I had my daughter in July 2008 and my son will be born May 2010, do I get another baby shower?

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Stephanie - posted on 01/08/2010

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I think it is ok to have a baby shower, more like a celebration of the new baby. I dont think it is ok to register for stuff....I know someone who, is having their 3rd, their other children are both under 3 and they registered and had someone throw them a shower. I dont think it is right because in my opnion they should already have everything for a baby...they also have a boy and a girl. With equal both and girl toys.

If it was me, I would still throw a 'party' just not ask for gifts. We have saved all our baby stuff so far, even though we dont know if we are gonna get a boy or girl next, it is worth it to us to be responsible and prepared for the next one.

If our little boy has to sit in a pink bumb or our little girl has to be in a blue johnny jump, I doubt it will hurt their self esteem!! LOL

Enjoy your pregnancy and do what you think is best for you and your family. That is all that really matters :O)

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Carrie - posted on 01/12/2010

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If people want to throw you one, they're free to. I would say that most people probably wouldn't because since they're so close in age you probably still have all the baby stuff except clothing and decor (blankets, sheets, decorations, etc.). My sister-in-law got a shower for her second (first daughter born in 1995 second daughter in 2004) since she had nothing from the first left. I'm not even sure whether she had a shower for the first daughter's birth.

Laura Jill - posted on 01/12/2010

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The general consensus here (checked with five fellow Mommies) is that if you're lucky you get a baby shower for your first. After that - different sex or not - you've already been showerred and you're expected to make your way to Wal-Mart for any supplies you may need ! Sorry....

Brandi - posted on 01/12/2010

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Every family is diffrent I know in my family you get one for the first unless they are far apart. I personally have 2 girls almost 3 years apart so I had everything saved from my first daughter (all her toys high chair/bouncer etc was neutral) all I needed for the new baby was diampers etc.

My cousin who has a boy and girl the same age as mine took some of the blue things she had from her oldest and brought them to a resale shop called once upon a child where she was able "sell" the blue items and get whatever she needed. She had a blue bumpo and brought it there and got a purple one for a fraction of the cost of a brand new one. Or see if you have any family members who can hand down things. That is what we do we have a cloths box for boys and girls that gets passed around the family. it is all by size and once you have out grown the box you add whatever cloths you have purchased and out grown and pass it down to the next one. Saves a ton on buying new cloths.

Jennifer - posted on 01/11/2010

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what happens if everything you got from your first babyshower is PINK??? I really have no neutral stuff except for my space saver highchair which is brown.

Julie - posted on 01/11/2010

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we usually do what we like to call a "sprinkle" for the 2nd baby. it is just much smaller and usually only if the children are opposite sex or farther apart.

Dawna - posted on 01/10/2010

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In my family, a baby shower is thrown for every pregnancy, but we love kids. In many places, however, it is frowned upon. Personally, I don't know if I would feel comfortable at a second shower for myself, since I am keeping everything from my first. Of course, a gathering of friends and gifts of necessities like diapers and wipes seems like a fair compromise to me.

Or, you could try a Welcome Baby party 6 weeks or so after the baby is born. It's not a shower, so gifts aren't implied by inviting people. Those who want to can and will bring gifts, and many will ask if you need anything specific. Also, it gives people a chance to meet the new baby and celebrate him. Even though I had a shower for my daughter, we did the Welcome Baby party when she was 7 weeks old to give family and friends who lived in our home town (100 miles away) a chance to meet her. Plus, I felt like she deserved a party for being born. :) It worked great, and everyone loves a reason to see a new baby, so those who might frown on attending a second shower for you would probably love to attend a Welcome Baby party. Plus, you can throw it for yourself, or get help from the grandparents like we did.

Heather - posted on 01/10/2010

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My boys are 5 yrs apart and when I dropped hints that I would like to have another baby shower for the second one I was told I would have to pay for it myself. So I just went out and bought what I wanted, it was easier that way. But on the other hand my cousin has five kids and she had baby showers for each of her kids. I guess it depends on what you and your relatives/friends want to do. Good luck either way.

Stacy - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had one for each of my kids, just let those close to you know you would like one to celebrate your new arrival.

Jenna - posted on 01/09/2010

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every baby deserves a celebration!!! Im having my third baby shower in two weeks. i have a 4 year old girl and a two in half year old boy... this one is a boy... i have nothing for the baby...i gave all my stuff away. i say if your family and friends want to throw you a shower then there is nothing wrong with having another baby shower. if people have a problem with it then they dont go oh well they miss out on the games/gifts and food!

