Is this normal for a 2yr old?

Jessica - posted on 08/18/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is about to be 2yrs in a couple weeks and he is not very social, Anytime another kid goes up to him to play, he gets very quiet and runs to me..I try to get him to sociallize but he wont. and when he does he gets a bit violent. I try to get him to play with my friends son, but he just fights with him and wont share his toys...any advice?


Missy - posted on 08/19/2010




I have a 3 year old that did the same thing what I did was have someone I know with a child around the same age and bring them over and have them in the same room and when they got fighting I would take my son out of the room and continue to do that until he learned that he will have to share and get along with other children before he went to school so just limit the time he spends with another child and see if that helps

Becca - posted on 08/18/2010




Until sometime between the ages of 2 and 3 children are independant players and will either play beside or ignore other children completely. It sounds like your son isn't ready to play with other children yet and is still too young to learn to share.


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Dora - posted on 08/20/2010




My son was the same way. I don't think they truly comprehend what it means to play with another child at that age. My son is 2yrs old now and the only time he interacts with kids at the park is if they are running with him. Other than that he will go on the slides by himself and then want me to chase him around. I think it is normal. Don't worry and just keep exposing him to other children so he can get used to them.

Beth - posted on 08/20/2010




Children do not "play" together until much later. Right now mine is mine, yours is mine, and what she has is mine too! Continuing play groups and interaction is important, so don't stop, but set up the toys so that they are grouped with space apart. There will be cross over, but try to encourage the separation. Johnny has this now, you have that. When Johnny puts down the toy offer it to the other child. Talking, being calm, and running a bit of interference will reduce the fray.

Again, they are not expected to actually play together. The way toddlers play together is by being in the same space. With that said no two toddlers are socially the same either. My 2 year old actually does play with other kids, but they are generally older, and it is because he has two much older role models (brother 11, and 7).

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