Keeping 3 yr. old in room for bed time/naps

Karie - posted on 04/28/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My two almost three year old has recently discovered that he can open the door to his room. The child safety knobs don't thwart him anymore! We are now fighting a battle every time we lay him down for a nap and for bedtime. Any suggestions on how to keep him in his room would be most appreciated.

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We have just moved our recently-turned-two year old out of the crib and into the bed with his sister, so our baby can move into the crib. Suddenly my easy-sleeping child has decided that since he can get out of bed and play, he doesn't want to just go to sleep! We went through this with his older sister too, and we just discipline them. He gets his bedtime routine, his warning, and if he gets up again he is in trouble.

The knob switcheroo isn't an option because they can unlock them too, plus we don't want them just in their room but to stay in their bed. But really we see it an issue of discipline and not just trapping them until they have no options otherwise. I'd just keep him in the crib if I wanted that. Sorry, I'm not trying to start some sort of discipline war...this is just how we deal with it.



Just to clarify...this is after they know what is expected of them and are well aware of how to behave...

Megan - posted on 04/28/2009

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We are dealing with the same problem but what I do is anytime my daughter comes out of her room my husband or I just pick her up take her back in there and after a few times she gets the point it's bed time. But if this continues we have been told to swap the lock around on the door. It may sound cruel but it's not just lock the door from the outside and they will stay in there and eventually get the point. All they are gonna do is crawl back in bed. Hope this helps!

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With the advice from our Dr. we installed a 4ft tall gate designed for toddlers! My son was doing the same thing and let me tell you it was the best $80 bucks I have ever spent! At 1st he cried for a few days but then realized he may as well just go take a nap because that gate isn't opening until he does. It has made nap time and bedtime into an easy routine instead of a fight.

Megan - posted on 05/24/2009

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hey i know its been awhile but just wanted to see if things have gotten better?

Karie - posted on 04/30/2009

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I switched the lock last night! He figured out how to get the taped child proof door knobs off and kept getting up. After that he slept fine once he realized he couldn't get out. So, thank you for the advice it was quite helpful!

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Taking them back to bed continually definitely works, but is a bit counter-productive for naptime (which is short anyway). Do you still have any child-gates? Leave the door open and put the gate in. They can't open them so it would keep him 'contained' (if you will!). I have to do this for my 33-month old.



Also, he may be outgrowing the need for an afternoon nap? Maybe replace with just a 'quiet time'. Just a thought.

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I would do the technique that the Super Nanny does. When they get out, tell them "It's bedtime honey" and that's it...take them back to bed. The next time they get up just say "It's bedtime" and take them back to bed. Don't say anything else! Any other time they get up, give them no eye contact, pick them up, put them back in bed and leave the room.

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2009

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My son just turned 2 in feb. and that was when we put him in his toddler bed. I have the same problem with him. For awhile now he has been able to open the doors, so I also switched the locks around and will unlock it when I go to bed. That way when he wakes up he can come and get me which he does. However for nap time, he will play for a good 30 min. to an hour before he eventually passes out. Your son will learn to put himself back to bed and will sleep when he tires. My son has passed out on the floor at times.

Megan - posted on 04/28/2009

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I understand that as well! We have a 3 month old as well, but she can sleep thru anything lol

Karie - posted on 04/28/2009

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Thanks, I'll keep you posted. I just tapped one of the security knobs together so he couldn't pull it off and so far he has been unsuccessful in his attempt to get it off...we'll see. I just don't want him to wake my one year old up who is sleeping next door!

Megan - posted on 04/28/2009

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Haha I understand but yes definately try the lock thing. He will more than likely cry of course but he will eventually stop. I hope this works, just don't forget to give it a couple of days!! Let me know how it goes!

Karie - posted on 04/28/2009

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Thanks, Megan. I think that I will try the lock thing because putting him back in there isn't working, he just keeps coming out...mostly at nap times. I'm fighting the battle right now...argh!

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