my 3 yr old son is coming into our room at night and doesn't want to sleep in his own bed.

Kim - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




We just had a baby girl, so this might be part of the issue. Will this last for awhile? Any suggestions to help him?


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Laura - posted on 09/24/2009




All of my kids start off in their beds at night and inevitably 1 or 2 of them will make their way into our room at night. I personally dont have a problem with this, partly b/c we have to wake up so early and I'm just too tired to get up and take them back. I also like to cuddle with them (they fall right back to sleep when they get in our bed) I figure this is not going to be a lasting phase for them---I dont know of any pre-teens who still sleep in their parents beds LOL so I figure I might as well enjoy it while I can! (just my opinion) I can see where it would be an issue if he is coming in your room and playing around, not falling asleep, or keeping you awake (also if you have your newborn daughter in the room--or in the bed w/ you that is def. a saftey concern) So in that case I would do just what Andrea suggested and take him back to his own bed---the key to this is be CONSISTENT with it, once you start returning him to his room (and he will fight you on this) you have to follow through every time, if you give in once or twice he will only fight you that much harder the next time around! Once he reliezes that you mean business (and it may take a while, and number of sleepless nights for you) then he will learn to sleep through the night on his own.) You might want to consider changing his bedtime routine a little bit as well (letting him stay up an extra 15-30 minutes and give him 1:1 time before bed w/o his sister around)

Andrea - posted on 09/24/2009




Welcome to the club!!! LOL Well when my son crawls into my bed i get up and walk him into his bed lay with him then leave him as soon as he knocks out. At first my son will fight with me cry b/c i would leave him but now its smoother. It seems he crawls into our bed just to see if we will give in b/c I'm almost certain he knows to expect being put back into his bed. This has been going on for a month now and although its common i can proudly say this scenario doesn't happen every night. It's one of those things you have to stick to and don't let up on. Good luck you may need patience for this.

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