Rebecca - posted on 01/09/2010

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I suppose it depends on your friends an family. Traditionally, speaking, no, you don't get a second shower. However, I have a friend who had a "disposables" shower for her second. The idea was to bring diapers, formula, wipes, etc. While that was the focus, guests typically did bring other gifts. Or, like others have suggested, have a "celebration" for the new child, and have a raffle for people who bring diapers, wipes, or other disposables. Each pack you bring you get to put your name in to the drawing. Buy two tickets to the movies and a $20 gift card to a restaurant. You put out forty bucks but get hundreds of dollars in needed supplies!

Jamie - posted on 01/09/2010

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I've heard that you can have a baby shower with your first and a second baby shower only if your children a really far apart. I didn't have 2 since my girls are only 20 mths apart. If my second was going to be a boy I thought about having a it's a boy party just to get that head start on clothes LOL. But sonce I have 2 girls my youngest gets the hand me downs from her sister : ( We try to buy her more though.

Trina - posted on 01/09/2010

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I think every child deserves a baby shower, boy or girl. No matter how far apart they are! If you need stuff for him have one, if you have some stuff just let everyone know what you don't need. I am sure your family and friends with understand and support your decision!

Melissa - posted on 01/09/2010

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they are boy/girl of course they should each get a babyshower. do you have all the clothes for a boy? nope, just a girl. plus what if your daughter grew out of something and you got rid of it? he'll need one now too. YES!

Brandi - posted on 01/08/2010

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I had a baby shower with my first, but not with my second. I actually mentioned to my family that I would rather not have a shower with my second (who is 2 yrs. younger than my first) because everyone was sooooooo generous the first time around and I felt I may look unappreciative of everything I was given the first time. HOWEVER, close family and friends asked me what I needed for the new baby and purchased things like a new mattress for the new baby (as my older child is still using hers in her toddler bed, so I needed one of those) My daughter had LOTS of yellow onsies (I didn't find out if she was a girl or a boy) so i was able to use lots of those for my son. I also mentioned to people who asked what I needed that I would need boys' clothes (after I found out that I was having a boy), so that if anyone knew of anyone who had hand me down clothes for boys that I was willing to take them (which is also mostly how I clothed my daughter). And of course, close family and friends purchased little gifts for my son, too. I don't know, I just thought that for me, it felt wrong to ask for ANOTHER baby shower. HOWEVER, I have also heard of "celebration of life" parties for subsequent children as an alternative to a baby shower and gifts are discouraged for these celebrations. They are meant to be just that a celebration of new life. Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 01/08/2010

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Its kind of up to your friends. Gently put it out there that your hoping someone will throw you one and it will probably happen.

Krissy - posted on 01/08/2010

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I'm with Stephanie. I wouldn't even ATTEND a 2nd baby shower for someone, but I would go to a celebration of a 2nd baby. It's wrong to ask for gifts again. If you get them, though, that's awesome.

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2010

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Depends on the person and the family. I am having my second baby 2 years after the 1st. We don't know what we are having yet but we already have a little girl. I think I will have a shower either way just for fun. If we are having a boy I will ask for boy clothes because we knew we were having a girl the first time around and we have no unisex outfits. Everyone loves buying baby clothes I highly doubt they will mind. We still have all of our baby gear: stroller, car seats, high chair, baby jumper/bouncers etc and asking for that stuff again so soon may not be so polite. If you have kids and know you want more you should save that kind of stuff but clothes and bottles, wash cloths, towels, etc the cheaper things and the essentials are ok to ask for in my mind even at your second shower! Congrats goo luck!

Nicole - posted on 01/08/2010

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Okay so like I just had my third in may of 2009, and like no way man, we did it for my second child mind 3 years apart from the first but like after so many baby showers people get kind of tired of going, and they think all kinds of things, so maybe have a small one with only close family members

Katie - posted on 01/08/2010

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I've Had 3 Children and 3 Baby Showers. you Can throw Yourself A Baby Shower Or See If Someone Else Will

Julie - posted on 01/08/2010

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probably not. Usually you only have one baby shower or if you have 2 kids years apart, you will get another one. But because you are having a boy this time around, you probably have friends and family buy you something that is boyish.

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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yes ma'am! you get one for each child you have but as my sister informed me earlier, you may not get as much as you did the first time around.

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