I have a 14month year old daughter. can anyone tell me when i should worry about her not talking?

Alex - posted on 03/30/2010 ( 54 moms have responded )

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she says oops, very rarly mommy and daddy, go, and babbles alot to her self but her dad is worried shes not going to talk. and i dont know what is normal someone please help.

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Louise - posted on 03/30/2010

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No need to worry I was trained in speach and language for the under fives and this is nothing to worry about. I would only be worried if your daughter was not speaking at the age of 2. Keep up with encouraging rhymes and tell her for the word for everything like juice, book ball constantly. She will surprise you and say it back one day. You have nothing to worry about.

Jennifer - posted on 03/30/2010

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My daughter says mom when she wants something and she just turned 15 months she can say two and three but we made it into a game so she laughs when she says two. I say its when they're ready cause my daughter tends to babble alot still. So I say it's pretty normal.

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Melanie - posted on 04/13/2010

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In my experience 14 months is way too early to worry about them not talking! It would be like worrying because they're not walking at 6 months! Tell your husband to chill out a bit!

Meghan - posted on 04/09/2010

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my 20 month old says words only if u say them and babbles and speaks his own language. hegestures alot and he knows what he wants and i know what he wants but he does his own thing. my first was speaaking 4-5 word sentences by 11 months so they are gonna do things when they want. if u are really concerned call ur pedi they can help.

Susan - posted on 04/08/2010

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By 18 months she should be saying at least 5 words other than momma or dada according to what I was told. My 18 month old says over 300 words, it's insane. Don't be in a hurry, she'll get to it and then you'll never get a moment of silence ;)

June - posted on 04/08/2010

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Relax....don't worry and just let things take their course. My daughter, now almost 4 started talking a little around 2 and then really truly picked up the conversation when she was almost 3. It will come, all of these things are just stages and go as soon as they come. Enjoy the peace you have at the moment!

Shawni - posted on 04/07/2010

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dont worry my sons 14 months and he wont speak either, he says mama when hes mad at me lol and uh oh but thats it, i know a lot of toddlers who didnt speak until they were 2 or older, i find with my son he understands a lot of words i ask him to get his juice or if hes hungry and he responds to me he just cant form any words yet, im sure its normal :)

Krystyn - posted on 04/05/2010

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Tis ok. My son is almost three and he just started putting two words together. before he was two i couldnt really get him to say anything. She'll talk when shes ready.

Kathleen - posted on 04/04/2010

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Yea I wouldn't be too worried. My son who is almost 2 now did not talk much then either. Though he knew the words and understood when someone talked to him, he just didn't talk much. Every so often we'd hear a word. Then all of a sudden a few weeks ago his vocab exploded so as Louise said i wouldn't worry till she's around 2 and her vacab hasn't grown.

Tabitha - posted on 04/04/2010

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My son had many ear infections as a little bit. Because of these infections, it made it hard for him to hear, which meant he didn't learn to speak. By the time he was 15 months old he would only say ba for bus, mama, and da. I took him to the doc, who sent us to an Ear, Nose, and Throat Specialist, and we had his hearing tested. He could only hear about 15%, so we had to get him tubes. After we got him tubes, we called the local school speech therapist, and got him started in speech. He is now 5, and still in speech, but is making great progress to catching up to his peers.

Megan - posted on 04/04/2010

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Babbling IS talking, in it's own way. You shouldn't worry until after her second birthday. she should be able to say 20-50 words by then. The best way to get her talking and to improve her vocab is to talk to her. Read books, tell stories, and narrate what you're doing to her!

Amanda - posted on 04/03/2010

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Hun it is totally okay. Honestly I know some 2 year-olds that only say that much. I might be questioning it if she was 2 and ask the doctor. But where she is at now is totally normal. All children develop at different paces too. If she is higher on the scale for one area it may make her lag a lil in another area, but it is completely normal. Don't worry your good to go.

