i have a 14 month old who is still breastfed and wakes up during the night how do i stop this.?

Chloe - posted on 09/07/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my son tyreece is 14 months he is still being breastfed twice a day when he goes for a nap,he will drink cows milk,juice or water from a bottle or sippy cup any time of the day he just needs to be breast fed when he goes to sleep.he also still wakes up roughly 3 or 4 times during the night for a fed and sleeps in the same bed as my partner and myself.i would like all of this to stop but he just won't give it up please help i will take in everyone's advice.thankyou

chloe

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Romina - posted on 09/09/2010

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I still BF in the morning at 7am, and at 6:30pm. I got rid of night feeds by not giving in when he woke for a feed, using self settling techniques. At this age, they definately don't need any night feeds. It sounds like your son associates going to sleep with a breastfeed. First you have to stop this by establishing a good sleep routine and teach him to self settle without the help of you or your boobs. At night, try bath at 6:10, BF at ~6:30pm. Read a story/cuddle for at least 10mins before bed at 7pm. That way, they don't associate the last thing they do before going to sleep as having a feed. Whatever self settling technique you use is a personal choice, but you have to be consistent...it usually takes 3 nights of crying before they give in and go to sleep and resettle by themselves. I used the method where you stay out of the room for a certain amount of time (10-20mins) then go in and stay with them until they're asleep (firmly patting their bottom slowly and saying "shhh shhh" as I did it). First night it took an hour each time, then 2nd night was quicker...by the 3rd night he didn't bother waking up for it. Another method you could use (it worked for a friend), is to wait 1min before going into the room, staying with them for 1 min, then walking out. stay out for 2 mins-then go in for 2 mins, stay out for 3mins- then go in for 3 mins....etc until they're asleep. There will be lots of crying involved, but hopefully the 3 nights of stress will be worth it in the long run :)
These methods are used to teach self settling in their own beds, I'm not sure if they'd work as he's in your bed. Maybe it's time to teach him to sleep in his own bed. Good luck.

Sarah - posted on 09/08/2010

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At 14 months I would just transition to sippy cup not bottle. At first he may cry and have a hard time because the only way he knows how to fall asleep is by nursing. He has to learn how to put himself to sleep on his own without nursing. So while he is learning he may cry or fuss because it is a change and most of us don't like change. Start a new bedtime routine. Have special cuddle time without nursing (try rocking and reading a book). Lay him down awake in his own bed, say your good nights and then walk out. At first you may want to find something you can do to keep your mind and yourself busy while he works through this transition. It is hard to listen to them cry, but giving in just makes everything worse and prolongs the process and then you end up with more crying in the end. When he wakes in the middle of the night wait about 5 mins. before going in. Sometimes they will go back to sleep on their own. If he does not go in and rub his back, BUT DO NOT NURSE. It might be easier if hubby goes in instead of you at first.

Really the main thing is is to be consistant and don't give in. Kids do adjust, but sometimes it takes a little bit of time to adjust. It goes easier and quicker when you stick to your guns and help them learn a new routine instead of giving into the old one.

Julene - posted on 09/08/2010

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Hi Chloe, In my experience you are going to have to put him on the bottle and off the boob. I got real sick when my boy was approx 12 months and 2 weeks. I had to take antibiotics and due to that I couldn't breastfeed him. I also breasfed him to sleep at night and once he woke up he was in bed with us the rest of the night drinking whenever it pleased him. I got my MIL to give him the bottle the first night and he took to it like water, since he has been drinking the bottle he has not slept in our bed and it has now been 3 weeks almost 4. I suggest you try and wean him and put him on the bottle or a sippy cup you can always still read a story and pat him etc to get him to go to sleep.

Andrea - posted on 09/07/2010

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I stopped breastfeeding my son at exactly 14 months. All i did was the first day i didnt breastfeed him during the day for his nap i would just walk him around to put him to sleep or he would fall alseep alone in the car. At night was the worsed! i would put a sippy cut next to the bed with water & put a T-Shirt on so he couldnt get to it. he would cry & cry but i wouldnt give in. i would stay up till like 2am in the living room walking him around. Eventually by the 3rd day he kinda got the point & wouldnt cry for it he would just smile and point I would just tell him no drink water & give him his sippy. It was So hard cause i didnt want him crying ever but at the end i was so glad i did! Good Luck :)
Ooo & my son didnt drink whole milk & your does so try & give him warm milk before bed. & hug him kiss him show him that he can have confort in other ways. also worked with my son!

Andrea - posted on 09/07/2010

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I stopped breastfeeding my son at exactly 14 months. All i did was the first day i didnt breastfeed him during the day for his nap i would just walk him around to put him to sleep or he would fall alseep alone in the car. At night was the worsed! i would put a sippy cut next to the bed with water & put a T-Shirt on so he couldnt get to it. he would cry & cry but i wouldnt give in. i would stay up till like 2am in the living room walking him around. Eventually by the 3rd day he kinda got the point & wouldnt cry for it he would just smile and point I would just tell him no drink water & give him his sippy. It was So hard cause i didnt want him crying ever but at the end i was so glad i did! Good Luck :)
Ooo & my son didnt drink whole milk & your does so try & give him warm milk before bed. & hug him kiss him show him that he can have confort in other ways. also worked with my son!

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