I have tried everything when it comes to discipline. Someone please give me tips.

Amy - posted on 05/05/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have tried time out spanking calmly talking to him. EVERYTHING. I need some help. Also he shuts down when he know hes in trouble and i try to talk to him.

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Bailey - posted on 05/10/2011

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Believe it or not attention really helps heal children with behavior issues. Just one hour of one on one mom to child time can dramatically improve a child's whole demeanor. Kids often lash out when they don't feel like they have enough attention. Try increasing your one on one time and ignore bad behavior. ALWAYS encourage and celebrate good behavior. Positive reinforcement lets your child know what it is you WANT from him, instead of constantly being reminded what it don't like him to do.

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Lana - posted on 05/19/2011

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all these are useful hints i have recently found that my 4 yo who i have been having the same problem with has food allergies now that these allergens have been removed the behaviour has improved and still improving.

Sharon - posted on 05/09/2011

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I've found the advice in "Positive Discipline" very helpful with my 4 year old. The website is www.positivediscipline.com. It is not about punishment at all, but tools for redirecting, calming down, making agreements ahead of time. I had a lot of problems with my son and time outs, etc. He just turned them into huge power struggles and mega crying/screaming sessions. This has been a sanity saver many days. Not that some tantrums don't happen, but we get them over with much sooner.

Jenna - posted on 05/08/2011

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I really really liked the book Beyond Time Out. It was so practical and helped me immensely with correcting my child's behavior.

Peggy - posted on 05/06/2011

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the daycares do 1 minute in time per year of age. So if he is 4 years old he gets 4 minutes in time out. You can also try taking away his favorite toys. My daughter went through a spell like that at about 3 and I took TV and her favorite toys away for about a day and she behaved. If all else fails, tell him to sit on his bed and think about what he's done. Make sure he doesn't play and only leave him in there for about 5 or 10 minutes. Enough time for him to calm down then try talking to him.

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