my 3 yr old keeps waking in night and coming into are bed HELP!

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My 3 yr old had a nightmare about 2 wks ago and wouldn't sleep in his own bed.

After nights of screaming we managed to get him in his bed with us sleeping next to him, now we have to stand outside his bedroom till he falls asleep.

He also is waking at midnight and will have to go through the same routine again, once he is asleep he will then wake about 2-3 and come into are bed by then we are to tired to go through the same thing again.

Any tips anyone has on my problem would be greatfully recieved! x


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Karen - posted on 09/07/2009




I have a three year old that does the same thing. When I hear him coming I head him off and walk him back to his bed. I tell him that mummy doesn't want him in her bed because he keeps me awake. I stay with him for a couple of minutes after I tuck him in tightly, and he goes back to sleep. I believe that he will grow out of it soon, just as the other two did. Especially when he is at kinda 3 times a week next year, he wont have the energy to get up at night any more.

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thank you both for your comments they have help me feel better about letting him sleep with us. will try both ideas given. x

Anna - posted on 09/03/2009




Kids can suffer from separation anxiety until they are about 5 years old. He just needs to be close to you. What about just letting him sleep with you until he's ready to go back to his own room? Or putting a bed for him in your room, if you can fit it, so he can be close. I have heard of mothers making a tape for their kids to play, recording their own voices reading stories so if he wakes frightened in the night he can play the tape. He is not trying to drive you crazy - he really needs you so don't worry about spoiling him. Give him the comfort he needs. Little kids haven't developed the parts of their brains that allow them to calm themselves - they really need you to do it for them.

Stacey - posted on 09/03/2009




not sure if this is a tip but my children slept with me until they were about 3 how ever i have a 5 year old that does the same wakes with dreams it helps to talk to your 3 year old find out the dream was about and to reasure them about the dream its hard mine wake me 3-4 times a night but talking about it helps xxx

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