Major sleep problems

Aly - posted on 02/22/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hey guys.. Ruby has never been a great sleeper but would normally go down about six or seven pm and wake about 3am full of beans. Lately however, she is waking every half hour to hour. We have tried the whole controlled crying, singing, sleeping in her room, patting her back and bottom, stroking the head etc etc but nothing seems to help and is getting worse.. How have you guys dealt with sleep problems, any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated, we are very very tired :-)

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Jackie - posted on 02/24/2010

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If you do CIO my biggest advice is you know your childs different cries...so trust yourself. Theres a HUGE difference between complaining/fussing and really screaming mad. if its just complaining/fussing...leave her be longer. When my daughter is overtired (like at naps and stuff) thats literally how she falls asleep everytime. It turns into a very monotonous fuss you could call it, then she's out. Its really just the screaming mad that won't get you too far....b/c they can get more worked up if it doesn't start toning down after a few minutes.

Aly - posted on 02/23/2010

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Thanks so much guys. Ruby is fourteen months old and has been waking every half hour to hour for the last three weeks. I was doing the controlled crying of 10 mins, then 20 mins then 30 mins etc but hadn't let her cry herself out. I will try that tonight. So many different books say so many different things is so confusing..
Thanks again guys, really appreciate it!

Jackie - posted on 02/22/2010

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very refreshing shawna!!! i couldnt agree more but so many will attack for supporting CIO.

Shawna - posted on 02/22/2010

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Aly - with my first child I would have neve allowed her to cry herself to sleep. The problem...she did not sleep all the way through the night until she was 15 months old and than began teething at 17 months. My second child also had a difficult time sleeping and trying to be up with him during the night and then tend to my daughter and my son during the day was simply not working. I spoke to my pediatrician and she said I do not know of a baby dying from crying themselves to sleep. You have to put your baby to bed and make that it!!!! Close the door and do not go back in until they are asleep. The other best advice she gave was unplug that baby monitor!!!! My son cried for about 2 to 3 nights and now we just lay him down and he puts himself to sleep and sleeps all night for 13 hours. It is wonderful!!!! Very hard by all means but defintitely worth it.

Jackie - posted on 02/22/2010

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How old is Ruby and how do you put her down to sleep? Does she go to sleep awake and in bed? Keep in mind that when a baby wakes up they expect to see the same scenario they fell asleep too. So if that was being rocked in your arms, and they wake up alone in crib, they may get confused and therefore really wake up trying to figure it out. Where if they fall alseep in crib, then open their eyes and see the saem scene, they are more likely to just drift back off to sleep.

and Chelle was right, CIO can take a few nites to a week sometimes. You can try the variation of going in every 10 min to calm her down without picking her up too...then just incrase the length of time between "Visits". Good luck.

Angela - posted on 02/22/2010

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hey Aly. i just want to say i know what you are going through. my daughter is now four and we still have problems with her sleeping. one of the things that i tried after talking to her pediatrician was melatonine. im not sure if that is spelled right but it is an all natural medicine that you can give them to help them sleep and it wont hurt them in anyway because that is a natural chemical that our body makes and your daughter might not be making enough of it. i know people dont like to take medicines but i am telling you it was a blessing for my daughter and i. now she is fully functional during the day and her behavior has improved tremendously. hope this helps. im here if you have questions.

Chelle - posted on 02/22/2010

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how long did you go the controlled crying for? loch used to sleep like a dream until he started to experience teething etc. Prior to this we used to rock him to sleep and put him down. However it started to get to the stage where he would just keep waking up every half an hour, like you. We were beside ourselves and felt we had no choice but to exercise some tough love. We had friends that had done this too. So we let him cry himself to sleep. He cried probably for three or four nights, some nights for over an hour etc, but it was well worth it. It taught him to put himself to sleep. Now we also have a nap routine and a bedtime routine which we stick to. He is not rocked anymore, he is put to bed awake and he settles himself and puts himself to sleep. We persisted with this for a little while as it had some hiccups but by 8 months, my life was completely turned around as he started to sleep through the night and now does about 98% of the time

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