How to stop a child from biting?

Cortney - posted on 11/11/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My son is 2. He is always biting at daycare? Any tips on how to stop him from biting?

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Sue - posted on 11/16/2010

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my son usued to bite at daycare too and it was because he couldnt communictae with the others kids, his speech was delayed so when he tried to tell them something he would get frustrated when they didnt understand him. it passed and the other parents understood. your daycare lady needs to keep an eye on it and see when it happens the most then go form there. it could just be a new experience that he isnt used to and sitting him down to explain why he is there and such may help. even at that age they can understand when u speak to them

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Terresa - posted on 11/25/2010

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My son did that too. I bit him back and he never bit again.lol.He's 19 yrs old now and does not bite. Lol.

Sara - posted on 11/19/2010

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I got my son to stop pulling hair by pulling his hair (nothing else worked). It sounds awful but try biting him back. Explaining does not seem to help. I don't think they understand that it is hurting people as bad as it does.

Aicha - posted on 11/17/2010

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try telling him no bite give kisses that's what I tell my daughter she is 13 months old and she was biting but has stopped a friend had a daughter the same age as her and my daughter bite the girl before either I or the girls mother could separate them the little girl bite my daughter and since then she hasn't bitten anyone else

Liana - posted on 11/17/2010

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i have a 2 1/2 year old and had a really bad problem with my son doing this!! i was told that it was normal and just to tell him that what he was doing wasnt very nice and it hurt people but this didnt help after a while if he bite he drew blood!! so i had a little talk with him and told him the next time he bites someone i was going to bite him a day later he bite his little brother so i sat down with him as aked for his had and then reminded him of our little talk i then bite him not hard! i think that the shock that i was biteing him worked as he Never bite again!! but if you chose to use this method make sure that you explain exactly what you are doing and why! it worked for me.

Johlene - posted on 11/17/2010

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My son does the same thing to his older brother and im pretty sure to kids at his daycare as well...but from reading these tips i shall give them ago as well...thanks lol..

Angel - posted on 11/16/2010

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honestly this may sound cruel or what have you but when my little cousin i took care of bit someone i always told them to bite him back you dont bite them back really hard or anything but you bite them enough for them to understand not to do that. some people will say its wrong but it worked for him it didnt hurt him just shocked him like wow is this what it feels like?

Mothtoflame - posted on 11/16/2010

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it is normal for some/many children to go through this stage. it is usually down to frustration withthe lack of communication skills to verbalise their emotions or needs and the inability to controll a situation, which sounds likely as he is doing it at nursery please dont bite back as this gives the impression that its ok as grownups do it too. try to get the nursery attendants to firmly verbally tell him no its bad and to get him to hug the affected child .

Teri - posted on 11/16/2010

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sounds like he has frustration == and has no way to deal with it. you could minimize things that frustrate him during the time he's with you. and you may see things get better. kids need constant reminding until they are 4 -- so you're going to have to remind. they cannot always remember things as this requires the conscious mind and that's only on line when a kid is happy, full and well rested. when they are stressed or tired or hungry, their reptilian (lower) brain takes over and that says, fight or flight. you can't change nature, you just have to guide him to better ways to deal.. this takes reminding and time.

Angela - posted on 11/15/2010

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the worst thing you could do is bite him back. If he sees people biting he is going to think it is normal. If you hit he will hit. What you need to do is to take him to a place away from where he was pref where he can see what your doing. Tell him NO and sit him down then go give all sorts of attention to whatever it is he has bitten.. cuddle another child or pat the chair or whatever then you leave him sitting for a bit for punishment. Works at my home daycare. Stoped 2 biters in 2 weeks.

Kimber - posted on 11/15/2010

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My son did the same thing at the first home day care he was in, I broke him by biting him back when I saw him doing it. He also did it at home. But he really stopped when I put him in a more structured pre-school. And he liked it much more also.

Jessica - posted on 11/14/2010

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I wish I could be of help on this one but my son just turned 1 and is biting my lip when he gives kisses. I am sure he's trying to show his affection the only way he knows how right now but it sure doesn't feel very good!

Amanda - posted on 11/13/2010

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We have been teaching our son to give kisses instead when he gets the urge to bite. If he really needs to bite then he can bite one of his stuffed animals. It has been going pretty well. The biting is at its worst when he is tired and overstimulated.

Cortney - posted on 11/11/2010

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Thank you very much! Yea he started biting when he started daycare. I asked his doctor and she said it was normal and pretty much said what you said! He just does it really at daycare and then he bites himself at home. I hate for him to be biting other kids. But he gets bit at daycare too so hopefully it will end soon!! Thank you for your advice though I will try it!!

Dora - posted on 11/11/2010

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Even though what your son is doing is not considered nice, it is normal. At his age he is still learning to communicate. if he can't express himself then that is why he will bite. Try by first starting off just saying no about biting and give him a simple explanation why it isn't nice. You will have to say this to him over and over again. Then teach him some other ways to help him express himself or communicate. Say if he is biting because he is mad, teach him to do something less harmful like stomping his feet to get his frustrations out. At this age kids love to do whatever mommy and daddy are doing so you and your significant other can be his best examples. Also ask his daycare teachers to teach him that as well. Good luck and don't worry the phase will end.

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