Shannon - posted on 07/15/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )




Help! My almost 4 yr old won't stop lying. Fortunately he's not really good at it but how do I explain to him that he shouldn't do it. I've tried telling him that it's not nice but he's not getting it. It's just really frustrating and it seems to be escalating. He does it all the time. Any ideas?


Melanie - posted on 07/15/2009




My son stopped lying when I intentionally did not believe him (even though I really knew he was telling the truth that time). I had explained repeatedly that if he kept lying, that one day he would tell me the truth, but I wouldn't be able to trust him. So one day when something minor came up, I told him, "I'm sorry, but you've lied to me so much that I can't believe you". It just about broke my heart because he was so pitiful. I sent him to his room, then came in 10 or 15 minutes later and told him that I was sad too, because I love him and I want to believe him when he tells me something. That's what is so terrible about lying. That was over a year ago and I've never found him lying to me again. It might work for you, if you feel like your son would understand that kind of reasoning. (My son was 7, so I'm not positive it would work for a 4 year old)

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