I need to vent!!

Erinn - posted on 04/23/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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AHHHHHH....... Where to begin?? I am soooo exhausted and my husband is unemployed and driving me outta my mind!!! My kids (and I love them with all of my heart!!) are making me wanna pull out my hair!! My baby girl, Ava, is either eating or crying and my son Noah, is 3 and starting to resort to being a baby once again (I assume its because he isn't the "baby" anymore.... I can't even remember what i used to enjoy before the kids and husband and I know we only got married because I got pregnant with our son... he keeps reminding me every time we argue... which is a lot lately..... Sometimes you just need to get it out and I would much rather do it on here than at my family!! Oh.... did I mention i'm exhausted??? It can also be frustrating when all my husband can think about is SEX and all I want is a nap!!

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Tonya - posted on 04/25/2009

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I understand different people have different means and this may not be an option for everyone, but one amazing way my husband and I have gotten through this is going to the spa...together. Going to the spa is amazing relaxing time for mommies and is a great chance to connect with the love of your life. There are no TVs, Internet or even Cell phones. It is something you don't have to do on the weekend (you can go in the evenings for a couple of hours) and your friends precious time-off is spared. I also discovered that it is a date that we don't have to pay for because I have extra money that my work benefits cover! The first time we went together we got a couple's massage and then he sat and read a book by the fire while I fell asleep. When we left we were both so rejuvinated it was like we were just married! His response to it was, "next time we should get a massage and a manicure!"

Erinn - posted on 04/24/2009

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Ya, i'd LOVE to have some ME time!! Even when I get a little bit i'm not sure what to do with myself! I can't define myself outside the "mommy", "wife" roles! Ava is almost 6 months old.

User - posted on 04/24/2009

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I think you both need a date night at least once a week, or maybe you just need to get out and have some " me" time. It is not fair that your Husband brings up that "you only got married because of your son" speech everytime you argue. Tell him how much it hurts and to knock it off. If your son wants to be a baby, treat him like one. If he asks for a treat tell him " no babies dont get cookies, only big boys do" He will realize that being a big boy comes with it's rewards. How old is Your Ava? You really just need a date night and some Me time, it makes a world of difference:)

Tiffanie - posted on 04/23/2009

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HAHA..I don't mean to laugh at your situation..but I know EXACTLY what you mean!! The only difference is I only have one son, but husband is the husband who loves to play with our son, but if he is whining or has a poopie diaper then its all momma. My son was so attached to me that I couldn't even go into another room without him following me. I felt like I had no "me" time. Sometimes I still feel that way, I have no social life because I can't ever get a babysitter, not that people don't want to watch him, but everyone has plans on the weekends. I have to try to find a sitter a month in advance. I only have one friend that has a kid and all my other friends figure I'm no longer the life of the party so therefore I'm not cool enough to hang out with. I'm 23, married, and have a kid, you're right I'm not the average 20 year old, ya know? I know when my husband was unemployed we argued all the time, because it was like he was always right THERE..I mean from the time I woke up to the time I fell asleep. It was like he was following me haha. I know that sounds silly but I mean thats what I felt like, like I was being crowded. Eventually when he found and I job and got out of the house it was a lot better. I know what you mean about the sex. My husband still doesn't understand that after a long day at work, coming home, getting supper ready, bath times, and then putting the baby to sleep, I just wanna sit on the couch and watch tv and go to sleep. Unfortunately men don't understand that, for the most part thats all the want and no matter how tired they are, they will stop what they are doing for that! I also know what you mean about the marriage part, my husband and I didn't get married because I was pregnant, even though I was at the time, we got married for other wrong reasons. We were young, and didn't think it out, and from time to time he does throw it in my face, and thats really hurtful to say the least. On the other hand we both know that we got married for the wrong reason, but we both believe it happened for a reason and that now that we are indeed married, we need to work extra hard to make everything work. I love my husband and my son, but sometimes, I just want a weekend to myself without anyone, just to remember what its like to be young again. I know I didn't really help or give advice, but once I started typing I couldn't stop. I guess we both needed to vent. Hopefully you don't mind lol.

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