I have been trying the "controlled sleep" method for a long time with my 16 month old and it's not working...please help!

Penny - posted on 02/04/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I nursed my daughter and finally weaned her at 15 months. She used to fall alseep at the breast. When that didn't work anymore I started doing the controlled crying thing where I go in every 5-15 minuttes and lay her back down. Each time is a little bit longer in between. I don't say anything to her and just lay her down. She is still crying for longer than 20-40 minutes at least 3-5 times a week. There are a couple days where she'll go right to sleep after 5-10 minutes, but I would like it to be that way every night. I'm pretty consistant, but must be doing something wrong.



Please does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks, Penny

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Jacci - posted on 02/04/2009

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i do agree.. if you go in there it makes it harder on them..



the only thing i could suggest since it seems your pretty consistant is playing with her more in her room.. especially right before bed.. so she feels comfortable in her room... i had to do it with my daughter and now she loves her room.. so now even if she doesnt want to goto bed shell play with her teddy or gabb at the decorations or toys in her room and will eventually goto sleep



one other thing i did to get her comfortable in her room was i gave her 30 minutes of independant playing time.. i put her in her crib with lots of toys and left the light on.. then i left.. we have a video monitor so it was easy to keepan eye on her but you could always just check on her too

Kathy - posted on 02/04/2009

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I personally wouldnt even think of going into my sons room if was crying, especially at this age (hes 18 months). I had to give in around 10 months and just let him cry himself to sleep, it worked! I think that every time you go into the room it would just make her more upset seeing you!?

Good Luck :)

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Eron - posted on 02/10/2009

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oh bless her i hope she's better soon - if it's not 1 thing it's another eh? and yep things are very busy here lol xxx

Louise - posted on 02/10/2009

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this method didnt work with my son either. eventually at 10 months i just left him to cry, 4 days later he was going down with no crying and sleeping through.

Penny - posted on 02/09/2009

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Hi Eron, All of those suggestions are good, thank you. She does have a nightlight in her room. I may have to cut down her naps because she usually sleeps around 2 hours. She has now very sick with vomitting and liquid stool so I have to get that under control first and then we'll get back on track. I appreciate your help! I imagine you are very busy with 4 little ones. You go Mama!

Eron - posted on 02/06/2009

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i have 4 little monsters (2 absolute dreamy 1's easy in every way and 2 very demanding difficult 1's - 1 still is if im honest lol) and have had to use controlled crying with all of them @ some time or other, but my understanding is that after a few days or so the crying stops because if its all consistant and routine then baby knows its bedtime, you do seem to know what your doing but just in case i have a few suggestions.... maybe she is napping for too long in the day????(had to cut this down with 1 of mine - they are all different), does she have a nightlight? -maybe she would be happier with one? and i dont want to tread on any toes but i think its harder on the mummies than the babies when we have to go in to the room, you know your babies different cries better than anyone so you will know if to go in or not but i perosnally think that if you keep going in and lying her back down without makin any fuss or giving any attention then she is secure in knowing that you are there and if its no big deal to you then its no big deal to her (she might sense if your stressed).  This method is designed to work within a few days and really shouldnt be a struggle on a weekly basis so if she carries on  you should probably speak to a health visitor to see if there's something that your missing. it might work for some but i wouldnt recommend leaving her to cry and not checking on her - you just never know, good luck xxx



 

Penny - posted on 02/05/2009

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Thanks girls. I think she is really string willed it seems. I will try not going in as much and maybe not even at all any more. I hope that someday she will just go there without resistance and going to sleep quietly. I appreciate your input. :)

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