My 25 month old is not eating and has crying fits when he doesnt get his way, what do I do?

Brittany - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I know my son is going through the terrible 2s but my son is not eating properly and I've never had this issue before. He's never been picky and always ate everything I gave him. Now I can only get him to eat chicken nuggets, fries, pizza crust, and a few little things and they arn't very healthy for him. Also, he's always having crying fits over things that dont go his way and he's constantly yelling "No!" What do I do?

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Anna - posted on 08/31/2009

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Don't turn it into a power struggle - it just makes it worse. I know a psychologist who says don't force them to eat, just cook whatever you normally cook for yourself and offer it to them. If they eat it, they eat it. If not, don't worry about it. They will eat when they are hungry. Don't go out of your way to prepare special meals or give him junk food.

Brittany - posted on 08/31/2009

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Yeah I will try that. I did watch this show on opera a while back with jerry seinfelds wife that came up with a recipe book for making kids favorite foods healthy and hiding vegies and stuff in it. I tried the time out chair today and it made me want to call super nanny. lol. He had fought and fought anf fought then eventually i had a very small break through. He realized I wasnt letting him up. Then again he acted up and so I put him back in the chair and set the timer in front of him on the table for him to watch and he wanted to play with it. I noticed he does well for the first minute but the last minute he tries to get up again. I've told him that if he gets up I'm going to add a little more time. So I really hope it works. I'm tired of pulling my hair out. He's been in terrible 2s since he was a year and a half.

Lucy - posted on 08/31/2009

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As far as the eating is concerned, get rid of all the unwanted food items so you are not tempted to give in (we ALL do it sometimes when we are tired!). Try to limit between meal snacks so that he is truly hungry at meal times and offer him choices. Giving him a choice for instance between green beans and strawberries gives him some control and begins teaching him to make healthy decisions for himself. As far as the tantrums, I'll kip the time out song and dance, I'm sure you've heard it and know how to do it. But when thats not working you can try this little trick. We have seven children and one of them was particularly given to tantrums ignoring didn't work time out was becoming a struggle, so one day I just layed down on the floor and had a good ole tantrum myself! It was hilarious! he immediately stopped looked at me like I was crazy. I stopped when he did, then he started back up again so I did as well! This went on for a few minutes and then he decided it wasn't worth and quit. I did this for about two weeks then suddenly no more tantrums!

Lareina - posted on 08/31/2009

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my son has his days where he picks at his food and doesn't seem to eat much, his doctor said not to worry about all toddlers go through it. we use time out for when he is throwing fits or hits his brother or sister. i sit him in the corner facing me while i sit on the couch or somewhere and we set the timer for 2 minutes and when he hears it go off then he can get out of time out, he still cries almost the whole 2 minutes but he knows what time out is now and he doesn't like it. he is on a kick right now where all he wants to eat is pizza lunchables if you was worried about veggies and stuff like that get him some v-8 juice the good flavored stuff that he will drink then you know at least hes getting veggies that way and i wouldn't stress over it he will change want he wants to eat again.

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Carolyn - posted on 09/09/2009

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If you can find the recipe book Deceptively delicious by Jessica Sienfield.....that is the book about how to hide veggies in everyday food. Like if you make mashed potatoes add some pureed cauliflower. Or pancakes add some pureed fruit like bananas. Just put some cut up fruit in a bowl with yogurt for dipping or veggies and dip and leave it where they can reach and nibble on. Make sweet potatoe fries.

The temper tantrums yeah I have that problem too with my son. I think I will try throwing one with him and see if that works

Danielle - posted on 09/09/2009

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my littie girl that that will not eat her food cus of the t.v she she dont like sweet corn all i do is put it with her dinner and give it her and she just start eating it its takes me hafe hour to get her to eat i just say ur not get any pudding in till ur dinner is gone and she then starts to eat her dinner then and my littie hes 4 and he still has them days were he will just what he own way all the time and if i dontgive in he will just cry all the time i just dont listen to him now and he has ago at me but i just put him one the stairs are in he room and than mate him say sorry and it dos work some time but that all the time

Emma - posted on 09/06/2009

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its definately not you, kids know what strings to pull, he knows he will get the bottle of milk, ive had all the guilty feelings, but keep at it , he will not starve. x

Hege - posted on 09/05/2009

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Thank you all for good advices,I try not to worry, but still I got this feeling inside that something aint right.My son are now 2,9 years of age and he don`t want to eat,but then again maybe it`s me,cause when he goes without food for maybe 5-6 ours I offer him a bottle of milk,and that one goes down,so come to think of it it`s probely me ;-)

Emma - posted on 09/05/2009

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My little boy is 2, he has good days and bad days, He will sit at the table for meals, and maybe only have a couple of mouth fulls, but I dont force him to eat, he loves yogurts and cheese, and bananas , so dont feel bad when he has a treat, kids will eat when their hungry.

Lara - posted on 09/02/2009

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You've gotten a lot of great advice, so far. Stephen does the same thing, but, luckily, he'll usuallly make up for it, by pigging out, the next day, lol.



Definitely keep trying, but try not to worry. You can't force him, after all, and he WILL eat, when he's hungry enough.



Letting him choose whether he wants broccoli or carrots, for example, might help. Giving the power to choose usually makes for less struggle. Good luck!!

Stacy - posted on 09/02/2009

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I've gone through these periods with both of my kids. Don't give up just keep offering healthy choices and be strong. I totally agree with the last post don't make yourself into a short order cook, eventually he will give in again and eat more balanced meals. He definately won't starve in the meantime. Just don't give into him or you will continue to have these problems. My sister's son is 6 and won't eat anything but hot dogs, chicken nuggets and cheese sandwiches because she wouldn't stand up to him. Its hard now but it will pass.

Krista - posted on 08/31/2009

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You can pretty much make ALL of that stuff healthy. Home made chicken nuggets with whole wheat crust on it. Sweet potato fries. Home made pizza. Also, your child won't starve himself. Once he realizes that YOU'RE the boss and he's going to go hungry if he doesn't at least TRY what you're giving him, he'll smarten up. As for the crying fits....ignore him. Don't give in. If you give in he thinks HE'S the boss and you start allowing him to walk all over you from the get go.

Brittany - posted on 08/31/2009

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I dont have the money to spend an arm and a leg on all organic foods and what not. I give him what I can. I dont give him a lot of unhealthy foods but it's not the best. If I could give him the best i would but I'm pretty sure everyone can vouche for me. I don't give in. My mother is the one who gives in. I like to give him little treats every now and then but generally he doesnt have sugar.

Lorie - posted on 08/31/2009

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Don't ever give him unhealthy food and Don't give in. Who cares how much he cries, he won't die from crying. I know its easier to give in but don't, you will have a good 2 weeks of fits then it should be over.

Brittany - posted on 08/31/2009

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lol i already know my son will get a kick out of it and laugh at me but i will try it.

Lareina - posted on 08/31/2009

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i forgot about doing that ( throwing a tantrum with them) LOL i did that with my daughter when she was little she hated it.

Brittany - posted on 08/31/2009

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thanks. I don't have too much of a problem with veggies normally its just getting him away from the toys to eat and just getting him to sit down. I have tried time outs before and he doesnt really listen. I'll just keep at it. I'll designate one of his chairs as a time out chair.

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