Kindergarten, the when debate?

Colleen - posted on 07/09/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son was born in mid August. I am planning on holding him back and starting him when he is 6 rather than five. His father is a early August birthday and is upset that he has to pay for another year of daycare and thinks that my son should start school at five because he did and he "turned out ok." I have talked to many people including my mother-in-law who is a kindergarten teacher, my daycare provider. They think that while my son would be fine going when he is five it is better to wait due to schooling later he would graduate when he would be 17. I don't really care about my ex's opinion truth be told. But i would like yours....


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Kim - posted on 07/13/2009




Go with how you feel and how socially ready he seems. My son was born mid Dec and the cut off the year before he started school was the end of Dec. Luckily they changed it to the end of Aug because academically he was ready but socially he wasn't. He was very nervous when he thought he would be going. Now when the next yr came and it was really his turn he was all for it, he was ready. Same with my daughter. Her birthday was the end of Sept, she would not have been ready. The next yr she was. She is one of the oldest in her class but she really doesn't seem it.

When I went to school the cut off was the end of Dec. I was an Aug baby and did fine graduating at 17. My Brother was born in Dec and really could have used the extra year, but the school system did not give my Mother that option. So really I think it is up to you and how you think your child will do. Will he do better next year? will he be more ready?

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I always thought Kindergarten was for 5 yr olds, that's how it was for me. Why does it matter if he is only 17 when he graduates? I was. He would be 18 when his college semesters start. Anyone who was older than that in my class had been held back (read: flunked). I plan on putting my kids in Kindergarten when they are 5 (they would turn 6 during the school year, one would turn 6 at the end of the school year). But I also hope to teach them the basics...numbers, reading...before they go.

In the end, you will know if he's ready or not.

Selina - posted on 07/11/2009




I'm going by the teacher perspective. Children usually start kindergarten when they are 5 years old and depending on the school district as long as they turn 5 by the end of February. As a teacher I find that those who turn 5 in January are sometimes too young. Our son was born the beginning of December but was due in early January. My husband and I decided that if he kept his January due date we would have kept him back unless he seemed ready.

I would think that if you hold your child back that he would definitely hold a lot more skills than the other kids to start with but may find it difficult later on when he realizes that he's a full year to year and a half older than the other children.

But on the parent side you have to do what's best for your child. Just think about it in the long run though

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