i need help getting my 2-year old to get rid of her pacifier! help me!

Delbra - posted on 10/03/2009 ( 49 moms have responded )

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she has to have it! We cannot go without 1. We hace extras put up just in case she loses the one she has. I have gome to Wal-greens in the middle of the night to buy them and it's beginning to work my nerves! Help me.

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Jodie - posted on 10/09/2009

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hi to get rid of the dummy with my girls there was a tree in our back yard and we told them both if the hung it up the fary will bring them something little and so they went ahead and put them on the tree and then the next morning they woke up to find a little fairy statue for them both and a little cuddly toy that they could take with them and that was about 6 months ago and they havent touched a dummy since that day i was so glad it worked

Crystal - posted on 10/09/2009

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is there something she really wants to do? help cook, etc? my hubby (when he was little) had to get rid of his when he wanted to help put together a puzzle - his dad told him that babies couldnt do it - but if he threw out his pacifier, he'd let him try.



I've also heard that if you start to trim down the pacifier (make it shorter), then over time, little ones will get used to it being shorter and shorter, then take it away...



my little one - refused to take a pacier. she would suck on it for a minute, then launch it across the room.

Vanessa - posted on 10/09/2009

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My honest opinion is just through it away. She is old enough to understand that its gone.
And then when she cries just let her so she can get over the emotions in a week is will all be forgotten

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Will power is the biggest thing. My on gave it up in a day no problem Whew!!! By nephew now that was a fight... She let him cry about it. Then she would walk around with him or play with him to calm him down. My niece she somehow convinced her that it was yucky and she threw it away herself... Good luck!!!

Alison - posted on 10/08/2009

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When I wanted my oldest son to give up his soother, I cut the tips off all the ends of the sucky part, just a little bit. He didn't like that and after a little protesting finally gave them up.

Samantha - posted on 10/08/2009

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my 2 year old wouldnt get rid of hers either but one day i took scissors and cut the end off of it and gave it to her and when she found out that something was wrong i told her it was broken and that she needed to throw it away and then every time she would ask for it i would tell her that she was a big girl and threw it away..... she was upset for a few days but i am happy to say that we r binky free now!!!!! :)

Blythe - posted on 10/08/2009

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UM, I do not know, my kids thankfully all gave them up on their own when they were under 6 months old. Maybe it is time to trade the pacifier in for a great new toy or something. Or a trip to the dentist to prevent her from wanting the pacifier again. Good Luck with this one.

Desiree - posted on 10/08/2009

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My son was 2 and a half when I got tired of finding one every night, so I told him that the binki monster stole it and he was ok with it. They also have some books that will help them with it. Ours was something about a bunny and he had to restrict his binki to his bedroom only, then only at night and finnaly he gave it away to a new baby.

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2009

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My 3 yrs old birthday came up and we told her thats the end of nookies and got rid of them cold turkey...the first couple days were bad (looks of throwing fits, ect) now 1 month later she dont even ask for one

Dawn - posted on 10/08/2009

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the problem i have got is that i have a new baby also who has a dummy so whatever i do with my 3 year olds dummies he will use his brothers. we tried sending his to the moon tied to a balloon as he loves the moon but this didnt work, i am not sure if it is just me being weak though.

Toni - posted on 10/07/2009

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i took my son to the lake, and told him that the baby duck needs his binky because he lost his so we threw it in the lake, and we are very happy about that.

Judith - posted on 10/07/2009

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I had trouble getting my one year old to get rid of it but we won. What i did was pout it up during the day and he would only have it at night then i slowly went to every other night then it disappered. Now i just have to get rid of his bunny.

Michel - posted on 10/07/2009

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I took my daughters away when she was young,but I know a lot of people that have used different things. My sister in law started taking her sons and tying it to his bed so he would only be able to have it while laying down. Eventually he stopped sue to the fact that the string was only so long.

Another idea is to get your 2 yr old to bury it in the back yard and have her water it everyday with the hopes of growing many pacifiers. Soon she will forget.

Just some ideas. Hope you find something that works.

