is my child in his terrible twos already or does he have behaviour problems

Zoe - posted on 12/04/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Is my son already in his terrible twos or has he got behaviioural problems. his uncle my brother had behavioural problems his dad is very angry and moany and his dads bro his uncle has behaviour probs and torretes my lil cusin also had ortisim it seems all the boys on my mums side of family have behavioral or learnin difficultys and my son is no really gettin to me, he slaps me for no reason pinches punches sys no throws strops breaks things pulls things dwn fdraws on things and literally doesnt listen to u. he cant keep still for longer than 5mins and has to be ocupied 24 7

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I agree with getting a second opinion from your doctor. However, I also would encourage you to get your son involved in a small group setting with children his age. My 3 year old son will sometimes act up to if he is bored. He is another child when he gets to pre-school or has his cousin over for a playdate. Do you know of another child his age that you can set up on a playdate in your home so that he won't be shy? If you can arrange this, make note if he can play well with others.

Rachael - posted on 12/04/2008

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Maybe he is needing more attention and opportunity for socailizing with peers? Maybe you could find a small playgroup or park to where he could be exposed to kids his age. I am home with my two kids and as much as I love it I think sometimes I bore them to death! I wouldn't be concerned with ADHD personally I think that it is overdiagnosed as it is. If you are concerned it can't hurt to take him to the doctor. Try to come up with consistant boundries and punishments. If he hits you his consequence is 2 minutes in time out..or something like that. If you exposed him to other children more maybe he would become more comfortable around them. I think it is important to provide social opportunities especially if he is home with you all day. Maybe buring off some energy with other kids will help him to be more well behaved at home. My kids act out more if they are bored I noticed. Again it can't hurt getting a second opinion from a doctor especially with your family history.

Zoe - posted on 12/04/2008

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his dad is in the question yeh but when i say angry and moany i mean towards other people and occasionally moanin around the home but he doesnt do nothin when tyler is around. i was thinking of seeing the doctor however family keep tellin me not to. do you no any signs of things like adhd, he doesnt go nursery as i cant afford it he is with me 24 7 and dont leave me alone and he doesnt see other kids much when he does he is intimidated by them

Rachael - posted on 12/04/2008

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Although terrible two's can be displayed as aggression ours is restricted to fit throwing/temper tantrums. I think that kids will do what they can get away with. We do not allow aggresion or hitting we consistantly use "time outs" or resting time when our 2 year old tries to act out aggressively. It seems to work for us but with all of the family history you described I think your concerns should definately be evaluated by the doctor or some other resource. Is his dad in the picture? You said that he is very angry and moany. Is your son picking up on his behavior and mimicing it? Good luck I hope you get some more good suggestions and are able to curb the behavoir or get some help for him.

Paula - posted on 12/04/2008

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Have you talked to your family doctor about you concerns? If it is behavioral there may be alternative treatments to help, other then just medications. Does your child attend any daycare or has daily socialization with other children of his age?

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