My 3, almost 4 year old will not go to bed unless the ceiling light is on. We have tried several different nightlights and he is not happy with those. I have even let him go to sleep with the light on and then turned it off before I went to bed. In the middle of the night, he gets up to turn it back on. Help!


Hanan - posted on 01/07/2009




It's funny how much they change. My son used to sleep in the dark and now that he's 3 he always wants the light I let him sleep with the light on but when he falls alseep i turn it off and i put a night light close to his bed where he can get enough lighting but not bright!! and the odd times he'll wake up wanting the lights back on I explain that it will hurt his eyes i and show him the night took time but it worked!


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Louise - posted on 01/08/2009




My son who is also nearly 4 has exactly the same problem. We put him to bed leaving the landing light on and he insists we leave his door wide open. When we go to bed we then turn the landing light off. He has woken on occasion in the middle of the night crying and told me off because the landing light is not on!!!. I think until he is in night time training for the toilet I shall carry on with this ritual and then re-think the stratagy!! You could leave a bed side table light on with an 11 watt bulb in all night??

Tasha - posted on 01/07/2009




We brought our 3 yr old to pick out a lamp that we can put on at night. SHe picked it out, we put a dimmer bulb in it than the ceiling light has in it- when she wakes up there is enough light for her, but not soo much that she is wide awake.

Olivia - posted on 01/07/2009




Hey atleast he is sleeping :) It could be worse. I am sure it will pass...may not be worth the fight. Maybe put him to bed with a flashlight...if you have a surplus of batteries :) Good luck!

Karen - posted on 01/07/2009




Leave the light on for him. He'll outgrow it. He might be frightenend of the dark or have some other fear, the light is a comfort to him, so for now leave it on. As he gets older he should outgrow it.

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