Michelle - posted on 10/07/2009

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yep they will cry for it but its best to get rid of it before 3 and it hurts there teeth and gums. we went cold turkey and listened to him cry himself to sleep the 1st night then gave him a toy to go to bed, blankets sippy cup of water

Krista - posted on 10/07/2009

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Just take it away. I did it recently with my son and thought it would be a HORRIBLE experience. There was crying, but after 3 days he completely stopped asking for it. Another mom on COM, seeing my success, tried it with her son. Again, 3 days and it was over.
If you have to, make up a story. Tell her that the pacifier fairy called you and said that she found out that your daughter turned 2 and that means she's a big girl so she has to come and get the pacifiers. However, if your daughter DID give them up, she'd get a special surprise in return.

Lauren - posted on 10/07/2009

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I'm not sure if you have already tried something, but I just went through this with my three year old. I have to agree with an earlier post I tried, "The binky fairy" It was painless! I explained that the binky fairy called and asked for her binkys so she could give them to babies who needed them, and since she was a big girl now she had no use for them. We made an envelope decorated it with makers and stickers, she placed her binkys inside and licked it closed. We then went out to the mail box and she "mailed" the letter herself. I skipped nap that day so she would be good and tired. She went down her first night with out a hitch and was VERY excited the next morning to see what was left for her. I remember having my binky taken away from me, it was very traumatic. I didn't want to put her through that. We all know that Santa, the tooth fairy, and the Easter Bunny don't exist, but we do it...right? Kids buy into that kind of thing, so it makes the transition so much easier. Now I have the cute little envelope with her binkys tucked away, so when she gets older she may appreciate it!

Charis - posted on 10/07/2009

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Sarah, nice advise! I was just reading the posts because I have triplets, 2 1/2 years old and I am tired of the dummies. If they dont have them they cry, they want them more than anything else, even they want to go to Kinder with them. If I am not finding one it is a big deal I will try to call the Dummy Fairy ASAP!!!!!!!! I will let you know soon... Thanks again

Janet - posted on 10/07/2009

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One way my sister-in-law did it was she told her daughter that when she turned 3 the soother fairy would come and take her soother away and give her a special present. So the day she turned 3 they took her soother away, gave her a doll to sleep with and that seemed to work out ok. I think she moaned for a little bit but eventually she got used to it. Just an idea to try.

Evelyn - posted on 10/07/2009

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simply tell the baby its lost, it fell out the window, went down the toilet, anything, just take it away cold turkey, your baby will cry for a day and thats it, it happened with my son. just do it. most of the time its the parent who is not ready to let go of baby stuff.

ElizaBeth - posted on 10/07/2009

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With my daughter i mail her a letter from sesame street saying (roughly) "Hello there (childs name). a couple of our friends have just had babies but unfortunately the babies have no binkies!!!. i hear you have some. could you please send them to us?"....My daughter gt so excited about sesame street babies she gathered all of her and put them in a box. we then drove to the post office and "mail it"(i gave the guy behind the counter a note saying to just throw the box away after we had left). and then a couple days later "sesame street" mailed her another letter saying "thank you for the binkies and thank you for being such a big girl"



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If she doesnt like sesame street you can use any show. Dora, Little Bear, Franklin, Maxy and Ruby. anything lol. just be sure to chose her favorite show.

Sarah - posted on 10/06/2009

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We have tried everything with my daughter. I have clipped tips, given them to the garbage guy, limited them to bed-time only. She will be three in december and she still has them. Normally I tell her to suck it up and get over it. Crying is not going to get Mom to cave. However, when we take them away completely or limit them to bed time only, she starts chewing on her fingers, to the point where they get chapped and bleed and if her fingers start to hurt she turns to thumb-sucking. I would rather have her on the binkie than on the thumb, so I always wind up caving. (I have friends that are still telling their 8 year old to quit sucking her thumb) I am planning on trying the vinegar trick next, that is one I hadn't heard, but as of right now, our doc said to let her have it. She's going to do less damage to her teeth with a bink than she will to her fingers. And it causes a ton of stress on her. If anyone has any ideas for this I would love to hear them. I am pregnant again and am terrified that she will take the new baby's binks.

