I just wanna ask an opinion, my 2nd child he's just turning 3 yrs. old and he can't talk yet?

Michelle - posted on 09/05/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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what to do, or is there something wrong about my child.

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Cindy - posted on 09/07/2009

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I live in NYC and my son's pediatrician asked me if he was saying certain words and I realized he wasn't...I had him evaluated and he's in the city's Early Intervention program. Most people say boys take a while to talk, which is true in most cases, but it's better to be safe then sorry and get him evaluated. Not to make you worry, but they did find some levels of PDD (Pervasive Developmental Disorder), which can be a sign as to some level of autism. Again this does not have to be the case for you, but get him checked out anyway to rule out anything like that. My son's been in the program for 8 months now and he's improved so much. Good luck and God bless

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probably a good idea to have him evaluated for sure! I have to agree with all the other mothers, there may be nothing to worry about at all, but its good to check just in case

Brenda - posted on 09/05/2009

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I had a problem with my daughter as well at that age, she would rather use her hands and kind of sign and point rather than talk, I had her hearing checked just incase, and it turned out ok, but I really had to work with her to use her words, there was alot of frustrating times but we got through it, I also had to slow down my speaking and that helped out alot....dont stress over it, make an appt with his dr and write down some concerns you have.....just try and encourage him a little more to use his words and reward him with a hug or a favorite book for you to read to him....little things like that go a long way....

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Meredith - posted on 09/08/2009

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i had a girl first, who seemed to talk from birth (lol) and now i have a little boy who just turned 2, and it was a very different experience. i was really worried because he wasn't talking, so i started asking everyone, and almost everyone i talked to with boys said that they talked later. the dr. said she wouldn't even start to worry until at least 3, and that even then she wouldn't freak out or anything. it may be that he is able to communicate his needs in other ways, and therefore sees no need to talk. but the other moms are right, just about every state/county health dept. offers free evaluation and speech services. it would probably make you feel better to at least have him evaluated, but i know that i have never talked to anyone who said that their child had some serious, lifelong problem from not talking. i also don't believe that it has anything to do with intelligence, because my son still doesn't say as much as his female counterparts, but he is super smart. good luck - before long i'm sure he will be talking a blue streak!! :)

Lyndsay - posted on 09/07/2009

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You should get him checked out. The general rule (here) is that if your child is not talking by 2, he should see a speech therapist. That is, after you've checked his hearing and ruled out deafness. However, keep in mind that second children are usually slower, since they have an older sibling to do all the talking for them.

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Not to concern anyone, but being non-verbal can be an indicator of some mild and some severe problems. As someone who works with children in the education system, I wish people were more comfortable with seeking the advice of a specialist. Much of the time early intervention is key to correct any trouble. I think we as parents sometimes dread the possible outcome and fear the worst. Most of the time the worst case senario is not reality, but even if it is, the earlier parents know the earlier a child can recieve treatment and the greater the hope for making great strides towards hitting the developmental benchmarks.

Ebeth - posted on 09/05/2009

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my son will be turning 3 on the 30th and he is not talking that much...i consulted his pediatrician and he referred me to a child developmentalist...as i am observing my son, i am very sure that there is no problem with his hearing since he can follow the rhythm of the songs that he used to hear. he can also say a few words, so i decided to enroll him in a toddler school. he is the only child in our home and he is surrounded by adults, he doesn't have any playmates which prompted me to bring him to school.

after his 3rd birthday and still, if he will not be able to form sentences in his speech, i will bring him to the developmentalist referred by our pedia.

Roberta - posted on 09/05/2009

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my son will be 3 in November and he is just starting to talk more and in sentences. i asked the pediatrician at his 2 year check up and she said as long as he is saying a certain amount of words, he's normal. i suggest asking your pediatrician also. my son is not the only 3 year we know who can not talk, so your son may jusy be fine.

Tonya - posted on 09/05/2009

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My dauther is 17 months old and says a few words already so I would talk to his doctor about it. Some kids are a little slower but I'm not sure about the age range. Hope all goes well

Jocelyn - posted on 09/05/2009

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my son will be 3 in january and he also doesn't talk. i also have quite a few friends with 2-3 yr olds that don't talk (all boys lol) we got my son checked out, and i would recommend that you do the same, just to be sure. neither my son of any of the other little boys i know have anything wrong, they just don't talk. i was told my son was just too busy to bother talking (and that is sooo true lol)
if he does end up needing some sort of therapy, it is covered by health (at least in canada it is)

Christie - posted on 09/05/2009

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I would say go have him evaluated. It could be nothing, but it could be something. Getting him evaluated wouldn't hurt. More then likely, your pediatrician will send him to a speach theorpist who will evluate him and then more then likely send him to get his hearing checked (this is just in case, more to just rule it out). Then if he needs speech, your theropist can then recommend what program for school stuff he needs to get involved in. I have a 3 year old in speech and started him at 2 1/2 years old and have seen a lot of improvement. The most important thing is to not blame yourself if he does have a problem. You are getting him help now and doing everything you can. Good luck!

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I am a school teacher. There may be no problem at all, but you need to have him evaluated by your pediatrician and the local school districts. If he has a speech or other problem the local school district is required to offer therapy from newborn through age I think 25 in some cases. Most people don't realize this and then their child is in kindergarten and already significantly behind in speech. contact them now and it could be corected by the time he starts school. Good luck

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