moody toddlers anyone?

Julie - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My two year old has started to be very difficult. She can't make up her mind and wants thing's a certain way. I know it's normal, but how do people stay sane through it all. I have always tried to discipline her the best that I know how and sometimes (often) I feel like a failure. I am proud of the way I discipline her but WHY is it so hard?

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Julie - posted on 07/04/2010

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It's been two months, and thanks to your suggestions (and some reading i've done) she is now the best behaved two year old there is. It was all about attention and I think the best advice I read about was that to toddlers attention isn't about quality, but quantity. Meaning each time I respond negatively, she counts that the same as if it was 'quality' time. I ignored what I could, and consistently dealt with what I had to. I think also getting her out of the house more...going to storytimes, library, parks etc. I think that helped as well.

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Emma - posted on 05/08/2010

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It is a phase and alot of it is them wanting attention. My daughter started to become independent when she hit 2yrs of age (young i know). She chose what she wanted to wear etc. I did let her have some independence but if you let them do as they want they start to take over your life. The thing I find best is time out, be it a naughty corner or in her room. Try to ignore her inappropriate behaviour by saying as little as you can to her and giving her time out and reward her good behaviour. Try not too raise your voice to her, i know its difficult but when you do you are giving her a reaction and that is what she wants. Give her loads of love when she is good (i'm sure you already do) and she will realise that she will only get something if she behaves well.

Liz - posted on 05/07/2010

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Sometimes you just have to tune out the temper tantrums. It's hard, but I am better at it than my husband. Unfortunately I give in a lot just so I don't have a complaining toddler AND husband. :)

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