I need help, how can i get my son to go to sleep with out me? hes 3 pls help

Kate - posted on 10/21/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son refuses to go to sleep with out me laying with him or sitting beside him and rubbing his back he screams and cries, gets out of bed ABSOLUTELY will not stay in bed unless i am with him until he falls asleep. Does anyone have any suggestions? I dont know if i should just turn on the nightlight and shut the door and let him scream, he wont even stay in his room he constantly jumps up as son as i walk out.. PLEASE HELP if you can Thank you

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Kate - posted on 10/28/2010

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lol true thank you very mush i will start on these as soon as my kids are back on sunday....... i really appreciate all the help i have no family around and none of my friends close by have the same issues with there kids

Jessica - posted on 10/27/2010

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My daughter was the same way until about a year and a half ago. She would scream if we left her in her bed or she would sneak in bed with us during the night. The key is to be consistant. If he gets out of bed just put him back without saying a word and walk out. It doesn't matter how many times he does it, he will wear out before you do and eventually will fall asleep. Just keep doing that and know that no matter how many times he gets up eventually it will work. It's hard work I know, but whoever says kids are easy must have a live at home nanny. lol

Kate - posted on 10/26/2010

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my son is basically the same the hardest is that he stays at his dads every other week for 5 days so were trying to do the same thing but his job is more exhausting so when he wakes up and fgoes to daddies bed daddy doesnt notice until he wakes from the morning alarm lol its so hard

Tonya - posted on 10/26/2010

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i know exactually how u feel. my two year old son got a toddler bed for his birthday and he still sleeps with me ...i have to put my arm around him and he sleeps right up under me ... lol i need help to

Kate - posted on 10/24/2010

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thanks i agree with not spoiling with to much love its not possible. But with him its gotten to the point that if he opens his eyes and im not there he comes into my bed and if i try to put him back to his bed at 3am when he wakes up he flips out screammming his head off and wakes my daughter, and then i have to try to get them both back to bed and still get up to get them off to daycare and school so i can go to work.

Ilene - posted on 10/24/2010

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My daughter is almost 3 and still wont go to sleep without me if I'm home. I like have that time with her. As soon as she's in a deep sleep I get up and go about my business. Sometimes she wakes up mad at me but most the time she wakes up happy. My husband hates it and says I've made her to needy and spoiled. I don't think you can spoil a child with to much love and attention.

Casey - posted on 10/22/2010

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Have a look at super nanny online, I was watching something on tv the other day and she had a mother on there who had the same problem as you and she had to stay in the room with her child in the bed and she slowly took a step back towards the door every minute or so and if the child got out of bed she wasn't to speak to him or make eye contact with him she just put him back in his bed and started to back out again, it took about a week but eventually she was able to put him to bed and walk out without him screaming or getting back up.
Also make sure you have a nice bedtime routine, you can't just put him to bed and turn out the light and walk out, you need to read a story or get a small cd player and play some soft lullabies or kids music to help relax him, also make sure you have a nice night light on for him cause he may be scared of the dark.
It's tough at this age cause he knows he has you fooled now and it's just become a habbit but it's very hard to break these habbits without upsetting them to much, but it's important not to cuddle him and comfort him to much when he carries on like this cause thats just giving him what he wants, be firm but try to have patients with him too even though thats easier said then done, goodluck with it all and hang in there :)

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