Helen - posted on 04/03/2010

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My daughter is now 2 today. She speaks in complete sentences and can count to 15! However, my son, who is now 4 going on 5 in July, didn't really speak well until about 2 1/2 and we took him to speach therapy which helped enormously. He now can read level 5 and is in JK. Every child speaks on their on time. 14 months? she still has a lot of time...no worries...plus girls are very dramatic and talk faster than boys!

Carla - posted on 04/03/2010

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my daughter is 14 months old as well, she has always had alot of ear infections and the doctors said they thought that was way she wasnt speaking yet and we got tubes put in and its been a month and it was a drastic change...she is learning a new word everyday now but had been behind only saying 3-4 words!

Sherri - posted on 04/03/2010

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they say not to worry until they're 2. my friends little boy didn't talk very well at all until around 2. so just give it some time, she'll be fine. your doctor would do an evaluation on her if he thought it was necessary. good luck!!

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My daughter was having this same question run through her mind. I got two responses and they were both that it is fine. 4-6 words is the norm.

Jen - posted on 04/02/2010

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dnt worry my 16 month isnt talking very gud eiher apart frm mamma dadda cat car gne wht ta bird

Alissa - posted on 04/02/2010

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My girlfriend and I just had this talk, because my daughter is 19 months and barely says ten words. She said her pediatrician told her not to worry until two and a half years. Different kids are different, and go at their own pace. I've heard if your kid walks early, they'll talk late. And we did baby signs, so she doesn't always need to talk to communicate. Don't worry, and don't compare with other kids. If I did, I would go nuts.

Kim - posted on 04/02/2010

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My daughter talked a lot before 12 months old then she pretty much stopped. I was worried and talked to the Ped and he said not to worry unless she wasn't talking at 15-18 months. Around 16 months she started talking again and hasn't stopped! There is a lot going on up until then, learning to crawl, stand, walk, fine motor skills, a lot of times talking gets shelved for awhile.

Kaman - posted on 04/02/2010

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no need to worry i dont tink, my little boy is 22 months and only recently he has started talking, my first child was also quite late so i am not at all worried about my baby girl who is 10 months

Olga - posted on 04/02/2010

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Hey Alex, I have daughter 14 months old, as well :). I do not think you should worry about your daughter talking in such young age :). Mine is saying Mama, Dada, Puppy, Baby - that is all her active words, but she understands everything and acts accordingly. I heard baby should say just a few words in this age. Keep talking to her and everything will be fine. My situation is more challenging for my baby because I am Russian and my hubby is American, so we talk in two languages with Alycia and she understands both of them and tries to talk in both languages. But of course do not expect clear words from her now, she will talk in her manner, making her words from what she hears and how she hears :). Wish you to have tons of fun talking to your little one. Keep-in-touch.

Noelle - posted on 04/02/2010

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Remember this... Albert Eistien did not start talking until he was 5 years old... I often find that when it comes to children, Even if you think "hey, I dont actually have that much time to sit and read a thousand books to her" I often say while I am cleaning, or running about in my car. I just talk to her and ask my children (of course my son it older) but if I see a house, I say "who sees the house and who can say house, everybody say house" I find reading REALLY helped my daughter. but just remember each child is different and are going to develope at different stages.

Nora - posted on 04/02/2010

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dont worry kids do there own thing in there own time soon she will not be quite, an her dad will wounder where the time went when she didnt speak. Its all very normal

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My daughter is two 1/2. She babbles and sings. Sometimes I know her words. She trys to make the right sounds. Sometimes the sounds are more right and sometimes more wrong. She trys. She'll get there eventually. I had speach thearapy growing up. Maybe I'll worry later but her hearing is fine, she's interested, building self-confidence, learning things by taking my hand to show me (together time), learning people interaction skills "I'm sorry, I don't know that word" , "can you tell me a different word"?... She is also big on telling me secrets right now. It really is secrets since the joy is in the one-on-one head turning back and forth, babbling and then giggling.

Jatana - posted on 04/01/2010

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Give her a little bit longer my son is 18 months and is starting to talk good but before then he was only saying moma most of the time and he started saying that around 15-16 months.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/01/2010

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My doctor said at 2 1/2 we would discuss a speech therapist if need be. I think my son was just being lazy, as soon as he turned 2, he wouldn't STOP talking!!!

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

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my 17 month old says very little also....I am not worried I was a late talker, my husband was a late talker and every child is differnt. Her dr. said we might want to conceder speech therpy and I told him when she is three and still is not talking then maybe we will think about it.

Kristan - posted on 04/01/2010

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That is normal becAUSE MY BEST FRIENDS LITTLE GIRL DIDN'T TALK FOR ALONG TIME. GIRLS ARE MUCH MORE QUITER THAN BOYS.

Gen - posted on 04/01/2010

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My three year old daughter didn't talk until 18 months and hasn't stopped since! I never worried because her hearing and intellect were clearly fine. Every baby and toddler develops at her own pace. Relax and enjoy the relative silence ;)

Carin - posted on 04/01/2010

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I wouldn't think it's much to worry about at this young age, like others have said. Her babbling to herself is good; she's figuring out her sounds and words. If you want her to communicate more, you could try sign language.

Ashley - posted on 04/01/2010

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My son is also 14 months, he says bite, momma, dada, doggy, juice, nose, eye, bye bye, a, sit, and a handful of other words. He understands my commands and things I say to him or ask him, but just isn't quite talking yet. Just give it time and work with her...make sure you talk to her normal, and not baby talk. They learn the most from us. Good luck!

Crystal - posted on 04/01/2010

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My boy is 23 months and has days where he just babbles and days where he says a few words. Then he'll show off and for a day or two be saying whole phrases - not quite correctly, but enough that you can get the gist of what he's saying. Don't worry! My husband started talking late and I didn't start talking until I was 4 and we're fine! Your girl will be too. :)

Ashley - posted on 04/01/2010

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Everyone goes at their own rate - look and see if you have a First Steps program in your area, though. Up until three they'll come to your home and tell you where she stand developmentally, bring in professional help to your home if she needs it, and offer you way to help her, too. It's really, truly worth it!

Clea - posted on 04/01/2010

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It's very normal, babies don't talk as soon as we like to think. Ever thought of teaching your baby to Sign? I started with my own son when he was 12 months old and it was amazing, definitely did not delay his speech and by the time he started talking he lost interest in the signs. All you are doing is adding gestures while you speak to your baby, similar to waving good-bye or blowing a kiss. Not only does it reduce so much frustration . . . it's fun! Either way before you know it your baby will be talking, and once they start you can't get them to stop!

Terri - posted on 04/01/2010

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This perfectly normal. My daughter is 15 months and only says the basics of mama, dada, taa and possibly hello today lol (not sure). She babbles most of the time and seems the babbling is becoming more like she is tring to say sentences in her own way. My nephew didnt speak til he was almost 2 and then he just flew ahead.

If she gets to 2 and is not saying much then maybe get her checked out. They all go at different levels. I have 4 children and they started talking at 2, 14 months, 20 months and my little one only just starting. So all over the place! Good luck :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2010

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I have a two year old boy who barely talks! He is starting to talk more but He was reading by the age of 13 months. Every child is different. All of my friend children talk but none of them read :) And it was from your baby can read, it was from good old fashioned reading twice a day for two to three hours!

Tiffany - posted on 03/31/2010

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my son is 2 years and 3 months old and he is just starting to talk i woulddnt werrie bout it because every child learns at his or her own pase

Shannon - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would not worry until 18 months. Then, if she is still not talking speak with her Doctor. My son was very slow to talk and we had him assessed by the East Bay Regional Center. He was diagnosed with a speech delay and has been getting speech services once a week. He did not really start talking until 26 months. He is now taking away! I was very worried, so just try to relax and know there are things out there if you decide you need them. We also taught him some sign to get us through! Good luck!