LeAnna E. - posted on 10/06/2009

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Have a going away party for the binki. It REALLY WORKS!!! throw all binki's away while she is sleeping or away...I MEAN ALL. Clean all hiding and collection places so one can't be found by her at a later date. Plan one special day devoted to the binki fairy and how neat it is. Plan a tea party, special movie or craft and go to the store and let her pick out one special balloon to send a not to the binki fairy. At the end of the day before bath and nap tie the binki and a special not to a balloon and let her set it free. Explain that she is a 'big girl' and should be treated as such. Let her hold the balloon and when she is ready tell her that we are sending the binki and the special letter to the fairy so that she can pass it onto another special little boy or girl. I know it sounds corney but sometimes you have to think like a little person and what will appeal to them. When you plan the events make sure you are talking about how she is a big girl and how it was so special. We did this with our 2 1/2 year old and she was smart enough to hide binki's. This really worked with her and she had such a great time too. Let us know how it goes but be sure to make a huge deal about it or she will loose intrest and it won't be as fun for her.

Crystal - posted on 10/06/2009

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my daughter was very attatched as well....we tried different things, incl cutting the end of them more and more every night, but she clenched onto it like nothing was wrong!! the only thing that worked for us was cold turkey...it only took 2 nights of not so much fun!! but that was it!

Natasha - posted on 10/06/2009

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My son is 19 months old and the "binky" is only for the bed at bedtime. He does not miss it that much now. I made it into a game. When he gets up in the morning, before he leaves the bedroom he has to tell binky "later" and leave it in the crib. I kept it up and now he tosses it himself with a smile on his face. One day at a time darlin' just keep at it. :)

Sebrina - posted on 10/06/2009

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I watched one of these nanny show's and they used the paci fairy you do just like a tooth fairy tell her u r going to leave it for the pacy fairy so she can take it to other babies that need them and she will leave her suprise in place of the paci. I was lucky and they all mine gave there's up before one but it's a thought.

Tracy - posted on 10/06/2009

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We slowly "lost" all but one bink then when we were down to the last one, I took advice of a friend and cut the tip off of the nipple-no more sucking capability. She slept with it in her hand for about a week after that then gave it up completely.

Keri - posted on 10/06/2009

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i tried just giving my son one but he would hide them on me, and when i figured out he was hiding them and not loosing them i went around my house and found all of them, i hid them and only gave him that one. when he hid it i told him there was no more and gave him his stuffed worm that we used to brake him of the bottle. he took it and that was that went and got the one he hid and never gave him another one!!! yes it is hard and there will be nights that she will scream but just sit with her in bed read a story, some times i even had to rock mine to sleep but it is worth it trust me!!!!

Wendy - posted on 10/06/2009

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Try soaking the pacifiers in vinegar I know it sounds gross but most kids hate the taste of it and it wont harm them I had to do this for my daughter when I was breaking her of the pacifier.

Bryn - posted on 10/06/2009

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We started reading pacifiers are not forever, a board book we got from the library and then giving up your pacifier is easy as 1..2..3. The books were friendly and helped open up conversations about being a big girl and getting the idea in her head we did that for about 3 -4 months off and on and then she started to show more interest in being a big girl with out it. I agree though when you do decide to get rid of it...know there is tears and trouble sleeping but stick with your decision...the more you go back to give it to her it will only be harder next time. I think the books help too prepare them for it. there is also the pacifier fair idea that they can gather all their pacifiers and the fairy takes them away that night and leaves a big girl gift too. Or mailing them to little babies that need them... or watching the garbage truck take them away. If they can be apart of getting gathering them and know what is coming it is easier I think because they know what to expect and can reason a bit more

Lava - posted on 10/06/2009

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My son was about 27 months before he gave it up. started cutting the tips off the pacifiers so when he put them in his mouth it felt uncomfortable. After about 2 days he completely left them alone.

Tash - posted on 10/06/2009

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after reading a few of the reaply to your question,iwent to put my 2.5 year old down for asleep and we could not find any dummys i had him searching as well so in the end i thought great oppertunity to get ride of it tod him that it has got lost he said that maybe our dog ate it,it took him a hr to get to sleep last night a asked a few times but so far so good if he askes for it i tell him to go find it and just says misty ate it(our dog)i feel bad but im sick of waking up in the middle of the night just to put his dummy in,thanks guys for your help and good luck delbra

Jessica - posted on 10/05/2009

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Try involving your daughter in the process of getting rid of the paci..have her gather up all of the pacifiers herself and tell her you are going to give them to a little girl who really needs them but doesnt have any.. she will be the one to get rid of them and she will think she is helping someone too!

Sherry - posted on 10/05/2009

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i told mine when you turn 2 new babies have to have your pacies i ask him if he wanted new babies not to have a pacie and he understood

Clara - posted on 10/05/2009

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Wot I did was, wait until the Christmas and explained that if it was put under the tree that santa would leave an extra special present. It worked because when they asked for it back I said that they had to give the present back. She was 2 and half though I think the extra couple of months makes the difference.

Tash - posted on 10/04/2009

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we told our oldest that the garbage man needed it for his baby and got him to put them in the bin and watched the truck take it away and he was fine,know my youngest is 2.5, and i dont think it is going to be that easy to take it away,but i have found these reply intresting

Yvonne - posted on 10/04/2009

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This is what My husband and I did. First we got rid of all the pacifiers in the house except her favorite one. Then I clipped the very tip of it off and gave it back to her. She still sucked on it but she kept pulling it out of her mouth and I told her it was broken. the next day I clipped just a little bit more off. I continued to do this every day until the nipple was gone. She cried for 1 day the second day she asked about it and whinned alot but by the 3erd day she was fine. Just dont make the mistake of leaving and extra one lying around because if she finds it you will have to start all over and believe me it is no fun.

Andrea - posted on 10/04/2009

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Hay Rose just a little info which may make you feel better BOYS don't think about toilet training till 3yrs there brain develop slower than girls thats not to say you carn't toilet train a 3yr old boy but if he is not interested he is proberly not ready.

Rose - posted on 10/04/2009

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I have the same problem my son is 21months old and he only sleeps with his pacifier, I don't know if I should try getting rid of it, I'm trying to pottytrain him (which is a total failure!), so I really wish I could help,but keep me posted if you eventually get rid of the pacifier!! Good luck

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one of two things I have heard works.



#1 get rid of all of them, throw them all out! Then when she asks, help her search the house for them.... them say "I am so sorry, They are gone"



she will throw fits just confort her and distract her with a "big girl" thing to do like putting on"play" makeup etc.



#2 let her keep the pacifier, but keep reminding her all the perks of being a big girl and special things she can do and places to go, but then say....ooopps you still suck on a binkie, so I guess we cant do that or go there, until you are a big girl and dont need your binkie anymore....it gives her a reason for giving it up!

Andrea - posted on 10/04/2009

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my sister also gave her kid dummies to "santa" so he could give them to new babys

Andrea - posted on 10/04/2009

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there is a thing called "stop that" you put it on your nails to stop bitting them we put it on every dummie we could find and put them back. after a few tastes of a few he stoped but on the other hand he did cry for a day or two we had to find ways to keep him from thinking about it. but he just never asked for it again.

Sarah - posted on 10/04/2009

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With our first, we just removed it but it ended up being too traumatic for her as every chance she ever got to get a hold of another child's dummy she would. We often found her underneath her sisters cot with the dummy!



With our second, when she was two, we did what the Super Nanny had suggested and had the Dummy Fairy come and take it away in it place a present was left. Miriam really understood the concept that another baby needed her dummy more than she did now and she was comfortable and we had no issues at all.



Good luck!

Reshitta - posted on 10/03/2009

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Thats right and when I had my other 2 I did not give them one better yet they didntlike it cause they were breastfeed and I didnt force it cause those things arethe DEVIL! LOL It took my bestfriend til her child was almost 3! I went to her house and stayed for a few days and took the thing and dared her to buy another one!

Delbra - posted on 10/03/2009

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Alrite Sista, I'm diggin the realness! thanks and I will so much take ur advice. The nest time she loses that thing, it's just going to be lost

Reshitta - posted on 10/03/2009

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Yes I understand all of my kids sound like ambulances are in my house LITTERALY! they cry so loud so finally before I lost my nerves my kids have thier own room and tv so I turn on spongebob or Obi or whatever kids like yo gabba gabba LOL (i know im terrible) let them cry to they self give them apples, or whatever they absolutly love and let them be, crying will not hurt she will she that you will no longer give in and she is not in controll of you

Reshitta - posted on 10/03/2009

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Are you a stay at home mom? If so this will be easy and hard at the same time but you have to have the will power. Cold turkey is the best way if she cries for it give her one of her favorite things carrots or apples whatever she likes. Another thing you can try is getting a Nuk cup it will sooth her want for it and you can give her juice or water she will start to forget about it. It worked for my son LOL it was snowing out and he left it in the car cause he feel asleep and I refused to go back outside ha ha and never gave it back to him he got over it when I did this stuff

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