how to get a 17 month of the breast and get him sleeping a whole night without waking up

Tarlia - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my 17 month old boy screams when you wont give him the breast and wont give up till he gets it and has never slept a full night in his life he wakes up anywhere between 2 times to 8 times a night just to make sure im there dont no how much longer i can take it

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Anita - posted on 04/23/2009

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We were struggling with this for a bit and I did a few things which helped a lot. First, I made sure that we had a good getting ready for bed routine (dinner, bath, breast, book...he should NOT fall asleep nursing!) I did a similar routine for naps too (food, change diaper, breast, book.) Then when he was in his crib, I made sure he had a nice blanket, a teddy bear and a pacifier. He cried himself to sleep for a few days and got very attached to the bear. While he was crying it out, I made sure to keep myself busy with other stuff (mainly housework) so that his crying wouldn't bother me. I also used the 5-10-15 minute rule...let him cry for 5 minutes, then go pat him, then let him cry for another 10 minutes, then another pat if he was still crying, then let him cry for 15 minutes and keep going in after 15 minutes if he was crying. It was hard and sometimes my presence made him cry harder which meant that I didn't go in at all times. We have a video monitor so I could see that sometimes he was lying down crying and I would leave him alone at those points. When he woke up in the middle of the night, I would go pat him and then leave him to cry for 15 minutes before going in again. The first night was brutal and none of us slept much. He learned quickly though and was sleeping thru the night after 4 or 5 nights of crying (the crying was less each night.) It's hard but you have to let him learn the hard way sometimes. I'm a much better mom now that I sleep and I can see that my son is much happier and better that he sleeps. He still wakes up once a night but it's at 5 am which is tolerable. He needs a diaper change and some sort of liquid...I try to give him water but sometimes he's really hungry so I give him a little milk so he can sleep another hour or so. Hope this helps you a little! I know how hard it is and I feel your pain.

User - posted on 04/23/2009

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I weaned my daughter from the breast when she was 11 months old. She has just gotten some teeth and had a little trouble being gentle. She cried for 4 hours straight, I didnt give in. I tried numerous times before that, but caved. You have to be tough and not give in. If he knows you'll give in, he will keep doing it. Dont give up hope. If he wount stop, let him be alone for a while in a safe place and vent, then try again.

One trick that kept my daughter asleep after I weaned her from the breast to formula; Make sure they eat solid food before bedtime, then give them the bottle. If they have a full stomach, they tend not to wake up so often.

Also, is he sleeping in his own crib yet? If not, try and get him sleeping by himself also. It will save you so much trouble in the long run. If he wakes up in the middle of the night crying for you. Go to his crib and let him know your there. Let him lie down again and rub his back and sing to him, soothing him back to sleep. This worked for me, and i hope it will work for you also. :):):) Patience patience patience.

User - posted on 04/23/2009

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I weaned my daughter from the breast when she was 11 months old. She has just gotten some teeth and had a little trouble being gentle. She cried for 4 hours straight, I didnt give in. I tried numerous times before that, but caved. You have to be tough and not give in. If he knows you'll give in, he will keep doing it. Dont give up hope. If he wount stop, let him be alone for a while in a safe place and vent, then try again.

One trick that kept my daughter asleep after I weaned her from the breast to formula; Make sure they eat solid food before bedtime, then give them the bottle. If they have a full stomach, they tend not to wake up so often.

Also, is he sleeping in his own crib yet? If not, try and get him sleeping by himself also. It will save you so much trouble in the long run. If he wakes up in the middle of the night crying for you. Go to his crib and let him know your there. Let him lie down again and rub his back and sing to him, soothing him back to sleep. This worked for me, and i hope it will work for you also. :):):) Patience patience patience.

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