My 2 Year old acts so bad in the store help!

Shylo - posted on 04/11/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i have a two year old daughter and everytime we go to the store so throws a fit crys and screams stands up in the basket i dont know what to do!

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Sonya - posted on 04/13/2010

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My issue is I have good trips to the store but when I go shopping the next time after my mother in law has had him he thinks he can get his way. My son is 19 months I've tried telling him in a way for him to understand and I've mention to my mother in law to work with me & she tells me that he seat but in the large basket of the cart & I can't get any grocery shopping that way..

Nancy - posted on 04/11/2010

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This is frustrating, but it worked with my son. My husband happened to be with us when I had to do this so it was easier. My son would act up and I would get down to his level and tell him to stop now. Big boys don't act like this and Mommy and Daddy will not accept this behavior. I told him if he did it again, he was going to the car with Daddy for quiet time. If he acted up again, my husband took him out. He would let him scream and get it all out and just sit calmly and make sure he didn't hurt himself. When Gabe calmed down he would explain why he was removed from the store, why the behavior was wrong and informed he could go back in if he was good but would be brought back out if he acted up again.

Brandi - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughter did this (only twice). Each time, I left the store (you HAVE to be willing to leave the store) and took her just outside. There, I had a STERN talk with her about proper store behavior. I told her that we sit quietly in the cart, explained to her that we were ONLY buying this or that NOT toys, candy, etc. I also explained to her that IF I had to remove her from the store again, we would be going home and we would not be finishing our shopping (and I MEANT it). Afterward, I made her apologize to me for her bad behavior while in the store and made her promise me that she would use appropriate behavior for the rest of our shopping trip. It worked BOTH times and I have NEVER had to remove her from a store again as she learned (in 2 times) that IF she chooses to misbehave, Mommy WILL choose to take her home and finish her shopping without her at another time. Your REALLY HAVE to be willing to abandon a cart (or even a whole shopping trip) to teach your kids HOW to behave in the store. This worked like a charm with my daughter and I have NEVER had to take my 2 year old son out of a store, as he follows sissy's lead. Good luck and you NEED to nip it in the bud now before it gets out of hand.

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Dawn - posted on 04/13/2010

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My issue is my almost 3 year old who WILL NOT sit cooperatively in the cart. She thinks she needs to be able to walk. When we try to let her walk she takes off too far, so back in the cart she goes, but she is screaming the whole way. I've just started letting her scream, but maybe just leaving the store at that point if she continues to scream is my best option? I've started not taking her to the store and leaving her home with daddy when I shop!

Brandi - posted on 04/11/2010

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Kirsty, I actually have never HAD to abandon my shopping. I only made sure my daughter knew that was the next step and that I was willing to try it at a later time without her. I found that a stern talking to in a new location (away from some of the temptations that a store offers for little ones) was all that was necessary. However, had she acted up again, I was fully willing to leave the store and try it again later. and I believe that she knew that I meant business. Plus, she LOVES to come shopping with me and always has, so she didn't want to jeopardize that chance.

Kirsty - posted on 04/11/2010

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totally agree with the nipping in the bud bit 2 year olds love pushing boundarys but i was always told never abandon what needs doing if its important like food shopping if it cant be done later just because the child doesnt like they need to learn that adults need to do things too but if ur way worked then i might just try that if there is a next time

Kirsty - posted on 04/11/2010

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also with me putting her over my shoulder she did calm down a walked nicely she only really messes about if i out with a friend she hasnt seen for while or if she picks up on the stress of being in a rush

Kirsty - posted on 04/11/2010

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i get down to my daughters level and tell her i dont like this behaviour and princesses are good girls that walk nicely with mummy and hold hands thats on a good day

however on a bad day i just pick her up put her over my shoulder n get the shopping does as fast as i can so either the shopping gets done if u leave child wins most kids hate shopping unless its for sweeties

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