How to get son to start sleeping in own bed?

Sabrina Graves - posted on 09/03/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I want to know how do I get my son to start sleeping in his own bed by himself?...you see he is scared of the dark. When he was little he would sleep by himself..then one day he slept in the bed with my husband and I, and from then on he rarely sleeps in his bed. I think he is scared of the dark, cause he only lays down in his own bed when me or my husband lay down with him until he falls asleep. I tried everything for him... he has a nightlight and a lamp and still refuses to sleep by himself.. The bathroom is right next to his room, and I even tried leaving the light on , but he refuse. I cant remember the last time he has slept in his room. I would continue to lay down in his room with him untl he falls asleep, but I have a three month old daughter to take care of also. It would not be so bad, if my husband was at home, but he works two jobs and does not get home from his second job until 2 in the morning... PLEASE HELP Any suggestons or tricks as to do this?



Thanks

Sabrina Lato

Prairieville, La.

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Keyla - posted on 09/03/2009

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I had the same issue with my son about a year ago. My peditrician suggested I let him pick out his own bedding and perhaps purchase a special pillow or blanket that would make him feel secure. Well, my son picked out some superhero bedding and a police officer teddy bear and that helped a little. He was still uncomfortable and whined for hours when we put him to bed! He also claimed to be afraid of the dark, so we leave his bedroom light on until after he falls asleep and go in and turn it off before we go to bed. I don't know if any of this would help, but just know that I think this is something we all go through as mothers!

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2009

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Mine is not a reply,but an inquiry. My son is still screaming after weeks of routine. Any ideas??

Tabri - posted on 09/03/2009

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well our nurse said to leave my daughter in there even if she is screaming blue murder just besure they are safe if they sleep with a cup its full or in a diaper its clean and after 3 nights they will be fine. My daughter slept with me until she was 1 year thats bad I know.

Alicia - posted on 09/03/2009

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Hi,

I have the same problem with my son as well. He picked his own light, appointed one of his animals as his watcher, yet he still will not stay in his own bed. He usually will spend the first half of the night in his bed but then wakes up to come sleep in our room. Any further suggestions?

Thanks,

Alicia

Tabri - posted on 09/03/2009

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I am just adding to the other womans advice. I had the same issue with my daughter and I had ask the health nurse on what she thinks to do Pretty much the exact same thing the other woman said but It takes three nights to make a habit and three nights to break a habit so prepare for lots of tantrums and crying for those three nights.

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Hello there Sabrina, your son is not really afraid of the dark, kids are very smart and they will do whatever it takes to get their way, believe me I have three kids, like u said he was sleeping by himself and you allowed him to sleep in ur bed for one night which there is nothing wrong with it as long as you make it very clear to him that is just that nite and that mommy and daddy are being nice about it but that he has his own bed and that's where he should sleep, yor mistake was in allowing him the second nite and so on.., its not late to start tough, put your foot down bring him to his bed every nite, even if it takes many times at night, he will eventually understand that you mean business and he'll stay in his bed, IF he is afraid of the dark, put a little light in his room go and buy it with him make him choose the one he wants and make sure he understand you're doing this because u want to make sure he is comfortable in his room. But do it, I know is heart breaking when they star crying and begging, but to sleep with mommy and daddy is not emotionally good for him, he needs to learn how to be independent. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Regards,

Judith Pimentel

Cresskill, NJ.

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