I'm lacking a social life, any suggestions?

Tasha - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




My friends ditch me most of the time the day of when we make plans 2 weeks in advance to do things with our kids. I dont know why but its hard for me to get really friendly with a stranger and I would make friends off my old friends but I never get to do anything with my friends. My husband is my true best friend and I'm so thankful for him but he works 60+ hrs so its hard for us to do anything. I just feel so lonely all day every day and the only thing that keeps my mind off it is staying active during the day with my 2 yr old son.


Christie - posted on 04/26/2011




Look for a local MOMS club or MOPS club. They are national organizations (Mothers Offering Moms Support, and Mothers of Pre-Schoolers) the MOPS just means the kids have not yet entered school ~ they usually have meetings monthly, playdates, and other things. It would be a great way to meet some new moms and find similar interests and consistent activities. I joined because I was in a similar position and my oldest is now 13 and I still have friends from when I was in MOMS club :)

Valerie - posted on 04/26/2011




i would go to a family center, ymca, park or other place where moms and preschoolers hang out to make some friends that are cosistently active with their children...that way play dates that get cancelled arent the only things on the agenda


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Melissa - posted on 05/01/2011




I was the same way. Playgroup has totally changed everything :) I get out and get to talk to adults..About adult things (Soooo exciting lol) And my daughter has totally come out of her shyness shell.

Elisabeth - posted on 04/28/2011




Hi Tasha. I completely understand when you get lonely everyday. My husband,my best friend, is at work everyday all day too and I dont have friends with kids, so its me and my 22 month old son. We try to go to playgroups and do different indoor and outdoor activities but I'm a little more shy when it comes to bigger groups. If I may ask you where are you from? I'm from Lethbridge Alberta. If you are from this area I would be up for a coffee?

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I have made friends though a weekly mom playgroup sponsored by a local temple (and I am not religious), I also signed my son up for a mommy and me music class, and we have made friends through that as well.

You may want to sign your son up for preschool, specifically a religious one or a COOP one, as those tend to have the most active parents and thereby the greatest chance for making friends.

at the end of the day, you just have to put yourself out there. It is nervewracking and tough. I am naturally shy and it was out of sheer desperation that I started talking ot people. I know that sounds so sad. One of hte mom's of another child at my son's day care invited us over to her child's birthday party. We hit it off and did a play date a few months later. Now almost two years later and we are good friends and do something a couple of times a month.

Louise - posted on 04/27/2011




Go to mums and tots groups normally run by a church but you do not need to be religious to attend. This is the way I found most of my friends now. To begin with it is hard being the newbie but once you get over your shyness and break the ice with the other mums things will get much better. I now go to three mums and tots a week with my 2.5 year old daughter as each offers something different. I have a huge circle of friends now and I try and get involved with what ever is going on whether a coffee morning or fund raising. These are really good social places to go for you and your son as you will acquire friends and so will he.

Being at home all day with a two year old is quite depressing at times so get out there and meet some mums that feel the same. Now us mums get together in the evening every now and again and go out together to have a laugh. Life is to short to be lonely. Look for your local mums and tots today it will make such a difference to your life.

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