My 1 yrs old son having trouble sleepin

ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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every night i put him in his bed in his own room to sleep...........a hour or 2 later he cries for me to get him to sleep in my bed ......if i take him out his bed and put him in mine he goes rite to sleep but if i try to put him back to sleep in his bed he won't fall asleep ......i don't kno what to do anymore cause now he's making it a habit of sleepin in my bed .....please help.....I need the best idea to get him to go to sleep in his room

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Sophie - posted on 01/12/2010

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you can't give in to him try a bedtime routine to give him time to wind down, bath, book n bed that way he knows its time to go to sleep. try putting on a night light n some music.
try putting something that has your scent on in his cot also it sounds harsh but ignore him when he cries he'll soon go back to sleep he can't do himself anyharm.

give him a special teddy or blanket to sleep with so he can associate it with bedtime.

when i first put my daughter in her room she wouldn't sleep, i let her cry for a bit then went in and just tucked her in again and said good night. she soon learnt that i wasn't going to let her out and now sleeps straight through from 6 - 8

Holly - posted on 01/12/2010

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One more thing My peditrician always told me your child should sleep in thier room. Letting your child sleep on the floor next to you is not solving the problem. And giving your child benadryl is terrible.

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Sam - posted on 01/11/2010

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firstly..he will only sleep in your bed if you allow it..my son zakk in 2 in 5 weeks and he's never spent a single night in my bed because ive never given him the chance.
try giving him a bath every night just before he goes to bed and put some lavender and chamomile bubble bath in the water, it will wind him down and make him feel more relaxed.
when you put him to bed - in his bed..put on a calming cd on radio on quietly with a night light. sit with him whilst he has a nice warm bottle of milk and then tuck him into bed. if he cries dont worry, no harm can come to him. just leave him on his own and let him cry it out. he will get tired and i garantee after 10-15mins he'll be soundly asleep.
hope this helps. good luck
xx

Bic - posted on 01/11/2010

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The first time he cries out for you maybe instead of putting him in your bed..just sit next to his bed...and stroke his head until he's calmed down a little..or I found with ours that all he wanted was some reassurance. Sometimes it only needed me to go in once for himto sleep, other times it needed me to go in 3 or 4 times to calm him down...but he would eventually fall asleep again. He could just want to be re-assured that you're there..hope that helps...oh alternatively we also ended up putting one of his favourite toys to bed with him..he chose which toy was going to be his bed toy.

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ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/13/2010

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i leave he's closet light on but now i'm thinking that might be why he wakes up cause before i started leaving the light on and close the door just a lil so he could have light he was doing fine he wouldn't wake up nothing like that.....but then i started giving him a night light then he can see everything in his room and wanna get out and play ......

ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/13/2010

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well he takes benadryl alonely in the summer cause he's allergic to bugs and gettin bit by one causes his body parts to get swollen....other then that i don't drug my baby........and i kno he won't sleep on the floor cause if i put him on the floor he's gonna think it's play time and he will never go to sleep ........also i can let him sleep in my room cause once he see the romote to the tv he turns the tv on so he could watch yo gabba gabba ......and it goes on and on and on........

ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes i have a routine with him that i been doing with him since he was born but now it seems like everytime i put him in bed at 8 pm everynight he seem to go to sleep but wakes up at 3,4,5 in the morning and wants to play........i don't know what to do .......he been doing this for about a month now ......and got use to his own routine ......but the only thing is i did stop using the calming bubble bath i use the lotion every night and that might be the problem cause when he was younger it seem to had knocked him rite out.....i can't let him cry his room is rite next to mine and it makes me feel like a bad mother plus i have the monitor on so it really gets loud between the walls and the monitor.....thanks for the advice i will try the bubble bath and see where it goes from there

Holly - posted on 01/12/2010

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When I had my daughter my mom told me to let her cry in her bed until she adjusts. You Should still check on her so often to make sure she was ok. It sounds mean but my daughter was sleeping through the night after 3 nights. This started at 2 1/2 months. Also a routine was very important, bath, bottle , bed was how I did it. My daughter is now 3 years she is in bed at 8 and up by 7. Weekends I let her stay up a little later. A couple times she wanted to sleep in our bed. But i did't want that routine to continue so i stopped that. Did you ever watch the Supernanny. Parents go through a couple sleepless nights, but then it was better. I really think you just have to force it and go through a few really bad nights or you will continue to have problems.

Kimberly - posted on 01/11/2010

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we put a sleepiong bag on the floor next to our bed and put our girls on that, something a little less permanant than the mattress. My kids were just a little older though, but eventually when they were getting out of bed on their own they would just go straight to the sleeping bag, crawl in it and go back to sleep. I always started them in their own bed though. As they get older and you can reason with them a little more, you work them back into their own bed. both of my girls sleep perfectly fine through the night now with no issues.

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Benadryl? To get your child to sleep? That's horrifying!!!

Antoinette, why don't you try putting a mattress on the floor of your bedroom. That way he can still feel safe and attached to you (he's obviously needing that at night), but you can still have your own space.

Satori - posted on 01/10/2010

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I've slipped into this also with my second child because I am just so tired. I know from my first child that you have to just keep putting him back in his own bed and eventually he won't think it's worth his wild to get up in the middle of the night anymore. Until he gets used to it, unfortunately it means restless nights for the two of you.

