Is my daughter behind in development?

Cs19862 - posted on 03/17/2012 ( 17 moms have responded )




I was wondering if my dughter should be more developed than she should be? she will be turning one in a few weeks and she isnt really walking and i even heard that some kids are even talking and saying alot of words! she says i love you and mom but i see other kids saying cup and bottle, is this normal?


Sophia - posted on 09/08/2012




talk with her doctor.. explain how you feel and start from what your doctor tell you.


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Janessa - posted on 09/18/2013




Some kids don't star walking until right after they are 1... And as far as words you probably will start hearing more words over the next year. A lot of kids are just babbling still at that age... Just remember every child is different. My sons doctor at 18 months asked some questions and he knew 8 words, babbled a lot, and acknowledged what other people said and he was right on track. Now he's 21 months know a lot more words and is putting sentences together. Try not to stress! :)

Cori - posted on 09/18/2013




I too was worried that my 18 month old son wasn't saying enough words. His doctor assured me that he is progressing as he should. She told me that there is a broad range of normal and not to compare my son to other kids. I would talk to your pediatrician about your concerns. Also my son didn't walk until he was 15 months old. He very quickly learned to run once he started walking.

Helen - posted on 09/18/2013




The average age for walking is 13 months which means that half the babies take longer. If your baby is saying "I love you" already, she is doing very well with her speech. Just keep talking to her and reading her books.

Helen - posted on 09/09/2013




No I don't belive your daughter is underdeveloped 'she may just be taking her good old time but when she dose start look out for going' she won't stop. My granddaughter was late to talk but now" wow we can't stop her ". loving it though she is now 7,[ but if your really worried ask a DR .]

Kim - posted on 09/03/2013




I have twin 15 month old girls. One is still not quite walking and the other just started about a month ago. This is partly due to prematurity but I think your baby is just fine! I have another daughter that walked at 9 mo and another at 10 mo. Every baby is different and as long as they're communicating between 1 and 5 words at this age there is nothing to be concerned about. You might try using some sign language. I have a 3 year old boy with a speech disorder and the signs helped tremendously!

Bekah - posted on 09/10/2012




Is she walking at this point?

This post is 6 months old but around a year is when you begin to see babies walk but many are much later. Quite often first babies and only children do things a little later then their younger siblings. So second and third and so on babies may be the ones you are hearing about walking and talking already.

Whitney - posted on 09/10/2012




my 4 year old didnt start talking till he was almost 3 he just talked gibberish. now i cant get him to be quiet lol. so i think thats normal. my two year didnt start to walk till he was 18 months. do you pick her up when she crys?? i use to with jordan and doctors said thats why he wont walk. why walk when some one will carry you. and the talking thing, give it time id say about two if shes not really saying much maybe look into but just dont baby talk her and it might help.

Rhonda - posted on 03/22/2012




I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and they were completely different in their development. The 3 year old did everything later than my 1 year old. The 1 year old has started talking way earlier than my older one, he has about caught up with him speech wise. All babies are different and I know its hard not to compare bc I sure did, but as long as you dont think she is behind, she probably isnt. If she isnt making eye contact or socializing or anything like that I'd tell the dr but otherwise I say relax and let her be her. :)

Cs19862 - posted on 03/21/2012




awesome ladies thanks! I am not stressing alot, she hasnt walked yet and she will be one in two weeks but my house is mostly stairs, and she is a whiz at that! scares me to death but that could be good too. Taking her in to see her pediatrician next week so i will be sure to talk to her about my concerns. thanks!

Yurena - posted on 03/20/2012




Please don't stress, if hr GP/Health Visitor think she is ok no need to worry. Lots of kids wait for ages and then just start walking one day, the same with talking. Don't give it into the competitive parents that continually bragg about all their kid can do by 10 months, like making themselves some dinner and cleaning the bathroom (?!). Enjoy your child, encourage her but no need to worry. My son started walking at 12 months, the same week of his birthday, my daughter about 11months. I was talking by 9months and so did my husband. It really doesn't mean

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she ss great!. Saying 2-3 word sentences is actually advanced for her age. Many kids don't walk by 1 and drs don't worry until atleast 18mths. And my friend had a son who was only saying Bub by a year, and the dr didn't feel any concern at all.

