Listening

Shelley - posted on 11/12/2008 ( 3 moms have responded )

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How in the world to you get a 2 year old to listen?? Sometimes it feels like she's totally ignoring us.

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Monica - posted on 11/12/2008

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Hi Shelley, 2-plus year olds are just beginning to understand that they are their own separate identities... and with that comes their first attempts and expressing independence. They enjoy "testing the boundries." What Alivia wrote below is very effective. The key is being consistent with it. If you're not, it sends the child mixed messages. Also, (I'm assuming that you only have one child like us) it's very possible that she's bored and is just trying to get your attention. Our son is also exercising his independence but I've learned that he's responds less to my directions when he's not feeling entertained. As soon as I redirect my attention towards him or include him in what I'm doing (even folding the laundry!) he becomes more compliant with my directions... at least as much as a 26-month old can. Part of this is just being "2." But these are ways to positively encourage her to listen to your directions. Good luck!

Shelley - posted on 11/12/2008

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Thank you so much for your advice. We've tried the time out thing and it works, but inconsistently. She's almost 2 1/2 so maybe it won't be too much longer before she decides to start listening.

Alivia - posted on 11/12/2008

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My daughter is almost three and I have been battling with her for a long time with her not listening to me! Have you tried sending her to time out? The rule of thumb is 1 year = 1 minute. So she would sit for two minutes. And every time she gets out, put her back and tell her that her time out time has started over. She needs to sit in time out for the entire two minutes. It may take a while to get her to sit the whole time, but she will. We've been sending our daughter to time out since she was about 1 1/2 yrs old. Now it’s gotten to the point where time out doesn't work much, so now when she does something she knows she's not supposed to, she goes straight to her bed and sits in there for 2 minutes. That helps because she is in her own room and doesn't have the distractions of us or the tv. I think ultimately it is her just being a typical two year old. Eventually she will start to listen and understand that when mommy and daddy say no, they mean no. I hope this helps, I know it's very frustrating with a toddler that doesn't listen. But it should get better! Good luck!!

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