My 15 month old just had his 1st public outburst!

Lauren - posted on 04/07/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

6

9

1

How can I calm him down during a temper tantrum? He gets so frustrated

9 Comments

View replies by

Erin - posted on 04/24/2011

47

2

5

Welcome to the club of embarrassed parents! I took a screaming child home from the park a few days ago, he screamed all through the park, he screamed the half hour walk home and he sat outside the house screaming for another half an hour! He was actually mine if you were wondering!!! My advice is find a good 'happy place' to mentally remove yourself to, practice your Mona Lisa smile and cultivate a really good sense of humour!!!

[deleted account]

I ignore it most of the time. The only time I do something is in church and that is just taking her out and putting her in a time out in the narthex.

@Angela: My mom would do that to us when we would whine. It worked.

Kendra - posted on 04/20/2011

85

39

11

I agree, ignore it. Ignoring still working with my 25 month old son, and trust me... we have had our share of tantrums in public! They still come if he REALLY wants something, but if we ignore him they are relatively short and managable. I don't think people really look at you funny, I think they just feel for you. That's why I look at parents with kids that are throwing a tantrum. I also think to myself, glad that isn't me this morning (or afternoon, or whatever)

Angela - posted on 04/18/2011

44

20

3

I have to say, I always loved the advert where a mum responds to her son's supermarket tantrum by copying him and having one himself, and always thought that was a good idea! I can't say I do the full lying-on-the-floor tantrum, but when my daughter throws a manipulative tantrum (rather than a genuinely upset one) I tend to pretend to scream back at her, and she's then so busy laughing that she forgets all about having her tantrum! Obviously this won't work if she's genuinely frustrated; then I'd tend to state calmly but firmly that what she wants just isn't going to happen, and try to distract her.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2011

664

13

125

Ignore him. If you show embarassment he will pick up on it and it will continue. Just go about your business and continue your outting.

Deepti - posted on 04/09/2011

492

16

152

avoid using word no, instead change his mind, start talking to him something else which will divert his attention... use positive and gentle language and he will start reciprocating terrible twos is a difficult stage which needs care and tact both.. u can get more ideas and advice on:
http://perspectiveofdeepti.blogspot.com/...

Jennifer - posted on 04/08/2011

1,431

1

298

It's hard while in a public place, because of all the onlookers. Like the others said, ignoring is best, so I would always take my kids to a place where they couldn't see so many people paying attention. Those family bathrooms always worked the best. If the place we were at didn't have one, then I would take them into a bathroom stall, the car, or anywhere that we could get away, then I would just ignor them til the fit was over.

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2011

556

25

44

You are so lucky! My LO has been a fit thrower since before she turned a year! I agree with Louise, the more you ignore him (and make everyone else ignore him) the more likely he'll be to stop testing you. Kids are smart, they know when pushing your buttons is likely to get to their desired result. If you give in, even just once, all that will do is reinforce the bad behavior. My LO throws fits of epic proportion but she is throwing them less and less frequently as she is learning that she will not get any attention and will likely get a timeout.

Louise - posted on 04/08/2011

5,429

69

2322

Ignore it! Give him no eye contact at all and do not try and soothe him. Totally ignore the situation as much as you can. If you try and calm him down he will do it again and again because any attention is better than none. Try and stop these situations before they happen by reading his body language. Diversion therapy by giving him something else to think about is also good. With my daughter she did this twice and the second time I was very firm with her and told her to stop that silly noise which she did and has never got out of control again. (well so far)

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms