I have a 2yr old that goes out of his way to throw, hit and bang his head when he gets mad, is this behavior impossible to dicipline. Nothing is working, is he going to outgrow this soon. I'm afraid he's going to hurt himself.

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Nicole - posted on 03/11/2009

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I have a  19 month old who has started to throw some bad fits like yours as well.  She'll pinch her face and throw her body and head which has hit stuff before.  I don't make a big deal when she throws a fit, I just look at her and tell her it's time for time out.  I put her in the same corner on a stool and set the timer for 2 minutes.  I started at 1 min. first.  If she gets off I just put her right back until the timer is up.  It seems to work a little.  We just started.  I got the idea from the show "The Nanny." She's great.  Hope it helps a little.

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Rachel - posted on 03/18/2009

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My daughter is doing the same thing but she wont only hurt herself shell hurt anyone and anything shes in reach of.  if i tell her no shell scream and start hittting trowing things. the bad thing is its like shes trying to get in trouble!! i dont understand it ive tryed ignoring her and timeouts but they didnt work. so any tips would help me as well Thanks

Amanda - posted on 03/15/2009

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both of my sons have that problem i tell my oldest no tv or time out and he stops try mentioning taking away his favorite thing to do.

Stacy - posted on 03/15/2009

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I have heard about a lot of kids doing this. My son did this and at first I ignored it, but then it got worse. I contacted our dr and after some testing we found out that he had hearing loss due to chronic ear infections and swollen tonsils. Due to the hearing loss he was unable to really hear what we were saying and then since he couldnt hear he was unable to communicate effectivly with us what he wanted. we were told that was he way of copeing with the hearing loss and getting our attention. He had a partial tonsilectomy and PE tubes put in- with in a month things got better. I know very few are from this cause but if they have a history of ear infections I would talk to the dr.

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My son was doing this! I just so happen to be working at a daycare who had evaluators come out for some of the kids there. My son did this infront of her a couple times and I  asked her what I could do! She asked me if he does this all the time and I said yes! She massaged his head cause he was banging it and it seemed to work! She told me it was sensory problem and to massage him where ever he is hurting himself after a few week I noticed a change and with in 2- 3 months or sooner he stopped doing it

Dana - posted on 03/13/2009

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your post made me feel better, I have been going through the same thing with my 22 month old.  He drops to the floor and hits his head on the floor.  I walk away from this, I don't want to give him attention for this behavior.  Plus, I can't stand to watch him hurt himself. He also throws things and screams when he is mad, I try and tell him that this is not nice and make him pickup what he threw. 

Leron - posted on 03/11/2009

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Our son did the same thing. We just got over it! We just didn't acknowlegde the behavior for the most part. Other times we would put him in a safe place such as the floor in his room until it passed. We were very clear that this is not acceptable behavior but didn't make too big of a deal out of it.

Branddi - posted on 03/10/2009

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This is very normal, especially in the "terrible" two's stage. My 2 yr old son bangs his head on the floor and the child gate. He throws temper tantrums. Unfortunately, it's just a stage they go through. I can say that you should not allow him or her to behave that way. You should stop them and tell them that it is bad and we don't act that way. After he/she does it again, make them sit on a time out. My son really doesn't like sitting on the couch and not playing. That stops him for a while. You have to be consistent with the discipline.

Kona - posted on 03/10/2009

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Unfortunately, this is a stage that some children go through. I saw on the mom show not too long ago that you should let them hurt themselves, because they will do it once and then most likely stop, either way, they will stop when they start hurting themselves.

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