My 18 month old is hitting everyone but especially his big brother who is 41/2.

Stacy - posted on 07/29/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 4 year old does not hit the 18 month. How can I get him to stop? No does not help at all.

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Renee - posted on 08/01/2010

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My 2 year old was doing that and when he woudl get cranky at something say his toy we would hit the toy and say "not nice toy" it would solve hitting me when he was cranky this might help.

Stacy - posted on 08/01/2010

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The 4 year old is not taking toys from him. I am thinking time out is the way to go. Both are at a day care center. I asked his teacher if he does it at school and they say no.

Ericka - posted on 07/30/2010

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is the 4 yr old taking things away from the 18 month old? does the 18 month old always get the toy he wants even if the 4 yr old had it first? sometimes it is just how kids are and it is hard to stop but it may have been learned. kids are a lot smarter than we realize sometimes and if the little one realized by crying when he didnt get his way he got what he wanted he may have resorted to just hitting to get his way. if that is not the case maybe he is hitting because at daycare he sees other kids hit. it is hard to get them to stop unless you know where/how they learned it that is why i asked those things first. i know that some parents to not believe in spanking/capital punishment but if you are not one of those parents that is what i would say to do so that he understands that it hurts and that is why he cant do that. if you are not ok with capital punishment then do you have a time out chair? time out worked really well for my friend her daughter was really difficult and she put her in a place away from tv, toys other kids etc and set a timer. the timer didnt start until she was quiet and it was only for a minute or two depending on what bad thing she did. it seems harsh for such a young child so i would start with a shorter time. just make sure he is away from everyone in a place he cant hurt himself or get into toys. and the timer starts over if he comes out before it rings. tough but effective. I hope these ideas might help you deal and identify where he learned this behavior and good luck

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