Audrey - posted on 01/09/2010

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i agree with you that he will want to be rocked and look forward to it. cause i am also trying to wean wyatt off the rocking thing. i did everything but the rocking with him tonight like i said before. so i just layed him in his bed and patted his bum for 5 mins and then just left my hand on his bum for another 5 mins and then took it off and stayed in the room a little away from his crib and when he woke up and started to cry i said its night night wyatt lay down then if he did it again id say night time if he did it again i rub his back for 5 mins it did this for about an hour or so and then he finally fell asleep he really only cried in that hour maybe about 20 mins off and on never a straight 20 mins. i finally could leave the room when he was a little bit awake but enough asleep that my cough ( cause i am sick) didnt make him wake up and sit up. i hope this might help you as well but its tuff not doing the crying it out thing. it takes more work but i think that if i continue on this eventually i can make it shorter and shorter for him to learn to sleep on his own. i have been doing this for about 2 nights now and it seems to be working.

Audrey - posted on 01/09/2010

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i agree with you that he will want to be rocked and look forward to it. cause i am also trying to wean wyatt off the rocking thing. i did everything but the rocking with him tonight like i said before. so i just layed him in his bed and patted his bum for 5 mins and then just left my hand on his bum for another 5 mins and then took it off and stayed in the room a little away from his crib and when he woke up and started to cry i said its night night wyatt lay down then if he did it again id say night time if he did it again i rub his back for 5 mins it did this for about an hour or so and then he finally fell asleep he really only cried in that hour maybe about 20 mins off and on never a straight 20 mins. i finally could leave the room when he was a little bit awake but enough asleep that my cough ( cause i am sick) didnt make him wake up and sit up. i hope this might help you as well but its tuff not doing the crying it out thing. it takes more work but i think that if i continue on this eventually i can make it shorter and shorter for him to learn to sleep on his own. i have been doing this for about 2 nights now and it seems to be working.

ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/09/2010

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I HAVE A ROUTINE FOR MY SON TO LIKE U SAID BATH LTION JAMMIES THEN TEETH.....HE WAKES UP THE SAME TIME IN THE MORNING AND GOES TO BED AT THE SAME TIME AT NIGHT.......I DON'T LIKE TO LET HIM CRY EITHER I TRIED ONCE DIDN'T WORK HE CRIED FOR 45 MINS I CAN'T DO IT......HE'S NOT TEETHING HE HAS ALL HIS TEETH "THANK GOD" AND HE'S ALMOST 2 YRS OLD HE'S A YR AND A HALF NOW I JUST THINK HE'S TOO BIG TO BE GETTING ROCKED ALL THE TIME CAUSE THATS WHAT HE REALLY WANTS.....IF I KEEP WITH IT EVERYNIGHT THEN HE GONNA LOOK FORWARD TO BEING ROCKED .....I STILL DO IT NOW BUT I WANT HIM TO LEARN HOW TO FALL ASLEEP ON HIS OWN AND STAY ASLEEP

ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/09/2010

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he sleep in his room for naps.........and if i let him cry he will cry all night i tried it all he won't give in and just go to bed........

Audrey - posted on 01/09/2010

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my son goes on and off like that with me as well. he is now 14 months and what i have come to discover is that if he is teething he will wake up after alittle while and want to sleep with me. i will go in and rock him back to sleep then put him in his crib after 15 mins of rocking then i will pat his bum for a few mins and then do nothing but sit in his room with out talking or patting for a few more mins and he will go back to sleep. i dont like to do the letting them cry it out. so i do that and i also put him to sleep at the same time everynight have the same rotine bath brush teeth lotion put jammies on sleep. which makes it easier. also if he does wake up after i do the pat the bum thing. i say to him Wyatt lay back down and go to sleep sometimes i have to do that a few times but he will sleep. its hard to have to contine to keep doing this but he will get back into the habit and then fall and stay asleep for a few months but once he gets out of the habit i just keep doing the same thing over and over. he such a mommas boy that he wants to be with me all the time. including sleep time.

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same thing is going on with me and my one yr old daughter, she's 16 months old right now. I love her sleeping with me but she needs to learn to sleep on her own :/

Amanda - posted on 01/09/2010

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I would stop that as soon as you can! Let h cry hmelf to sleep, I know It sucks but you dont him sleeping with you hen hes 3, thats what mine does now hewill sleep about 2 hrs then get up and crawl in bed with us......Does he sleep in his room for naps?

Heather - posted on 01/08/2010

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My son did the EXACT same thing! I just resolved to putting a cd player in his room, with a very soothing cd, laid him in his bed and let him cry it out. I also went to the health food store and bought some Calms Forte for children. It's 100% safe, tastes good, and it is made to calm children down and prepare them for bed. (It worked like a charm) It was really hard, but after about a week, he was sleeping in his bed every night. That was a year and a half ago.

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Well I have the same issue and then some with my 9 month old. She is in the room with my husband and I. As soon as I put her to sleep and put her in her crib she wakes right up...........to sleep in the bed with us. Also she does not go to sleep until 2 am. I spoke to her doctor about it and the doctor told us to wake her up early like 7 in the morning that way she will go to bed at 9pm. She said the kids need at least 9 hours of sleep. So maybe you need to get him sooooo tired that he won't care he's in his room just as long as he is sleep. My 3 year old played with my 9 month old and by the time 10:40pm came the baby was out cold..... Or you can try a small dose of Benadryl.

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