I am getting a lot of pressure from members of my family because my 21month old son isn't potty trained yet, he will go on the potty sometimes but generally he isn't too interested. What age is normal?!!

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Tricia - posted on 02/01/2009

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I wouldn't be to worried. I started potty training my son a few months ago and he's 2 1/2. Some of my family members are surprised that he is almost fully potty trained already. I would say that if he will go sometimes that is a good start. I wouldn't be to worried yet. He will let you know when he's ready. I hope this helps. If you have any questions let me know!

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Melissa - posted on 02/04/2009

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There is no normal age.  Most children start around the age of 2, but every child is different.  You can't force them either or it will take even longer.  They'll do it when they are darn good and ready.  My DS who is almost 3 now started before she was 2 but wouldn't poop on the potty.  Then she was fully trained but once we brought her brother home from the hospital she reverted but that was only for a few weeks which apparently is normal so we were prepared for it.  Just offer encouragement and praise with no pressure and tell your family to mind their own business.

Chrisandra - posted on 02/04/2009

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If you aren't worried and your dr isn't worried, then let it go. My son is almost 3 and just started consistently going on his potty. He still won't #2 on it though. It will happen when it does. As long as he's showing some interest, don't stress. This will cause him not to go and for you to be more frustrated. 

Melanie - posted on 02/04/2009

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I hate the words "potty training"... they're children not dogs for goodness sake! It's a natural development which will happen when the child is ready, just like walking and talking. We can encourage them and show them what to do but "training"... it gives me visions of children on leads being led to the potty!  Forcing it or punishing "accidents" does cause more psychological damage than it's worth.  We don't spank children just because they aren't walking at a certain age do we? By the way my daughter is 26 months and is still in nappies but does a wee on the potty most days. I also don't believe in excessive praise - it's a natural bodily function that she will do for the rest of her life, it's nothing special.

April - posted on 02/03/2009

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Yeah I have three boys my older two didn't potty train until they were 3!!! Yes both of them! My baby will be 2 in august and I don't plan to start until he wants to.



Please do be awear that it can cause much more damage (mental/emotion types) proven in studies when this is pushed or forced and is unpleasant.





Few tips i did try with my boys, put food coloring in the water usually older guys use blue and when they pee it turns green. Or toss in some cherrios and have them aim. I resorted to bribery with my middle boy:) Good luck boys are harder than girl I hear but have no expirence in girls.

Maureen - posted on 02/03/2009

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My son wasn't interested until he was over 3. He would sit on the potty only after I would bribe him. When he was 3.25 he started going all on his own. The big motivator was that preschool was starting in the fall. The pull ups were also giving him a rash so he started to want to wear underwear. Hope this helps.

Holly - posted on 02/03/2009

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What are you kidding?!  I have a 21 month old also, I was thinking about potty training over the summer.  He just started last month telling me poops after hes gone, now hes even saying poops and whining when he has to go..so, I might start sooner.  Each child is ready at different ages, boys are slower.  I also have teen age sons my first son I started training at age 2, it was a battle.  I had another baby and didn't want 2 in diapers.  I put to much pressure on him and to much stress on myself.  After a month I gave up decided he wasn't ready tried again 2 months later.  He was completely (night time too) trained by 2 1/2.  My second son was slower he had gross motor issues, so pulling pants up and down was an issue but by age 3 he was trained with assistance.  My daughter on the other hand was trained at 2.  Don't rush him..Before age 2 your the one trained not them.

Josie - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Joanne:

I am getting a lot of pressure from members of my family because my 21month old son isn't potty trained yet, he will go on the potty sometimes but generally he isn't too interested. What age is normal?!!




hi i hav a 2yr old son who is 28months and ive just started 2 potty train. i got told by many people that there are 3 signs to look out for 1) they let you know when they have wet or dirty nappies 2) they tell you when they just been to the toilet in there nappy and 3) they tell you they want to go to the toilet. my son is still at number 2 at the moment but just dont push them to do it because they will make it much harder to do

Aimee - posted on 02/03/2009

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You are the parent and you know your own kid better than anyone.  At my son's two-year check-up, my ped was surprised and pleased that my son even knew what the toilet was for; she said that was pretty advanced for a boy his age.  He is almost 2.5 now, and we have not made much progress, other than him telling us when he wants to be changed and commenting on when Mommy and Daddy go potty.  I am a firm believer in kids reaching these kinds of milestones when they are good and ready.  If you stress out abou it too much and make a big deal out of it, your son will pick up on that and it will not help his progress with the potty.  Just start talking about it, reading about it, etc and he will come around.

Allana - posted on 02/03/2009

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I agree with Tricia.  I think the worst mistake you can make with potty training is pushing your child before they are ready.  I would keep gently encouraging him to use it and make it as fun as possible.  Reward him with lots of positive praise when he does use it.  We also like the book, "Once Upon a Potty" and you can get the boy version.  Good luck and trust your instincts.

Jamie - posted on 02/03/2009

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I was told by my "parents as teachers" visitor that 3 is the average age for a child to realy want to be potty trained.  so dont worry yet he will get it .  I have also foud with my boys that it takes them a little longer to get it than girls do.

