My 3 year old son refuses to go in the potty. He understands that #1 and #2 go in the potty. He just waits until I put on a pull up or underwear to go. HELP ME! It's driving me bananas and I feel like he'll be wearing pull ups for the rest of his life.

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Theresa - posted on 10/28/2008

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SUREFIRE METHOD: My son was 3 1/2 and absolutely refused to sit on the potty. I would show him these great gifts and he wasn't interested in them at all once he leared he had to pee pee on the potty to get them. I was afraid he wouldn't be able to go to preschool which was starting in a matter of weeks. Then I got the best advice ever!!! I told him that the "potty fairy" was coming and talked it up for a few days about how great the "potty fairy" was. Then, when I knew I had a couple days in a row where we didn't have to go out, I waited for him to wake up one morning and came in his room all excited. I told him the potty fairy had left him a whole basket of gifts! The difference was this time I had wrapped the gifts. He was very curious abou thte gifts (which were just some dollar store items in a basket - many were the same ones he had rejected when he knew what they were, matchbox cars, fruit snacks shaped like tractors, etc.) He couldn't stand not knowing what they were. From that day on he was pee pee trained. He even pooped on the potty that day. I had to call my husband at work and tell the "potty fairy" to bring more wrapped gifts home to leave that night. The key is to leave him naked and leave the potty right where he is and don't give in until he has opened that first gift. His curiousity will be too much for him if the gifts are wrapped. Trust me. Good luck and let me know if you try this and it works. My son was completely trained within 1 week. Oh, and to get rid of the potty fairy you can tell him there is one final big gift at the end (my friend's kids got a playhouse) or have a potty party with his friends, etc. Be creative!

Stephanie - posted on 10/25/2008

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I just got my son potty trained a few months ago after 9 months of trying! I literally tried everything-making him wear underwear so he could feel the wetness, stickers, toy rewards, books, cheerios in the toilet, multiple potties, all of it. He was interested. It wasn't until I saw this "expert" on The Today Show that I finally found something that works: Here's link to some of what she says to do: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25057503/ I didn't do the "bootcamp" part, but I did make it his resposiblity and it worked within a couple of days. It's so nice to teach your child to tell YOU when s/he has to go.

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I have daughters so i have no idea how to potty train little boys!! However my mother in law had 3 boys and she said that she made little paper boats and put them in the toilet and the boys had to "sink the ship" she said it worked fast with all of them cuz they had so much fun peeing!!

Carli - posted on 10/28/2008

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Have you tried making him go without anything on his bottom? I don't know if you have the time to, but if you can, let him run around the house without his bottoms and he will go to the potty...he has no choice at that point. Be prepared though that he may have an accident on the carpet!

Stephanie - posted on 10/27/2008

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I did make him clean it up, whether it was on the carpet or tile floor. I made him change his own clothes and if he went #2, he had to put it in the toilet. Of course it usually ended up on the bathroom floor, but for the time being, I got rid of the rugs and if it went on the floor I gave him a baby wipe and he picked it up. I never let him see me go back after him and sanitize! : ) He didn't like all of the work so he started telling me when he had to go. It teaches them to listen to their own bodies and that it's about them, not you. Its so nice never asking (a thousand times a day) Do you have to potty?

Jennifer - posted on 10/27/2008

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Try going on Amazon.com and looking up the DVD "Potty Power". It is a great DVD for teaching to go on the potty. My son is potty trained, but he still asks to watch the movie.

Trina - posted on 10/27/2008

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with my son it took three days for him to go on the potty but i did it like my grama did and that was no pull ups no nothing just undies and he really didnt like not being aloud on the couch so he learnt how to go on the potty but if you are doing it this way because he might hold it longer then he should keep some cran juice on hand in case he get a blader infection and this is common at this age because of potty training half and half works wonderful and it will make him pee more

Cathy - posted on 10/27/2008

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leave him naked for awhile and try just undies or just pullups. Try giving a great big high five. Or a sticker something like that try having aim for a cheerio in the toilet.

Melissa - posted on 10/25/2008

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dont put him in any undies let him go without and check him every little while if you have a friend that has a boy your sons age that is potty trained that helps too or even if it is older that works too that is how my son finally got potty trained and he is 2 1/2

Jaymie - posted on 10/25/2008

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Stephanie Wells-Herdel did you make her clean up her own mess?? I think I'll try this! thanks 4 sharing!!

Vicki - posted on 10/24/2008

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my son dylan he is 20 months and is showing more of a interest in the toilet than the potty.mayb using the toilet might suit him better cause he see's mum and dad usin it. somtimes sticker charts help aswell.

Jaymie - posted on 10/24/2008

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Tanya my son is 3 too and he won't go potty either. Boys are so hard!!!
I hope it gets easier and your son just clicks and starts for ya!!!!
I'm reading everyones posts as well...sorry I don't have any advice!

Christina - posted on 10/22/2008

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i am having this same problem. my little couldn't care less about using the big boy potty. however, i put him undies at home so that when he can feel if he's wet better. this has helped, but now if he has on a pullup, he goes in it, but if he's wearing the undies he'll hold it! i think it must be a boy thing!

Cheryl - posted on 10/21/2008

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Give him the choice between going on the big potty or the little potty. Say that is where he needs to go and not in his undies. Big boys keep the undies clean. There are also potty books out there that are good to have in the bathroom to read. (a good book with lots of great ideas is potty training for dummies) I have that book. Mostly it takes you being calm, don't stress I knew a little boy who just potty trained and he is 4 in a month. Keep up the good work.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/21/2008

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hey tanya ... it's cleary. i will send you a message with my phone number. i may have some suggestions ,,, just want to hear more first.

Meghan - posted on 10/20/2008

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i just recently (meaning last week or two) got my daughter to go potty all the time. At first she did the same thing. I know its gross and it sounds mean, but when i asked her if she had to potty, she would say no, and then she would go. If she doesnt go than she wets her pants and she started to not like that feeling, so she realized that she needed to use the big girl potty. Now she hates wetting herself, so she goes to big girl! For boys though i heard that if you put food coloring or chereos in the toilet for them to aim at it makes it like a game for them, and theyll like doing it.

Melissa - posted on 10/20/2008

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do not switch between undies and pullups it is just too confusing reward him with something small like 1 m&m for #1 and 2 m&m for #2 slowly but surely he will get it and let him dicide when he is ready and if you have any friends with boys his age that helps too because they want to be like the big boys!

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