Liz - posted on 03/31/2010

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My son is 3 years old and still babbles but also says things. He is recieving speech through the school system. My daughter had the same issue and is 5 and fine. Butif you are worried ask your ped. about speech sometimes they see things we dont and its free through our school system.

Lea - posted on 03/31/2010

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If you read a lot of these posts on this site moms are worrying about their 2 year olds not talking, and even then its not such a big deal. You have a while to go before shes really talking, just keep talking to her!

Rachel - posted on 03/31/2010

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My daughter was just like yours. At 14 months she said opps, mommy and daddy...but that was about all. Now she is 20 months and she is picking words everyday.!!! She still does not have that many words but her doctor says she is normal and is developing at a healthy pace!!!! I would not worry!!!

Donna - posted on 03/31/2010

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hi there i wouldnt worry at all my wee girl whos now 2 an a half didnt say much until she was about 22 months , she turned 2 an nothing stops her now ! talks all day sings songs an has converstations i was a bit worried at 18 months she wasnt saying much, but from 2 it all changed , she still only a baby u have i wouldnt worry they all talk in there own time x

Shanan - posted on 03/31/2010

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No worries girl. They all develope at their own pace....usually by 18 mos or so you'll see alot more words coming out. They important thing is to keep talking to her and I bet you'll notice her understanding you more and following directions. My daughter is almost 16mos and she just spat out a bunch of new words this week. She doesnt have a huge vocab but she understands alot. My 4 yr old seemed to have a much larger vocab at this age. So just relax and enjoy the babble....it means shes practicing getting the words out ;)

Elizabeth - posted on 03/31/2010

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Ask your doctor... Each doctor and mother has a different opinions on this matter and they are really all great post's but your doctor might think something else. Don't worry though some children are quiet until they start school... A boy I watch was that way and when he started talking you could not get him to stop! haha Good luck

Lauren - posted on 03/31/2010

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i have a 21 month old son and he is now starting to pick up words and every day he is saying something new but at 14 months he didnt really talk that much except like mama and dada

Bethanie - posted on 03/30/2010

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My son said about the same amount of words at that age and just mainly babbled. He is now 21 months and says so many words, I can't count! He is also starting to put more phrases and sentences together. He knows lots of animals sounds and can point at things in books or on the tv and say what it is called. He counts to three and so far knows the color, blue. No need to fret at this age. Just have fun, read lots of books, make lots of funny animal noises and say the name of the animal. Talking to and reading to my son, I think has helped immensely. She's still learning! Even if you can't understand her jibber-jabber (which my son still does but he says it with such gusto!) just say "uh-huh", "really?" and shake your head yes. It will encourage her to "speak" more because she feels like you're listening. Also, teaching "please" and "thank you" I think are good words to start with.

Shari - posted on 03/30/2010

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my son just started talking just before he turned two in january, I had asked the doctor about and he told me not to worry it is more common with boys then girls. I was concerned because my daughter had such a large vocab at his age but everyday he is saying more things. having an older sibling does help. with my daughter we would read alot of books together and i would point to each picture and tell her what it was, eventually she could do it on her own. my son isn't so willing to sit and read but we do try with him as much as he'll let me. good luck and try not to worry too much until the age of 3

Liz - posted on 03/30/2010

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My son is 3 and still jibbers and is recieving speech. He is very smart and my daughter did the same and she is 5 and is fine. now if he is 4 and still is not talking dont worry they will talk but I would look into it more by professionals.

Coolgirl426 - posted on 03/30/2010

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my son didnt really start talking until he turned two...which i guess isnt that uncommon...now my daughter is 1 1/2 and has a great vocab but i think she picks alot of it up from her brother

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