my 2½ year old is still dependent on a binky... how do i take it away w/o breaking her heart?

Jessica - posted on 03/10/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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my daughter still takes her pacifier religiously. car rides, nap, bed time, play time... etc. i have to ask her to give it to me just so she'll take it out to talk! how do i break her of it completely without breaking her heart?

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Natasha - posted on 03/17/2010

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My twins are 2 1/2 and still use their dummies all the time - i should get strict but have not had the heart to yet. They don't seem to want to attach to anything else like a blankie or dollie - do you think they would if i took the dummies away. They need one to suck on and one to hold in their hand

Tiffany - posted on 03/17/2010

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Now is the perfect time! I don't know what comes first for you but if she has a birthday coming up tell her its time to give the passy to other little girls who don't have one. You can even go to you rnearest hospital and take her to the maternity ward to see the new babies and tel her see all those babies? They need passies too! Can you give Mommy your passies to give to all the little babies who need them? Then if she says yes take her home and take the passies (except that one you want to put with her baby book) put them in a plastic ziploc bag and when shes not looking after bed throw them away. It will be hard when ahe realizes its gone when she wants it again. But just comfort her with you best efforts and she will get through. Or you can use a holiday since easter is coming give them to the Easter bunny to take to the babies that need them. That is what we did. It worked for my son..hope it works for you. Good Luck

Tiffany - posted on 03/13/2010

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My oldest is 3 and she still has hers, but she only takes it at night. I have to keeps her busy playing and doin other stuff so she wouldnt think about it. But sooner or later if you stay on top of it shel tell you when she doesnt want it anymore. Or you can always suppstitute it like for a sucker or a popsicle.

Regina - posted on 03/12/2010

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my daughter only uses it to fall asleep...she's about to turn 3 so I know it's time for it to go. I told her that we have to leave it for the Easter bunny to give to a baby that needs it because he doesn't leave candy for babies. I keep remindng her about it so she knows it's getting coser....hoping that works.

Dana - posted on 03/12/2010

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we just cut off the end of the binky and our son decided on his own that it was yucky!!

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well we were having our house done, we had to stay in a hotel, ryley left it at the hotel and i wasnt gonna go back and get it at 1 am, theres really no way to take it away but u know u have to, its sad i know. sometimes i think it would be easy when hes cranky if he still had his but, u have to be strong and just throw it away, my husband and i never said the word paci again and we went to build a bear and stuck his last two pacis in the bear so we still have them, even though ryley doesnt know

Caroline - posted on 03/11/2010

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i made a thing of it with my eldest that if she left it out for Santa to take for his reindeers on christmas eve then she would get an extra present for being kind to the reindeer. It worked. Granted it's not Christmas but the easter bunny will be around soon!

Theresa - posted on 03/11/2010

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I had a foster child come live with us who was 3 1/2 and the same way. At first I only let her have it for sleep. As soon as she woke it went up on a shelf until the next time to sleep. After a couple weeks of this we went topjust at nighttime, no binki during nap. Then a couple more weeks and it went awway all together. She put it somewhere besides the spot we had been putting it, I saw it and took it away. At bedtime that night she looked for it and couldn't find it. I asked her if she had put it there that morning. She said no and that she didn't remember where she put it. I said it was lost then and there wouldn't be one anymore. That was the end of it. She didn't have a problem with it. She even has a 1 year old sister living with us too that had a binki and she didn't complain that her sister got one and she didn't. Sometimes they're more ready to give it up then we think, they just need that push.

Amber - posted on 03/11/2010

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Jessica,
I am going through this as well. Derek only has his paci at bedtime, but is constantly stealing his little brothers. This is my tricky part. However; Jake is starting to not want his has much so I will again, limit it to bedtime for the both of them.
I will probably have Derek throw his away and do the toy thing right around his birthday.

Maggie - posted on 03/11/2010

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start by limiting it to bedtime use only. When she wakes up it goes in a drawer or on top of the fridge then when it's bedtime again she can have it back.

Or you can do it the easy way and just take it away. She'll cry for a bit but have something fun for her to do to distract her. Then throw them all away so you aren't tempted to give it back.
It won't break her heart it will just upset her that she can't have what she wants. She's old enough to understand simple things so explain to her that she can't have it.

Ashley - posted on 03/10/2010

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there really is no way i just went through this with my daughters i caught them asleep and took from them and when they woke up they did not notice at first and when they started asking i told them that anouther baby needed a binky it was scared so it borrowed theres and it worked but that would still ask for it but with my sister-n-law she took her little girls and when she done it she had a binky be gone party and she fixed her a cake and got her present and done all the fun stuff you do at a party and at the end before they had cake she let her throw her binky in the trash and watch her take it out to the garbadge can and then they had the cake and she never did ask for hers back it worked really well for her i wish i would of thought of that with my girls hopes you find something that works good luck

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