if you try anything and it works. I can't even get her to go to sleep in her own bed - she has lay with me and watch TV to go to sleep.

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Hi Jessica,
i just found your response today... thats excellent news that your little boy is happier to stay in his room all night - i am glad some of my suggestions helped. My eldest daughter is around the same age and has started to be afraid of shadows thinking there are monsters too... so i know what thats like. Luckily it only lasted a little while.
good luck with it all

Jessica - posted on 09/04/2009

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Hey. Tammy's ideas are great - I have a few to add.

We are hopefully at the end of this problem. We talked to our 2 year old about it and found out that he is actually afraid of monsters! We have no idea where he got that idea so early, I guess it can be inherent. But like Tammy suggested, we let him go pick out a nightlight and that really helped. I also started out by bunking in his room with him so that he could get used to sleeping in his room without the fear. That lasted about a week and now I put him in bed, we read a book and I stay until he's just almost asleep. He still runs into our room once in a while but it's getting less frequent.

Fiona - posted on 09/04/2009

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I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old. We have had the same problem all we could do was always take him back to bed. Used the same routine, I know it is hard but you have to keep it up. Before he goes to bed I have one on one time with him (read him a short story, hug, kiss, tuck him in). And now after a couple of months he is taking himself to bed, waiting of me to stay good night and staying in bed.

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Hi Nicolette,
A couple of ideas you may want to try...
Take your daughter shopping and ask her what she would like to help make her room more fun to sleep in ALL night... (you dont have to buy anything too expensive usually wall stickers, cheap kids rugs etc can be bought from kmart and you may want to steer her to what you think she would like)
If your 4 month old is sleeping through the night, try putting her in the same room as the older one. Tell your older daughter that you will do that IF she would like? sometimes they love it...
This behavior could be because she feels she isn't getting as much attention as she was before the new baby came along (it can take a couple of months to sink in that they don't have mummy to themselves) try doing something with her for the 1/2 to 1 hour before bedtime so she remembers getting your attention to herself and she may not need the closeness / cuddles in the middle of the night.

hope these help... good luck

Nicolette - posted on 09/04/2009

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lol so there's no easier way!!



What happened with my eldest is that at about 16mnths she couldn't strech out in her cot and wld wake up crying so i put her into our bed.We eventually got her her own bed(we lived in a 1bedroom granny flat so we had no space)and thought she wld stay there! no such luck!! I wont be making the same mistake again! Get him his own as soon as u can!

Andrea - posted on 09/04/2009

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Consistency is the only thing that will change her "routine". It is so hard but if you really want to make that change and stick to it, in a week or so, she will come to realize that she will ALWAYS be taken back to bed. if you don't wake up, whta can you do on those nights but the nights you do... It is not easier with the second. My first was sleeping in his own bed but my little on (17 months) IS NOT. Starts out in his bed, but I let him come to our bed so it is my fault.

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