my 1 and 2 year old act up in church they will not stand still or be quiet

Adra - posted on 06/28/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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sunday after sunday they really shows off in church until cant get the word or i miss something cause i have to get up and walk out ever sunday

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Lynlee - posted on 06/29/2009

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I have this issue too - our son is fine during the singing bit but when it's the talking bit he acts up and yells even though I have brought toys, books etc for him to play with. I leave and go to the children's room but then I miss the talk which is a bit annoying. I used to go to a church that had a tv and stereo set up in the children's room so you could watch and hear what was going on which was good but my new church does not have this and it seems like sometimes I go to church for just another playgroup. Perhaps find out whether a sound system and tv could be set up elsewhere in the church - maybe just outside the doors so you can hold your children and still see and hear what is going on. Lots of churches these days produce tapes or CDs of the service or put it online so you don't have to miss out on the message.

Jennifer - posted on 06/29/2009

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I read a book called Parenting in the Pew by Robbie Castleman. I thought it was wonderful! There were a few things that maybe are a little outdated but the rest is great! It was very benifitual when we had our special needs developmentally delayed foster daughter, I was feeling a lot of the feelings you have expressed. After reading the book and implimenting some things our family time of worship became enjoyful! Our foster daughter has since be adopted and I am now looking forward to my son being old enough tojoin us in services (our church has a great nursery program that meet his needs right now)! As Veronica has expressed, persevere and know you are ministering not only to your kids but to other mothers through your example of making church important, no matter what!

Veronica - posted on 06/29/2009

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Fellowship is hard to find - and i mean - finding people who are truly genuine people. I would continue to pray - and when you go to church, pray that the Lord helps you out. He will. Maybe your kids wont be as rambunctious, maybe they wont make a noise, maybe they wont move around - but something will be helped. And just pray for those who are judging you - either they have no clue what it is to be a mother - or they think they had perfect kids. I say, just hang in there, and treat it more like a routine - go to church, sit down, be quiet, listen, behave -- sing with them, cuddle them - tell them to listen, point to the pictures/statues (i dont know what religion you practice - so im not sure what you have at the church) - anything to get their attention. For me, i did that with my second oldest - he's the inquisitive one - i ended up explaining Mother Mary, Joseph, and Jesus - instead of listening to the sermon that day - but to me, it was still a lesson/teaching that he was learning. Your husband is the minister?? (Thats what i gathered, or did i misread?) If so, I think people will pass more judgment because people try to break down others pride and joy --'oh shes the ministers wife, and those are their kids, and she cant even keep them quiet in church'

Or if you aren't they are probably passing judgement upon you for sitting up front with your kids --- Keep this in mind -- You are not at church for anyone else but you and your children. The mockers, judgers, etc. are not going to get your soul into heaven - so forget them and their nasty looks and comments - tend to you and your children, and all will be fine. Jesus also said: "Blessed are those who are persecuted because of me" - so if you are being persecuted for wanting to be in church with your children - blessed are you.

Take care, I hope I've helped in some way...

Adra - posted on 06/29/2009

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i cant wait until that because i need to get the word also its a struggle with that devil by then i need to have fellowship with other people.

Adra - posted on 06/29/2009

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veronica i really need to here that because i feel like members are looking at me like i cant control my1 and2 year old i sit right behind the pastor beacuse my husband still has to do his job in the church people stare at u like u crazy not only do they stare they want you to b on point when the children cry and i bet not move slow or i will really get the looks

Veronica - posted on 06/29/2009

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You teach them at the young age, so by time they are older they know the routine. Again, dont feel embarrassed about it. The main thing is you made the pilgramige to get to church, and you have your children right there with you to learn and listen as well. I know some people who brought books or small soft/quiet toys for their kids to be busy with. Keep going, silently shush them - dont talk yourself, just use gestures - they will get the hint that it is quiet time. I wish you luck.

Veronica

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Most churches offer nursery or childcare for children. My son loves playing in the nursery and I can enjoy the service with my husband. Toddler's can't be expected to sit still or quiet during a service. I plan to wait until my son is 4 before taking him the church services with them. Hopefully by then he will be old enough that he can sit quietly.

Veronica - posted on 06/28/2009

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Hello Adra - first question - where do you sit in church?? I usually sit in the cry room (a room for parents and children) - and have noticed that my children are more rambunctious in there, than they are in the actual church itself. When i sit in the back its worse - so try to sit right up front or close to it, so they can see whats going on - and get them awed about the alter, the minister/priest, and all the goings on. Dont' ever ever ever worry about missing something in church - and dont leave - too bad if its a problem for others - the important thing is that you are getting to church and taking your children with you, period. I've been told that Mother's get a special blessing for this - so keep going, keep working with your children, and try to make it more of an interesting event for them (my mom always told us that we were in one of God's houses and that he was watching us all the time - and we were always awed by the crucifix ) That was us -- and i apparently worked for us.. Take care, and I wish you luck!

Patty - posted on 06/28/2009

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does your church not provide childcare? If they don't I would get a sitter for a couple hours on Sunday, Its very Important for you to get fed the word of God!!



Patty

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