my 2yr old wont go to sleep on her own

Shannon - posted on 01/12/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hey im having problems with my almost two yer old. She started crawling out of her crib so I took down the side and made into a day bed. I never really left her to cry it out I always rocked her to sleep. I feel like i really messed myself up because now she always wants me to be with her whenever shes falling asleep. I try to just leave her but she gets out and fallows me until it gets to the point where i just go in until she goes asleep. Last night she woke up at around 2 and came into my husbands and I room and I ended up leaving and going to sleeping with her on her tiny mattress the rest of the night. I feel like i really messed up and ill be dealing with this forever. Any suggestions on what i should do? I know supernanny said to keep taking them back in but it gets tiring after the 100th time. Ive even tried standing at her door and talking to her while she closed her eyes but the second i walked away she came out. Help?

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Erin - posted on 01/13/2010

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You haven't done anything wrong, what an awesome start you have given her so far knowing that she has a mum who totally loves her, now you can help guide her to the next stage of independence! I second what Gillian says, it's a good technique to try! Just be patient and be confident with the parenting decisions you have made so far, you cant ruin your child by being a loving responsive mum and she obviously has been a kid who needs lots of cuddles, I have a boy like that. His older sister never needed me to be with her to go to sleep but he just seemed to.

Shannon - posted on 01/13/2010

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Thanks so much for your respons I will for sure have to try that. It sounds a lot better than what I was trying! Ill let you know how it goes!

Lady - posted on 01/13/2010

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don't beat yourself up about this we all do what we think is best as parents at the time and holding a little baby and rocking it to sleep is such a lovely thing to do i'm sure she enjoyed it as much as you did. this is fixable athough it may take some time and effort but it really is worth it in the end. what to do is you start sitting next to her bed as she falls asleep not touching and not interacting too much - if she talks you simply say sshh go to sleep - then once she learns to go to sleep that way you move a little further away then a little further still after a while you'll be at the door then out the door in the hall and still be able to hear her and she will know your there and you can still say sshh if you need to - eventually she will learn that she can go to sleep with out you and you'll be able to put her down and go back to the lounge or your own bed - i had to do this with my first son at about the same age and for the same reasons it took me about two months but after i never ever have had a problem with him going to sleep and he's 11 now - i hope this has helped good luck - by the way once you get to the door or the hall way i found the time went quicker if i read a book or a magazine!

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