Tarilyn - posted on 02/03/2009

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It's VERY normal for kids your childs age to not be trained! Most parents dont start training till about 2-3 years of age. AND public health, even says (my phn words and my fv as well) that most kids show few to no signs of potty training till 2 1/2 years of age, its perfectly normal. Go at your sons rate not yours!

My daughter herself started training (at her own request) by 10 months old...shes now 20 months and still not fully trained! Just remember to be consistant, and work with him not against him! If he wants to then let him...but if one day hes not in the mood, then thats fine too! Always leave the potty available to him, and let him decide when he wants to! Good luck!

Nikita - posted on 02/02/2009

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my son was poty trained by the time he turned two and my docter told me that was rly rare and that boys are not usually trained untill they are around 28-30 months

User - posted on 02/02/2009

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Wow giving you a hard time becasue he is 21 months old....My son is 19 months and my friend and family think I may be putting too much pressure on my becasue I have started potty training. LOL (he has been very successful and almost never poops in his diaper anymore) I have been training for a little over 1 month now. I read a really good book called "diaper free before three " and it was very helpful.

Stephanie - posted on 02/02/2009

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If their giving you a hard time, then they would just LOVE me, LOL! My son is 26 mo & we just really started trying & have only had one successful attmpt (but it was pee AND poop!). I would just say not tho fight it. The harder we try & push Billy, the more resistant he becomes, so we've just backed off. He will do it in his own time. I think the fact that he even goes part of the time is fantastic! Focus on that & ignore the ones giving you grief. JMHO.

Courtney - posted on 02/02/2009

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boys generally take longer to train. If her has no interest then he is not ready. Some signs that he is ready are that he is dry for longer periods of time, he tries to pull off his pants and diaper, he goes to the bathroom. If you to help the process you can get him a potty chair and show it to him, or sit him on it every now and then just to show him this is how you use it.

Stephanie - posted on 02/02/2009

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My son is the same age and he wont touch the potty. He just likes putting toilet paper in the toilet.... They catch on when they want to

Kotie - posted on 02/02/2009

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like everyone says - don't worry about it.  my eldest boy started potty training when he was two, but my youngest just turned two, and i can see he is not ready.



i will try in a couple of months only...

Carolyn - posted on 02/01/2009

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My son is 20 months and he will tell us "pee pee" so off to the bathroom we'll go.  we get in there, off come the pants and training pants and onto the potty.  we read a book with him a couple of times, then he gets off the potty and goes the stand in the corner looks at us and pees on the floor.  he hates wearing diapers anymore, but loves to step into training pants.  he gets MAD when we try and get him to put on a diaper during the day.  we still put him in diapers at night thou.  I have a friend that has a 5 year old girl  in kindergarden that still has accidents often and wears pull ups.  I have friends who have kids that were potty trained when they 13-15 months.  every kid is different. when your child is ready it will happen.   good luck!

Carolyn - posted on 02/01/2009

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My son is 20 months and he will tell us "pee pee" so off to the bathroom we'll go.  we get in there, off come the pants and training pants and onto the potty.  we read a book with him a couple of times, then he gets off the potty and goes the stand in the corner looks at us and pees on the floor.  he hates wearing diapers anymore, but loves to step into training pants.  he gets MAD when we try and get him to put on a diaper during the day.  we still put him in diapers at night thou.  I have a friend that has a 5 year old girl  in kindergarden that still has accidents often and wears pull ups.  I have friends who have kids that were potty trained when they 13-15 months.  every kid is different. when your child is ready it will happen.   good luck!

Melissa - posted on 02/01/2009

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because my daughter is babysat by a mom with 2 older kids, my daughter first was interested in the potty and would go off and on starting at 13 months, but she just turned 2 and still isn't consistent enough to wear underwear...my sister's sons are both almost 5 and still aren't potty trained at night...from my experience doing daycare, boys are usually older than girls

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Dont' worry about it.  my son will be 3 in June and he's only pooped on it once and doesn't have any interest in doing it again.  I'm going to let him decide when he is good and ready.  Don't push them...It just prolongs the process.

Joy - posted on 02/01/2009

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21 months is early, especially for a boy. My pediatrician told me that most girls aren't even starting until they're 2

Becky - posted on 02/01/2009

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Have you tried having him go into the bathroom with his Dad, uncle,some male to just show him how guys "do it".  The 3 year old I nanny for had no interest until he went into the bathroom with his dad or brother (17).  Now he wants to be a "big boy" like them.  It does take time and DON"T PUSH IT!!!  It will push him back further.  Also, books seem to help.  Potty books he can read while sitting on the potty!!  And by the way.  If he just wants to sit on the potty...fully clothed, that is a good thing too.  He needs to feel in control of the situation.  Good Luck!!!

Stacy - posted on 02/01/2009

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Don't be too worried!  My son will be 3 in March and he has no interest at all!  He will go, but it is a big fight!  You will do more harm than good, if you push too hard!  Good luck!

Katrina - posted on 02/01/2009

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Don't worry too much usually start potty training between 2 to 3 yrs old. I just started to potty train my son, and he is now 2 yrs and 3 months (27 months old) and he is almost there, so no hurry, he'll let you know when he's ready.

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