my 3yrs old wont' poop on the potty and holds it until bedtime then she poops in her sleep.

Angela - posted on 01/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How can I get my 3yrs old to start to poop on the potty(toliet). We have tried treats, bribes and se still wont' go. Any suggestions?

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April - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hello there. My daughter does exactly the same and I was worried it may just be exclusive to us!! She tells me throughout the day that she needs a wee wee and she's happy to do this on the toilet or the potty. I was wondering whether it was just her body clock - that maybe her bowels seem to only want move at a certain time in the evening. She has done a poo on the toilet before (about once or twice since August last year when she first started potty training) and we really praised and encouraged it, but nothing since. I try not to worry too much as she still wears a nappy during the night anyway and I always change the soiled one before I go to bed (she has normally done the poo before that time). If you do find a solution, i'd be grateful if you could share it with me! Good luck.

Angela - posted on 01/20/2009

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She is not afraid of the toliet...I have started to encourage her to try to poop after dinner.  I think this might be a phase. Thanks for the suggestions

Tiffany - posted on 01/19/2009

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Well when my eldest son did this I made him try to go to the potty before bath time everynight! If there is something he/she like alot tell them they have to go before the activity. It worked for my son

Brenda - posted on 01/18/2009

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Is she afraid to go on the toilet?  A lot of kids have an irrational fear of pooping on the toilet because they feel like its a part of them going down it.  This, unfortunately, is something very difficult to disuade.



Have you tried having a "potty party" before bed? If she will sit on the toilet or potty before bed, sit in there with her and read and play while she sits there to see if her bowel will move once she feels relaxed.  She may be extremely anxious about it, causing her to hold it until she relaxes in her sleep.



The other option is to simply wait it out.  It is most likely just a phase that will pass once she gets over her fear/anxiety.  I know it is kind of messy, but you may try putting her in overnight pullups/good nights, whatever works for you, at nighttime until she's ready to start using the potty.  It could be just something she has to get past.  It will take lots of encouragment and talking about it.  I'd try getting something extra special, with boys like hot wheels cars or something similar for a girl, that is just for going number two in the potty.  But make it something out of the ordinary that she can strive for.  Reiterating how she's a big girl and big girls go poop on the potty is something that will eventually set in, but it really just sounds like she's very anxious about it, other wise she wouldn't wait until she was sleeping to go.

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