ideas on how 2 stop my 18 month old daughter headbutting the floor in temper?


Melissa - posted on 12/20/2009




Quoting Kevlyn:

...So if you come up with a solution that actually works please please fill me in....good luck :)

Hello, I posted on this subject earlier with a few suggestions..usually you have to make a compromise. Like instead of standing could she go on her knees instead?


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Fiona - posted on 12/21/2009




i just ignored my little one till she came over to me for a cuddle she soon stopped but now she is into biting out of temper and screaming so now im ignoring that

Devon - posted on 12/20/2009




It may sound crazy--but ignore it. It is just for attention and as soon as you stop giving that attention the behavior will go away too. It is really hard to not to give it attention, but so worth it!!

Kevlyn - posted on 12/19/2009




My 12 month old daughter started doing that about two months ago and now has went to throwing her self around and kicking and slinging her arms around, but still head butts the floor too....I am scared that one day she is going to hurt herself doing that... For instance the other night we ate dinner and I was giving her a bath before I put her to bed...she has gotten into this thing where she wants to stand up in the bath tub and of course i don't let her b/c i'm scared she will slip and get hurt, so i told her no and made her sit down...we went through that about 3 or 4 times and the last time i told her no and went to sit her down she threw herself back and my hands were slippery as was her body b/c she was soapy hit her head on the bottom of the tub and then started panicing so she ended up with water all in her face and swollowed a bunch of water before I could manage to get her up..all with in a few seconds.... I really do not know what to do about this because my oldest child, now 3 1/2 just started throwing fits and they still aren't as bad as my one year olds fits...So if you come up with a solution that actually works please please fill me in....good luck :)

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well luckily none of my kids did this but my brother did as a child and my mom tried everything she tried ignoring it she tried to physically stop it before he did it and nothing was working she even added throw rugs everywhere to try to soften the blow but to no avail he continued until her dad told her to take his head and bang it for him and she thought dad i could never do that! well one day my grandfather was over and my brother decided to have one of his fits and was about to bang his head on the floor when my grampy went over and grabbed his head and without much force just banged his head on the floor for him and the look on my brothers 3 yr old face was priceless he was in total shock.. but he never again banged his head still to this day have no idea why or how it worked but i saw for myself at age 7 that it did work cause he never again banged his head while having a fit! i dont hit my children or encourage it but if it works for this since banging your head can be so dangerous for young ones i say give it a try just not so hard as to leave a mark just enough to let them know what they are doing is uncalled for! well good luck...

Stefie - posted on 12/19/2009




My 15 month old had the same problem. I try to figure out what is making her mad and repeat it back to her. For instance, " I know you are mad because mommy will not let you run naked out side with the dog. Mommy thinks it is too cold to go out side. Mommy wants to put on your clothes then we can do what you want. " It really has helped. The only time it is still a problem is when she is hungry out side of snack/meal time. She seems to have a growth spur lately and still gets upset over that.

Xiao - posted on 12/19/2009




my son used to do that a lot when he is with grandma... then we decide to ignor him when he did that again... I think after 2 - 3 times, he found it is useless, then it never happen again...

Ashley - posted on 12/18/2009




my daughter did the same thing at about the same age .. we just didnt pay attention to her unless she was seriously hurting herself .. and now she doesnt do it anymore

Kim - posted on 12/18/2009




ignore her when she does it if you react to her when she does it she noes she is getting your attenstion thats what i got told to do they will relise you are not reacting to it and they should stop as they are not getting your attenstion any more

Tanya - posted on 12/18/2009




My 16 month old is doing the same thing.

I just try to take his mind off of whatever he is mad at. I know it sounds a little nutts but sometimes I even start sining loud and in a funny voice and he just stops yelling and starts laughing. Also sometimes things he does not always get to play with is a help to just get his mind off of it like a big pot or pan and a wodden spoon for him to make "music".

Then there are other times he just screams and hits his head on the floor. Good luck!

Amy - posted on 12/18/2009




Ideas? I wish I had some! My 2 y.o. still does this occasionally. He started around 1 year. I researched and talked to my doctor and they all say they will grow out of it and that they won't seriously hurt themselves. I hated when he would do it hard enough to leave a bruise on his beautiful little forhead. He does seem to be growing out of it. I have just tried to be there to soothe him, pull him up off the floor and settle him down until his urge to bang his head is over. Good luck, I hope someone replies who knows something that works for you.

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2009




aw man i sympathize with you...My son did that as well (only wasn't everytime that he was mad). He's almost 6 now and he still has a hard time dealing with anger.

I have a couple of suggestions that you can try:

1. Before you change activity tell her" in 5min we're going to get dressed" and then continue to let her play then at one minute say "in one minute we're going to get dressed" Say it in a happy voice and make sure she is looking directly at you.

2. When it comes to that "transition" time say FIRST we're going to get dressed AND THEN you can have breakfast.....always tell them what you're going to do and follow it with an activity that they may enjoy or that is familiar

3. If the temper cannot be avoided then it really depends on the personality of your child. My daughter(just turned 2) doesnt like alot of affection so when she has a meltdown she goes to her room for alone time and comes out when she's ready. But my son really needs extra attention and affection so i tell him "I know you are angry..i Know this makes you mad and frustrated" Depending on how he is I hold him or start singing a song. Sometimes I help him breathe deeply...sometimes i count with him. Other times I change the subject and say something really crazy and silly and make him laugh.

Could you post some more on how the situation develops with your daughter? Like how she starts with the tantrum? How often ? etc. The more detail the better.

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