My 4yr old daughter is a horror

Rachel - posted on 11/23/2008 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter never seems 2 listen 2 ne thin she is so bossy an has a nasty attatude.iv tryed every thin but she dosnt seem bothered.

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Myrtis - posted on 01/31/2011

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Attention is the currency of childhood.

If you want her to behave a certain way, pay attention to it, if you want her to stop, give yourself a time out and remove all attention from her. Naturally I am talking about annoying behavior like bossiness and not about potentially dangerous behavior, that needs immediate attention.

Keep in mind that although everyone warns us about terrible twos I actually found 4 to be a much more difficult age.

Let us know how things go, and good luck!

Lorilee - posted on 11/23/2008

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My daughter's behavior was out of control. I went to our local school to seek help. Through observations of her behavior the special education department was well on their way to diagnosing her as EBD Emotional/ Behavioral Disorder. I was a teacher and I know how determental this label would be to her socially and educationally so I started reading everything I could get my hands on. I came across a book called The Ritalin Free Child, there was a chapter about food that changed everything. Honest to God, saved my daughter from a label and literally changed her behavior overnight!! The school psychologist and special ed teacher were amazed at the difference changing her diet changed her behavior. We banned all artificial colors, flavors and preservatives from her diet, no nitrates and no sacchirine. We started here and expanded into the Feingold Diet (google it). I discovered my daughter has an allergy (actually a pharmacutical reaction which means these things are actually drugs). This may work for your daughter or maybe she has some other kind of allergy. My daughter literally snapped out of her negative behavior when I read every label and thought about what she was eating, like she can't have strawberry preserves (makes her uncontrollably hyper) but can have strawberries.

Also read and own "Parenting with Dignity" by ____ Bledsoe. I have read a ton of parenting books but this is the only great one!! Read it and your eyes will be opened to what messages you are sending your child and how to say what you really want to say.

Rachel - posted on 11/23/2008

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Thanks so much iwill give it a try. she brill in school iv found aswel if iv had a bad day or an argument with my younger childrens dad she will draw on smethin or do smethin bad for eg she cut her hair 2day.

Angela - posted on 11/23/2008

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I have had that happen to me when I ignore one of my kids, and they are gone but what I started doing if they disappear and nothing works then I just leave. I know it sounds harsh especially if you spent a long time in the store and you just leave the stuff that you have to get but believe me it works! I have 3 boys ages 6, 5, and 2 years old and when we go to a store I tell all of them that they need to be good or we will leave and they listen and I have no problems. For me especially since I have 3 kids it sucks to just leave but it will only take a couple of times for them to learn.

Lena - posted on 11/23/2008

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hi, i have a 3 and a half year old son and he is exactly the same. he is bril when he is home with me n his own but its generally when we are out shopping! its so embarrassing. he says he hates mme and hits me he shouts at me and the more you tell him off the worse he gets!! i do the ignoring tactic but i find if i just go about my business hes gone!!

Angela - posted on 11/23/2008

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Try the ignoring tactic. If she does something wrong sit her in timeout and tell her why she is in time out. If she keeps getting up then keep putting her back, it may take a lot of times but it will eventually work. If she talks back just ignore her and act like you don't hear her and go about your business. That makes them very mad and they eventually will say they are sorry. My 5 year old son is like this and this has worked! Good Luck

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