I have a 4 yr old son who is scared of EVERYTHING.. noise baths everything.

Mel - posted on 12/13/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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He just started hating baths. He screams and crys gets all choked up. It is terrible. He wont try anything new cause he is so scared. He had a xmas concert for school and flipped out. When we force him to do it he loves it but I feel forcing him is terrible. We are a family who is on the go at all times. We race cars and during summer we race every weekend. I dont know what to do with my kid anymore. He wont sleep in his bed and now it coming out in his attitude. His lack of sleep has made things a lot harder on us.

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Maggie - posted on 12/14/2009

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stop forcing him to do things. Let him do them in his own time. Slow down, maybe he's just overwhelmed by all the activities your family does. Try staying home for a while letting him do things he likes. Bathtime is obviously something you can't give up on but maybe if he's more comfortable with the rest of the day then he won't be so worried about the bath. Maybe get him a new bath toy (let him pick it out) so he'll like to go in the bath. My kids really like those crayons you can draw on the tub with.

Kathy - posted on 12/13/2009

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Are ou sure nothing has happend to him? Sounds like he's had a tramatic experience.

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Luciana - posted on 12/15/2009

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He might be acting out for some type of attention. I would try to make him feel more comfortable. Like make it FUN for him, NOT A TASK. Have him choose the toys to put in the bath or if he want alot of bubbles or a lil... Give him a choice!!! kids love to feel as if they are in charge. In a battle with your kids, everybody loses. I let my son have alot of choices, he just doesnt know that i set him up for what I wanted...lol Getting dressed, bath time, eating healthy. etc. He does it all with no problem.
well I hope this helps, it doesnt hurt to try. Dont give up!!!
It sounds like a power struggle, Hes testing you!!!!
good luck
Lucy

Shannon - posted on 12/15/2009

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Maybe he is looking to be babied a little, like litte sis. Try talking to him about his feelings and what they mean. Also try giving him some one on one attention and give him lots of encourgment to build his self esteem. He sounds very inscure right now, and needs to know how much you love him and that his fears are recognized and not just a nuisance.

Cindy - posted on 12/15/2009

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The first thing I would do is speak with his pediatrician. Is this something new for him? Has a major event happend recently? Children thrive on routine, something as simple as a recent move or addition to the family could "throw" them off. If I were you I would definetly investigate further.

Kimberley - posted on 12/15/2009

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My daughter for some reason had a huge fear of the bath and shower, it was just something that happened overnight. We tried absolutely everything! What I found helped her was distraction, for eg we ended up buying some crayons that are specifically for drawing in the bathtub, but we used it in the shower first and then after she was ok with shower then gradually got her into the bath. My daughter is scared of most things too, but it something that they will venture into when they are ready. I don't push her but I just find if she is distracted enough it works!

Racena - posted on 12/14/2009

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Every child is different and they go through these weird stages at different times, like for six months my three year old was scared of the tub so I put him in the shower with his dad. My 5 year old wont walk across wood planks now hes afraid he will fall through. Children get anxieties just like adults. You just have to find a way to work with him let him know its important to try let him no he has done it before and that he is brave. But if hes to scared or freaks out pull him back let him work up to it.

Mel - posted on 12/13/2009

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Yes we have a one year girl that he has helped us out with.. he hates the sink cause he cant fit in it. Our bath times are always fun and relaxing for us all.

Kathy - posted on 12/13/2009

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Have you tried back to basics? Bath in the sink, or a baby bath... make it fun and less intimidating again?

Mel - posted on 12/13/2009

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Nothing has had happen to him. He goes off and on about being scared about baths and it just gets worse. He is very emotional kid and we lost..

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