Heather - posted on 03/19/2012




Nope, she is totally fine. My daughter didn't walk until she was 15 months old. As long as she walks by the time she is 18 months old, she is fine. My daughter didn't start speaking real words till she was 22 months old. Now she's 2 1/2 and talks more than I do. She is fine.

Sarah - posted on 03/17/2012




She sounds okay to me. The normal range for walking is anywhere between 9-18 months & her only saying 2 words is pretty good! Don't compare her to others because not all kids develop at the same pace. My kids walked early, but were late sitting up & crawling.

Amy - posted on 03/17/2012




I wouldn't say she's behind like Brittney said there is a wide range of normal. My daughter didn't crawl till she was 14 months old in the traditional sense and then the next day she stood up and started walking. At 18 months old my daughter was only say 3 words and had actually regressed in her language skills, we had her assessed by birth to 3 and they said she was advanced even though she wasn't verbal. She just turned two and she is speaking more but most outsiders still wouldn't have a clue what she was saying, and has actually just started putting words together.

Brittney - posted on 03/17/2012




There is a wide variety of are some sites: week 1

That major rite of passage is almost here, if it hasn't happened already — some time this month, your baby may take his first steps alone. (If he doesn't, don't worry — it takes some children several more weeks or months to start toddling.) If he's like most children, your little one will take those early strides on tiptoe with his feet turned outward. Keep the camera ready to capture the moment! week 2

Your toddler may start feeding herself with a spoon this month, though her aim won't be the best. Prepare for a little more mess than usual, and let her go at it — using a spoon is a great way for your toddler to improve her hand-eye coordination, exercise her independence, and make mealtime more fun. week 3

Your toddler probably has been wrestling with bouts of separation anxiety during the past several months. This is natural: He loves and depends on you, so he's distressed when you leave. week 4

Though at this point her vocabulary probably consists of only a couple of words besides "Mama" and "Dada," your 1-year-old can probably babble in what sounds like short sentences, complete with vocal inflections. It's almost as if she's speaking a foreign language.

By now, your toddler may also be able to respond to simple questions and commands, especially if you give her some clues with hand gestures. For example, ask her, "Where's your mouth?" and point to it. Or try, "Hand me the cup" and gesture toward the object. Your toddler may answer you in her own way, shaking her head for "no" or using her own gestures.

Social and Emotional

Shy or anxious with strangers

Cries when mother or father leaves

Enjoys imitating people in his play

Shows specific preferences for certain people and toys

Tests parental responses to his actions during feedings

Tests parental responses to his behavior

May be fearful in some situations

Prefers mother and/or regular caregiver over all others

Repeats sounds or gestures for attention

Finger-feeds himself

Extends arm or leg to help when being dressed


Explores objects in many different ways (shaking, banging, throwing, dropping)

Finds hidden objects easily

Looks at correct picture when the image is named

Imitates gestures

Begins to use objects correctly (drinking from cup, brushing hair, dialing phone, listening to receiver)


Pays increasing attention to speech

Responds to simple verbal requests

Responds to “no”

Uses simple gestures, such as shaking head for “no”

Babbles with inflection (changes in tone)

Says “dada” and “mama”

Uses exclamations, such as “Oh-oh!”

Tries to imitate words


Reaches sitting position without assistance

Crawls forward on belly

Assumes hands-and-knees position

Creeps on hands and knees

Gets from sitting to crawling or prone (lying on stomach) position

Pulls self up to stand

Walks holding on to furniture

Stands momentarily without support

May walk two or three steps without support

Hand and Finger Skills

Uses pincer grasp

Bangs two objects together

Puts objects into container

Takes objects out of container

Lets objects go voluntarily

Pokes with index finger

Tries to imitate scribbling developmental checklist

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