My 4 yrs. old is telling lies, how can I make him change that bad habit

Vivian - posted on 01/25/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I always thought that his stories were cute and that he had a great imagination, but last week he told his preschool teacher that I took a knife to open his chin because i wanted to see his blood and take the Aliens out of him, the teacher called me right a way and asked me about the real story, since then I keep telling him to stop lying, that lies are not good and that we have to tell the truth, but he always tell stories.

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Vivian - posted on 01/30/2009

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Hang in there like LIsa said...pray about and ask God to control your son's imagination or to help him to tell the truth, that way u will always know when something is true that he tells u. I think all kids go through that stage, but u want to nip it in the bud now before it gets worse!!

Lisa - posted on 01/25/2009

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My nearly 4 year old was starting to lie as well.  After one story he told I sat him down and talked to him about stories and truth.  I told him that sometimes it is fun to tell funny stories but it is very important that we tell the truth so that people know that they can believe us.  Then I had to be sure to  catch as many of his lies as possible and talk to him about them, no matter how busy I was as well as recognizing and making over him when he told the truth.  I would also try to be sure to ask him every now and then to tell me a funny story.  I didn't want to squash his imagination, but I did want him to know the difference between a story and the truth.  If he was telling a lie to get himself out of trouble I would sit down and talk to him about those as well.  I told him that he would not get in as much trouble if he told the truth.  He would still be in trouble but the consequence would not be as severe as if he choose to continue lying.  Eventually, the fun of lying wore off and our extra creative stories are to a minimum.  I hope this helps.  Hang in there!  

Vivian - posted on 01/25/2009

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He has a 9 yrs. old brother that likes all types of Sci-fi movies and video games, I know his big brother is a big influence for the little one so, what i try to do is to during the morning that he is in the house  I put shows like Sesame Street, curious George and he is allow to play video games that are appropriate for his age.



What do you think I am doing wrong?

Vivian - posted on 01/25/2009

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Quoting Vivian:  What is he warching on TV?  What do you read to him?  Is he around other children who tell stories and he picks it up from them?

My 4 yrs. old is telling lies, how can I make him change that bad habit

I always thought that his stories were cute and that he had a great imagination, but last week he told his preschool teacher that I took a knife to open his chin because i wanted to see his blood and take the Aliens out of him, the teacher called me right a way and asked me about the real story, since then I keep telling him to stop lying, that lies are not good and that we have to tell the truth, but he always tell stories.


 

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