Is this the terrible twos or is something wrong?

Kristin - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is 28 months old - he's a very bright, active, adorable, loving little guy. He's always had rather intense emotions but recently it has gotten completely out of control. A tantrum is starting over anything we say "no" to and his anger escalates rapidly. We've tried almost everything. Ignoring him doesn't help because he'll strip down to nothing (no diaper) - I can't let a naked, non potty trained kid run around the house and pee on the floor so we confine him to the kitchen and block the door way until be agrees to lay down and put his diaper back on. That can last for 45min to 2hrs. We're held hostage while he screams, spits, blows snot and now he's started biting his arm. Last night we started to hold him down and have told him he can't get down until we calms himself. That has reduced his tantrum time to about 10min but I feel like we're hurting him by restraining him. It does help because he can't strip down and he can't bite himself.

Today, he won't do anything unless its his idea. I offered to take him to his favorite play place and he has totally refused to go. He loves it there - it doesn't make any sense. We've asked if he wants to go play in the snow - said no to that too. Its just odd behavior for him.

I need help. I know everyone says to ignore tantrums and they'll stop but I can't because he gets naked and bites his arm. I'm at a total loss.


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Janelle - posted on 02/14/2010




i think if nothing that your doing is working, then go get prefessional advice/referral from your ped. Sometimes it just takes a different perspective something that you've never thought of before. Good luck!! =)

Lea - posted on 02/14/2010




Taking off his clothes and biting his arm are both expressions of rage and defiance and manipulative behaviors - trying to get what he wants. 2hrs is definitely too long for a tantrum to go on a regular basis. Is he on a predictable schedule? Does he know his routines? Is he hungry, tired, bored? Is he seeing negative displays of anger in the home? Maybe you should videotape it and see what a pediatrician or child psychologist says.

Maria - posted on 02/14/2010




Talk to his pediatrician about his behavior. And ask his pediatrician about taking a parenting skills class. They can help you see whether your behavior toward your child is consistent or not, which may be key to your son's behavior. But then, he may just be a sensitive kid.

So sorry you are going through this. My niece was this way when she was little, and it was very stressful!

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